Andi has broken a few barriers that were holding her back, but now I completely understand why that was.
My Andi runs a painting, waterproofing, construction business with her business partner whom they have worked together for over ten years now. Andi was outed by her business partner and subsequent visits from a government department to job sites to just "have a chat"
I often asked Andi why do you repress yourself at work so much, But from the crap she got from former employees after leaving I could see that she did it to protect herself and me from abuse.
However things have changed now, Andi is openly dressing as she feels, not in dresses or heels mind you that would not be practical for climbing scaffolding but today she is wearing her three quarter pants and nice t shirt and this amazing light hoody which I am so jealous I didn't pick it up first with her red converse shoes. She feels better how she is dressed and how she feels about work and even finally had both her ears pierced with cute blue studs on Friday.
She spoke to me on Sunday night about how hard work had been, she is surrounded by old attitude people who are so full of ignorance its not funny. She told me that she had to think about our family as a whole before herself and that was sometimes extremely difficult, I asked her what that meant and she said If I were to go to work and try and get contracts and not look 100% female or male then I would not get the contract, nor would we get anymore work, that would flow on to my staffs families not having an income and would be extremely selfish of me.
So why the change now I asked, Well I have made my contacts and we have good people now who know Andi and never knew my previous self. The contractors I employ only care if I can pay them (young enough) and Mike and myself thought its time, since my operations are coming up that I was a bit happier in how I felt at work.
So Wow, I really appreciate what Andi has done for us as a family but never really understood until last night how much she has given up for us to make sure we were OK and that everything went smoothly.
I guess I'm just happy that Andi is a tad happier and more expressive in herself, not only at hometime but now the whole time.
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