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I'm at breaking point

Started by Jayne, February 08, 2013, 02:37:42 PM

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Jayne

Most of the people who know me think i'm one of the most patient people they know but my patience has left me & now i'm at breaking point.
A letter was sent to my GP 2 months ago from the gender clinic asking them to request funding for my electrolysis, on monday I found out they have not sent the request, I spoke to the practice manager & he told me the letter had not been sent to them, I advised him that every letter sent out by the GIC over the last 2 years has reached it's destination so the mistake must have been with his practice which i've only been with for 3 months.
The managers response was "if you're not happy with the service you're welcome to find another practice"!!!!!

When I asked why they've had my deed poll for 2 months & not taken action on changing my name he said they didn't know how to proceed as "they've not had a case like me before", when I went in on monday & pointed out that I would take civil action if they did not sort this out they had an answer within minutes so this BS about not knowing what to do in my case is a complete load of. . . . . .
They have fobbed me off by saying that I have to write to the PCT but every website says that for changing your name on the NHS you simply need to supply your deed poll & it's the GP's responsibility to make the alterations.
Does anyone know exactly what the ruling is with the NHS regarding name changes, it seems that because i'm trans I have to jump through extra hoops for something that should be simple.

I'm going to enquire about making an official complaint about the sloppy administration at this practice & the awful, uncaring attitude of the practice manager, since I came out i've had problems with every surgery not knowing how to deal with trans issues, this includes such things as hormone blood tests, name change & requests for funding, this will all feature heavily in my complaint as i'm fed up with having to battle the ignorance of receptionists & gp's, it's not my job to educate medical staff on medical matters!!
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spacial

You're beign messed around by the Practice Manager. It is completely unacceptable.

But you MUST do the following.

Stay calm. Don't try to raise the matter further, at least verbally. If you need to see your GP for any other reason, do so without any reference to this problem.

Do not move your GP at this time. If you are struck off accept that and see what the new practice is like.

Follow the guidelines on this site: http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1083.aspx?CategoryID=68

If necessary and possible, get some support from a local LGBT office.

But remember, these people are almost always assumed to be in the right, not because they are but because they are just too powerful.
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Jayne

Thanks for the link, I will be making a complaint about this managers attitude as at the start of my phone conversation I explained that i'd found out about this problem as i'd just been in to see my GP about my depression, considering that had been mentioned i'm disgusted by his response.
I explained that i've been told I need to be full time by my next appointment & this 2 month delay means that is now impossible, i'm so scared i'll be told I'll have to wait another 9 months to start HRT that I spent 3 hrs that night crying myself to sleep & have had random bursts of tears ever since.
 
My main reason for complaining will be to highlight the fact that out of 3 surgeries in the last 2 years not one has had the slightest clue about dealing with trans issues, either Bristols PCT is failing trans patients through a complete absence of training or this may be a problem for NHS patients up & down the country, whichever one it is it needs to be corrected

Ignorance is no defence in law & certainly shouldn't be used as a defence or excuse in any medical issues
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spacial

I suspect it's a combination.

They probably have very little experience, though that will be because they refuse to attend training sessions.

They probably believe, that the expense of referring patients is unjustified. That the problem is largely vanity. That most of 'these people' will simply go away if they are ignored. And they can save money.

There are probably quite a number of other people with gender identity problems, who have already been turned away.

You need information on the realities of transgender. That means statistics and not simply anecdotal references and defiantely nothing American. (Sorry to our American friends, but their health service is not taken particularly seriously in these matters). There are many sources in the UK. But web references are not usually much help since these people are trying to be obstinate, they can still claim they don't use the web. Total lie of course, but if honesty were important, there would be no need for checks.

So, you need stuff you can cite. NHS resources are mostly online, though rather patronising at times. These can be printed out and are very legitimate. Also, try can contact some transgender groups in your area, the local LGBT organisation should know.

You will need to remain very calm. If you get fed up, if you get depressed. If you feel you just want to get a huge gun and blast them all to whatever, walk away. This is a matter for cool head.

If you decide to run off and try another health board, then you will be starting from scratch, you have no guarantee it will be any different and you will be letting down your transgender brothers and sisters, each of who has an absolute right to be treated like humans.
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babz

HI Jayne, I am not surprised at your Frustration I myself have many Run In's at My GP's   for years They Changed my Name & Gender Marker long before I changed My name by Deed Poll so there Is no Excuse, I have found some other Documents that may help you & your GP's Practice They are as Follows

http://www.qahc.org.au/files/shared/docs/GP_trans_UK.pdf
GIRES also has a doc as  ( trans-rights gires Pdf  )

I am Myself post op In the UK  I live In Sussex I will give you my Email Address If I can be of further Help do not Hesitate. You are not Alone there Is plenty of Support
         babz1462@gmail.com
Best Regards Babz


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