Just getting used to this all.

[Viking]

Hello everyone, I'm Viking. I've been lurking as a guest for a little while now and I need some help with coming out. But I suppose I should start by saying I've only just came out to myself and started accepting this all about a month or two ago, and been trying to get the courage up to tell atleast one of my close friends, but I live in a more... uncivil part of Florida and I know alot of people around here who make a game of beating anyone who isn't 'normal' in their eyes and I'm nervous about telling anyone. So does anyone have any tips to get it out a little more passive? Granted they all know me as the quiet one who keeps over sized clothes and long hair, which gets me a bit of teasing, but I'm scared about saying anything about this. Also since I feel someone here is going to mention my name, I've always had the nickname Viking, and I still like having despite it having a more male overtone to it.

Adding this on a little while after posting, but if anyone has tips to give me just for looks or getting a more feminine body without hormones and not terribly much make up, can't get my hands on much nobody here uses it to a good extent, or anything of the sort I would be very appreciative of it.

[FreshGuy]

Hey, I've got a couple of questions for you.

What was it like for you before you accepted it?

How do you feel know you have accepted it?

Thanks 

[Viking]

Hey, I've got a couple of questions for you.

What was it like for you before you accepted it?

How do you feel know you have accepted it?

Thanks 

Well I've always been pretty out of place as is, and I've alwalys been more comfortable with other girls around here and as a kid I never really liked the things my dad tried to get me into, you know cars, sports, and other stuff. Never really got into it. And as for how I feel, I thought about it for a long while before hand, I first started considering it about half way into 2012 and sure I felt like it kinda fitted me but I tried to pass it to coincidence but the feeling kept coming back that I was out of place with who I am, not from friends really they've all accepted fine, if a bit posh. I'm sorry if I'm not very clear on it I'm not good at explaining feelings considering I grew up where the only emotion I am allowed to show is pissed off or elated so not very good at showing much beyond that.

[Bexi]

Hey,

Congratulations on being true to yourself and taking control of your life.

Transitioning is - for most cases - slow and gradual. Its not like suddenly switching on a switch and suddenly becoming a woman. Some people choose to present male whilst transitioning in stealth which could be useful if you feel your present circumstances could cause you difficulties. Your choice of style helps here - as baggy clothes can help disguise your figure and the already long hair won't be an issue.

Before telling anyone, I'd make certain I was comfortable with them knowing and also trust them from outing you to "undesirables" (i.e the people around you who you think will make your life a misery). As for telling them, just sit them down, explain your current feelings and convey why you need to transition. If they are truly a good friend, they'll accept you and know that your happiness is most important.

And don't worry about the name 'Viking'! There were female vikings too, and there ain't nothing wrong with being a bit of a tomboy!

Anyway, I hope you find some answers here, and wish you all the best in your transition.

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