Quote from: JLT1 on February 14, 2013, 12:06:15 AM
I went to my doctors office for a refill of hormones and my check up. Most of the people seen in that office are trans and there are several doctors and psychologists so it was a BIG room, maybe 20 people. I came from work and was in guy mode - leather dress boots, dockers, shirt with collar, nice winter jacket. Underneath the shirt I was wearing a tight running shirt with a shelf bra (I'm 40D so hiding isn't easy). I was standing there, leaning against a wall because the waiting room is full and this guy walks in, stops and stares at me for a good five minutes. Then, he starts talking about my shoes, my legs and how sexy I look. Very aggressive talk and mannerisms and he kept getting closer. I answered the first couple questions and then I realised what he was doing (the sexy thing was a clue). I was stunned. I was frightened for a couple seconds. He kept talking and I have no clue what he said for the next period of time (I don't know how long, I was stunned) but he just kept getting closer. I like women. I don't have anything against men of any sexual orientation but I'm not interested in a sexual way. When he got about a foot away, I just closed gap between us, looked down at him and then walked away (I'm 6'1" and he was 5'10"). It was an aggressive move I made but he was really aggressive and it was the only thing I could think of doing. The waiting room, full of people, fell silent for the next fifteen minutes and I did get some uncomfortable looks so I did something wrong. When I left after the appointment, he was still in the waiting room and he looked at me like a crushed but hateful puppy. What did I do wrong and how can I handle this in the future?
I dont really think it fell silent as if you did something wrong but at to the
situation.you being involved was a reason enough for people to stare and wondering what just took place (this happens in public when something they know nothing about unfolds) depending on his actions as you stated he was aggressive,this can be took as almost being forced or *feeling* forced in a sense.Some men are very ignorant when it comes to flirting and feel that being over bearing is sexy/a turn on when it isnt.. So i cant speak on what you dealt with and saying if your actions were right or wrong.There are ways to be blunt but not cold or rude.From what you did tell us tho,if you only stood face to face then walked away,then im sure he took this as blunt but rude.Did you accept any compliments he gave before hand? was he vulgar with them and made you not wish to accept them? You can accept a compliment from someone you are not attracted to,this is a simple way to say thank
you.So because there are many things that only you know,I can only speak on MY experience or what i would do with such things.I would accept a compliment IF it was well given,not vulgar or sexual in nature.*Hey baby damn you look hot in those tight a** jeans,can i get inside* (no matter what the side may be) would not be one i would accept and walk away,with a
smile-yes.Words-no.As suggested yes,you could create a chat based on things you do find attractive like actress's.Lead him in the direction he needs to understand tho i do know there are and will be times you MUST be rude in return but always keep in mind that,it is best to know when those times are.If you ever feel threatened tho and uncomfy then make this known to them (something they say that is sexual,something they do like touching) but do so nicely,giving the chance for them to correct their mistake.
