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[tammygirl2]

a few months back i had told my mum about how i feel and that i want to be a girl i also plucked up the courage to tell my dad a few weeks ago and both my parents think that the reason i feel the way i do is becuase of the loss of my sister when i was only 1 and a half - two years old. My dad also said that there is nothing wrong with the way i am feeling he then went to on say that he thinks it has something to do with the loss of my sister and that he thinks that i would be trying to replace her and he told me he does not want that.
When after my dad telling me that it still does not change the way i feel.
It has left me in a bit of a predicament. I do believe that these feelings i have ,have nothing to do with the loss of my sister but what if my parents are right.

Could a child of 1-2 years old really be affected in such away by loss of a loved one?.

I do not know where to go from here all i know is that i need to get to the bottom of it all as it will not just go away on its own and i cant ignore my feelings i have tried that too many times now and it always comes back to the same thing me wanting to be fem.

[rhondabythebay]

IMHO, I think seeing a gender therapist would help you sort this out. Having your parents talk to a gender therapist could help too, their reaction seems like an attempt to understand how this could happen. Knowing ->-bleeped-<- isn't caused by some compensatory mental mechanism will stop the search for one.

Hugs,

Rhonda

[tammygirl2]

IMHO, I think seeing a gender therapist would help you sort this out. Having your parents talk to a gender therapist could help too, their reaction seems like an attempt to understand how this could happen. Knowing ->-bleeped-<- isn't caused by some compensatory mental mechanism will stop the search for one.

Hugs,

Rhonda

I went to see my gp today and i have to go back in 2 weeks time as my new gp said he will have to read up about transgender related stuff as he has not come across anyone with this issue so i have to go back in 2 weeks time to talk about it. Hopefully he will refer me to someone that can help.
I just cant ignore my feelings as it does not work.

[rhondabythebay]

I went to see my gp today and i have to go back in 2 weeks time as my new gp said he will have to read up about transgender related stuff as he has not come across anyone with this issue so i have to go back in 2 weeks time to talk about it. Hopefully he will refer me to someone that can help.
I just cant ignore my feelings as it does not work.

Yes I hope he can refer you to someone. My gp said he didn't know anything about it either. He referred me to a therapist and an endocrinologist. From all the posts I've read here, and my own experience, ignoring your feelings just doesn't work.

Hugs,

Rhonda