Came out to my mom...again

[Keira]

The first time I came out to my mom I didn't really explain how I felt and who I am...but last weekend she kept using masculine pronouns (etc.) and I lost it on her...I pretty much just made her realize that this is who I am and this isn't going away.

She still thinks I'm crazy or mislead..but I plan on giving her some info about trans people. It's basic and not technical...

The only problem is that I feel like she should be on here, talking to someone that can answer her questions (about Christianity and LGBT, misconceptions, and fears). But she has a paranoia about the Internet and that it is going to reveal her most intimate information just by her posting in a completely anonymous way.

Is there any way I can convince her to try out this forum?

Or is there any other way to help her through this besides informative websites?

[Jennygirl]

Gender therapists are excellent with this sort of thing to help you and family members alike, but if there's no therapist here are a few good articles that I showed my mom if you haven't seen em yet...

http://community.pflag.org/document.doc?id=495 (lots of other great pflag publications for families here)
http://web.uvic.ca/~ahdevor/14StagesBLOCK.pdf (helps if you highlight the parts that you connect with)

You could always try to get her to use this website, but honestly (at least for my mom) I didn't think it would help as much as just talking to her and educating her myself given my own specific situation. I did tell her about susans, too, and she was happy hearing about it but didn't seem that interested in using it herself.

However, I'm sure if your mum posted a thread here and had questions, the members of this forum would be MORE than willing to help answer her / provide peace of mind / support both of you in the kindest way possible.

Do what seems right at the time. Maybe just try showing her the forums as a way to reveal the vast layers of international support that we all have being trans*? If she seems interested in getting involved then sure it's a great idea!

[Keira]

Thank you for the pflag link. I am used to the Canadian pflag site, but it seems that the American site has more/better information.

I don't think she's taking it well. But at least she fully understands that I'm transgender and what that means.

It's interesting that you posted a link to the 14 stages paper, as I was thinking about using that as a resource.