Would you still be happy as a woman who doesn't get romantic attention?

[TerriT]

I would be very upset if I lose my current relationship. I don't really feel like ever having another one, and I don't crave any romantic attention from anyone else. But I do want to look pretty. Very much. I would like others to see me as pretty, and I guess that would generate a romantic reaction, but that's not my motivation.

[Tristan]

I'm not sure. Although this is something I did not even think about pre transition I must say. No I would not be happy. I mean I so get alot of male attention now with date offers and even some girl attention for the same. I don't think I could live without it to well.

[Angela???]

Yes I would be happy, at least I would be the true me! That is more important than romance.

I'm lucky though, my wife has no problem with me transitioning and will stay with me till death do we part!
So could I like without romance, yes, will I, NO!

Only difference for us is going form what people see as a hetrosexual relationship, to a Lesbian relationship!

Should make for some interesting looks and comments.

[Joanna Dark]

I'm not sure. Although this is something I did not even think about pre transition I must say. No I would not be happy. I mean I so get alot of male attention now with date offers and even some girl attention for the same. I don't think I could live without it to well.

ooh la la nice new pic you look gorgeous. i can sees why you get so much attention.

[Rabbit]

Eh, you kind of get used to being alone after a while.

[JennX]

Would I still be happy? Yes.

But my self-esteem and ego would, probably take a hit. Fortunately I have have no such issues, and get plenty of attention for my needs . I've been in a relationship with the same guy for the last 1.5 years. Met him while I was still preop too. So it depends a lot on the person, but I think everyone likes a little attention every now and then.
YMMV.

[Paige H]

I've come to accept being alone,it doesn't make me sad anymore it used to.I have enough interests and never enough time to do all I want.A romance would be nice if it happened but I just can't see it I'm not much of a drinker and don't really like bars and clubs.

Well, you do make me hopeful the pangs of envy will finally go away and I can just be all "meh" about the whole thing Hope there aren't years to go before that, though :S

[Tristan]

ooh la la nice new pic you look gorgeous. i can sees why you get so much attention.

awww thank you Joanna. yeah i really milk it and make guys buy me stuff. i know its bad but they make it so easy and i do love it. oh that pic is no make up at the pool by the way 

[Alainaluvsu]

I would not be happy... If I was happy with my body at that point, after a little bit without having anyone finding me attractive that happiness be gone and I doubt I'd feel like I was passing.
So, I don't think I would be very ok with that.

As surprised as you may be, I feel the same way. I used to not care, as long as I passed and was accepted. But now that I have transitioned and DO get quite a bit of male attention, it would be a huge hit on my confidence if it stopped. After a while I would wonder if I was passing and that would probably effect my happiness.

[Saffron]

When you're not interested in men, no getting romantic attention could make you happier. I don't like men staring at me

In a more serious note, yes, you can be happy, but you won't feel fully fulfilled. I think you're selling yourself short. Finding a partner can take time.

[Alainaluvsu]

When you're not interested in men, no getting romantic attention could make you happier. I don't like men staring at me

I like men but I get annoyed. I can't even ride my bike without getting stared at and whistles. It makes me feel unsafe tbh. But deep down it does make me feel good even if most of them are older or trashy. I would rather that than nothing though.

[Emily Aster]

Since I stopped dating to take care of my gender issues on their own, I'm pretty much in that same position right now except that I'm still stuck in this male body. I can only guess that having the right body, I'd be more equipped to cope without a relationship, but who knows. I do crave them, but my relationship history tells me that I end them all because of a need to be a woman, so I force myself to abstain. Maybe it'll be different on the other side.

[Tristan]

I like men but I get annoyed. I can't even ride my bike without getting stared at and whistles. It makes me feel unsafe tbh. But deep down it does make me feel good even if most of them are older or trashy. I would rather that than nothing though.

i have to agree with you. its not just about liking guys. but when they see you as a woman and attractive you know you pass. which means you dont have to worry about some drunk hill billy or thug hurting you for being TS/TG. it embarrasses me to say it but i know for a fact that people of my skin tone tend to be violent towards people like TS/TG folk.

[Heather]

I think I could be happy without it cause I'm doing that right now. But I do got to admit I want somebody to think I'm beautiful and treat me that way.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

Yes, I would still be happy.

Love is easy to find.  Adopt a dog and you will have all the love in the world.  Yes, I know, it isn't the same thing as having a human love you, but a dog does not care how your hair looks or if you spend the day in sweats.

[V M]

Friendships are important to me, romance not so much    If a friendship should evolve into a romance then so be it but I'm not particularly looking for a romance with anybody

Yes, of coarse I will always be happy as a woman regardless 

[Kelly J. P.]

Well, I don't really have much desire for a romantic relationship. Mostly, this is because I haven't done well in them in the past, and I think that there are better people for whoever to be dating. I'm pretty out of touch with people, and I'm mostly okay with this fact, but I suppose romance would be fun if I were a people person...

This transition is for myself more than anything else. I want to look pretty so that I can look at myself and like what I see, for once.

[Anatta]

Kia Ora Paige,

I think somebody else had mentioned it, that what attracts people to other people varies...One has only got to look at the cis world of opposite and same sex couples... There are 'paired' beauty and the beast, beauty on beauty, beast on beast, one can 'never' say never when it comes to who will be attracted to whom...There's physical attraction being the most common, but then there's other types of things that draws people together romantically other than their physical appearance....

For me personally, I have no desire for an intimate relationship, I blend in quite well and have the odd admirer or three, but I'm what you would call an asexual bi-affectionate/romantic with no desire for any kind of intimate relationship...I'm totally 'content' with my current status quo...

So I guess in answer to your question, I would have to say YES my level of happiness wouldn't change if there were no romantic advances towards me...

After all, in a past life I had "been there and done that and have got the memories to prove it !"...

Metta Zenda

[JenSquid]

Well, I wouldn't be thrilled by it, but at the same time, it wouldn't be any worse than things are now. As a guy, I've never gotten any romantic attention, so it would merely be a continuation of the status quo. As such, even if I never found a romantic partner, if I was happier with the rest of my life, I'd consider it a net gain.

[anya921]

bars and clubs aren't the only places to find romance.

I'd say they are the worst.

Couldn't agree more.