I feel the need to type a response.
I know for sure yes, now as for why... well I personally am at a point that I know for sure I will be dead if I dont, as I would rather be dead than still having something my mind is screaming at me shouldnt be there.
I probally could of actually paid for the surgery multiple times inthe last 10 years, and as I look back I wish I had of chose to go sooner than now, but because of several factors I didnt.
1. I had a somewhat functional relationship, even was married (as a girl) so to me at that point I felt it was enough, however toward the end it fell apart, partialy me partialy them I kinda ended up getting to a point of jus not caring and lost touch with myself , I personally think this was at fault for the undoing of my marriage I let myself go and was no-longer the sweet your girl he met or was in love with anymore, and so he went and cheated on me, I found out and couldnt handle it. I feel if I hadnt gotten to the point of thinking what I had was good enough and let myself go and actually pay pay for the surgery back then maybe we would still be together (probally not but...)
This is my view of what drove us apart, he saw that I wasnt truly happy something I couldnt see for myself, and that i was spending my money on distractions to keep my mind off of how unhappy I was. Truthfully I was unhappy and later it came to an apex and well here I am now leaving sunday for thailand excited,anxious, and really cant wait for this to be over, this is 6-7 years after me and my ex were seperated, I didnt learn imediately after I left I continued to try and keep myself distracted even though everyday I woke up I hated and wanted the apendege to go away, I just kept trying to cant change the past so it really does little to dwell on what could have been.
Do I think this surgery is going to change my whole life? No I don't and I think that is a reson for post srs regret, people truly dont answer themselves truthfully. I know its not some magical solution that once I have the surgery its going to be unicorns,sunshine and gummy bears. What I do know is it will finaly get rid of something I really dont want there, and it will make my pant fit better and allow me to be a bit more daring in certain clothes, and it will put my mind at rest finally so I dont have to wake up in the morning hating myself for not getting it done yet and being depressed because I have an un-needed ad on.
So the question was how can you know for sure? and thats how I know
but I will say this and I believe it to be what makes it so difficult and makes that post srs regret actually happen. I think society is still far to primal in this and they make to much of a deal of what shouldnt be. That is gay,lesbian,bi,trans - androginous and even what is sometimes refered to gender bending get way to much stigmata. who give a care if someone doesnt conform? I mean really, as long as you can pay your bills and live happy why should it matter but it does we get pushed into conformity and this is how people end up commiting surgery because they feel they made a mistake what I mean by this is .... an androginous or gender bending person makes the decision to get srs when they really didnt need it because family,friends,society, and yes even the GLB crowd push's them into it. This is one reason, the other is people are unhappy with their life and they think its some magic cure with the thought of "what better way to start over than in another gender" or they think "oh it would be so much easier if I was a girl and not a guy" or vice-versa no-one should ever feel just because they are not a manly man,or girly girl that it isnt good enough, only person someone should make happy is themselves first,who cares what the other gazillin walkin and talkers think.
I have more I could say on this but I think at this point I have written a mini-novel.
so theres my opinion'(s)
