Quote from: Mellysia (Melly) on March 25, 2013, 10:23:54 PM
I don't mind at all. I don't really know how to explain to people how I feel about being a woman. If a therapist really wants to know what is on our mind, stop asking us to tell them. One thing I have learned about people, especially kids, is you ask them to tell you want they want in life they will never tell you, but if you ask them to write about it the result is amazing. They will give you the most vivid of dreams that it will bring you to tears. When your therapist asks you why, just write it down for them and they may understand you a little differently. They are taught to analyze voice patterns, facial expression, and body gestures to get down to the base of problems. Sometimes they go about it the wrong way or misinterpret what your telling them with your voice and body. Words on paper can't be misread unless you are a complete idiot.
I understand the point of your comment, fully, but, the last sentence is full of fail as the kids would say.
I stopped being a wargamer (it's a label) as a direct result of forums, where people would over react to the written word devoid of context, incorrectly quoted, or given a context it never possessed, that was missing a smiley and thus was incapable of being funny and thus was meant seriously and thus was immediately regarded as offensive.
I gained MOST of my hate for men, and specifically old men ie past 35 and often in the 50+ range entirely due to their being mean, vicious, inconsiderate, grumpy, miserable buggers who couldn't see anything positive in anything at all. They argue for the sake of arguing. The topic really doesn't matter. They will be belligerent just for the sport. My advice for the FTM crowd, is to cultivate skill in being a total prick a complete ->-bleeped-<-. It's important to the illusion eh, just like sitting with your legs closed is the sign of a female that so many males have trouble with.
I have a very highly educated mind. Lousy street smarts yes, I never spent my teens learning how to be 'cool' I learned how to be right though in a discussion involving science and history. And nothing like seeing one of my posts blatantly disagreeing with something I refuse to copy paste anything from someone else or link to a Wiki, because I am the damned source. I don't need a source, I AM the damned Wiki. I'm a walking talking encyclopedia. But I have no street savvy as I never wasted my formative years carousing, drinking, doing drugs, and randomly fornicating. I have almost no idea what a hooker actually looks like, and I don't know anything about drugs and the drug trade for the most part. While the people of my youth were experimenting, I was studying text books.
My problem, when talking to shrinks, is I get mistaken for someone that is NOT depressed, NOT ->-bleeped-<-ed up in the head, NOT confused, NOT unhappy. It's because they are not used to listening to someone like me. I am not normal. I can intellectualize almost anything.
And this post is only about 10% of what you experience when talking to me.
I am both an extremely friendly easy to like person that can make friends with zero effort. I have no concept of what shy feels like. I talk to strangers for amusement. I can just walk up in front of a room of thousands and start talking in front of them. I don't know what stage fright feels like, and I have no idea what writers block feels like. I don't need tricks like seeing the audience in their underwear. All I need is to be told, 'these people want to hear your opinion on [insert virtually anything here], and I am ready to go.
But what makes me ME rarely comes out in just a bunch of cold lifeless words.
The only reason I am not about to get dressed in a dress and get ready for my birthday party (I'm 51 by the way) has nothing to do with my worrying about what anyone would say if I showed up like that. It's all about my actual physical traits. I look like the atypical boss. I dress like what you picture when you think warehouse manager. I don't look 'pretty' I look reasonably decent for a person my age. I wear clean clothing that is worn properly. I wear clothing suitable for work. I look like someone that is in charge. I drip confidence. And I know all of this. I have atypical male pattern hair loss that sure doesn't scream out female. I have a massive neck size that looks football player. The only thing I have in my favour, is I am sort at 5' 7" and wearing high heels will just make me look like any other female height. I don't need to deal with being too damned tall to be female.
I am very sensitive about the reflection in the mirror, which is why I have not yet given anyone a view. I am going to try and take something if I can manage to do it at all though.
The only one giving me a problem with my appearance, seems to be me.
I hope as you claim, "Words on paper can't be misread unless you are a complete idiot." is true here today. I am always getting in ->-bleeped-<- for my posts when I had no intention of doing so in the first place.
