So, I came out about a month ago to my wife and a small group of very close friends. It's been a mixed bag, with a lot of tears, and more than one unexpected reaction. My wife and I are still together, though sorting out the relationship. As sad as I am that I hurt her, and that things have changed, I feel an immense amount of relief by acknowledging and embracing my female side. I have begun dressing andro, and have been out shopping for women's clothes and shoes. I am also doing things like getting an appointment for laser, checking into an endocrinologist, etc.
Weekends are the best as I can fully dress in feminine mode. One of the female friends I came out to even invited me out for a mani-pedi with her (which was, to be honest, both odd and wonderful). However, I am finding Mondays to be increasingly difficult and my mood dour when they arrive. I go back to being full male and dressing in a suit and tie for work, and it feels horrible and stifling. It actually is getting harder the more I explore, learn and embrace the woman that was so deeply hidden for so long in me. Each week becomes more of a challenge to go back to guy mode on Monday.
I just wonder - I am sure others who are transitioning deal with this on a regular basis whether you are mtf or ftm. Do you have any coping mechanisms you use? Does it feel as much of an emotional swing for you as it does for me? I would really welcome your thoughts.
Toni