FTM fell for the girl

[CaleTheWhale]

A girl who knew me for most of my teenage years (as Carol) wanted to hang out soon after high school, I agreed and invited her to party but I wasn't the same since I became Cale and she seemed okay with it even though she's quite religious. We hung out everyday and she spend the night almost every night, and we flirted (though she says it was girl talk) and looking back it seemed a little weird for just a couple of friends (even parents saw the exchanges as weird and flirty), after a few months she started acting weird and didn't want to hang out at all and I decided to tell her how i felt, she laughed and as choking down laughter reassured me that she didn't feel the same. It wrecked me and we started fighting over facebook, and she told me and My family that I was harassing her. So we stop talking, 7 months when by and she sent a long message saying she missed me and she was sorry, I quickly forgave her and we stay friend over the internet because she's thinks it's better we don't hang out. It's been two years since then and I get on facebook and see that when I show an interested in something (like comics) couple days later she gets comics and post on facebook. This has happen several times in the past two years and I'm still hung up on her. I'm I getting played? Is it wishful thinking on my part? Should I try again with her? I really need advice about this whole thing because no one understand where I'm coming from in my household.

[natastic]

My advice is to let it go. I know it sucks, but honestly if it didn't work out for you two to get together back then, it probably isn't going to work out now.

I haven't been in the exact same situation as you, but I've been in similar ones. My experience is that it really wasn't worth the heartache to keep hoping and trying to make something happen and I really wish I had just walked away earlier.

I know I'll find someone with which a relationship will happen organically, naturally, easily. No games, no drama, just two real people who really want to be together. You'll find someone too.  Not this girl, from the sound of it.

[CaleTheWhale]

I know your right but I'm so hung up on her, it's been a couple of years since we last seen and spoke to each other but I can't seem to forget her. Thank you for responding by the way, I didn't think anyone would answer since I sound like whiny kid,  I just found this place and I figure why not talk to the people who know me better than me  thanks natastic

[Jamie D]

I don't know Cale.  Sounds to me that there still might be something there.

Why don't you give her a call and talk for a while?

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[spacial]

As much as I respect Jamie D, I disagree and completely agree with natastic on this one.

It's time to let go. It's just hurting you. And this girl sounds very mixed up frankly.

Those were nasty accusations to make. Walking back into that fire, you will get burnt.

[Rachel]

From your descriptions, I think she wants to be friends but may have some feelings for you other than friendship. Her past actions indicate she does not understand what she wants and when pressed she defaults to safety and belittles you to cover her feelings.

In two years she may have grown for accept a Trans person as a romantic partner. Has she read any books to help sort out her identity such as "My Gender Workbook" by Kate Barnstein? I just finished and it may help her to better undertand gender. If she has no tools or spent no time to understand trans and does not want to try to understand trans then perhaps another partner may have better results.