Um yeah, so I started going full time like last week officially. Its going much better than expected, and better then it feels I have any right for it to go.
I (well someone else did the um deed, but I gave them permission, and then essentially had to do it myself .. its complicated) came out to my mum and brother about couple of weeks ago, pretty much as the result of um some slight mental health issues (mention of my birthday type phobia, self harm and ending up in hospital twice in one night, nearly sectioned) ,
they have been ... well pretty awesome, (when told apparently my mums said something along the lines of 'heh, I figured' ) and she said she didn't care and would support me what ever I wanted to do. And the last couple of times I've been to see her she's given me some of her old clothes ^^^ and generally just acts like everything is normal
I also changed my name (Francesca) and have been changing it in all the places where you need to. I'd been thinking about it for so long, I couldn't stand seeing Mr on my letters any more, and coming out to my mum meant I didn't need to be secretive about it, thought I'd already decided to do it (I printed the deed poll out a few months ago, with the date on that I wanted to do it by. That and I've been self meddling[naughty I know .. stupid nhs waiting lists] for about six months now so it was getting harder to hide the boobs)
This kinda lead in to me changing my name at work and so officially coming out to them (like they hadn't already figured it out >.> ) that took me about a week to finally tell them, and then they were like ok sure .. like it happened every day or something. But my boss was so nice, said if anyone gave me any trouble then he'd sort 'em out. Everyone pretty much accepted it (the HR manager was actually excited for me) there have been some questions, but not anything nasty, which ... it seems pretty er, well most of them have been in prison and stuff and are all Herr football and battering people, like that but , its like no problem. Also my job is door to door (fun T_T ) but that seems to be ok, passing is a bit swings and roundabouts but it seems to be getting more frequent ^^^
The hardest thing has been getting my bank (a certain building society named for a west Yorkshire town) to accept my deed poll (I did the free internet type one), because apparently they thought it had to be signed by a solicitor. Three visits, two phone calls, and some supporting research later they finally did though. (whereas my GP and work accepted it with out problem - bank fail)
This being so 'easy' makes me a bit guilty, when I know my housemate (also trans .. and my ex ) has nearly been attacked twice (the last time was last Saturday/Sunday, we were both walking home at the same time, unknowingly, via different routes )and I've never really had any trouble and I know that her parents , even though she's been out as .. um gender variant to them since 16 now that she's come out to them as full time ladyness they seem to be having trouble accepting it and she comes back nearly in tears after she's met them.
Um but yeah I just kinda wanted to share so there it is.
