Hi Lisa,
You're not alone in feeling everything is going wrong. I can assure you that friends of mine who have been through FFS have had their fair share of problems, too. Hair loss, is probably one of the more common problems. It's mainly due to the stress of the medical procedure you have been through combined with a change of routine. I, too, was suffering a certain amount of shedding to the extent that I was finding my hair everywhere. It was very upsetting. I found that during my recovery I was washing my hair less frequently which actually didn't help the shedding problem. In fact, it probably made it worse.
I realised that due to washing it less frequently, when I did actually wash it I was having to comb through a build up of product, ie hairspray. This meant more hair was coming out. So, somewhat reluctantly, I went back to my once every other day routine and found that my hair was easier to comb through and much less hair was coming out. A year on and my hair is probably back to what it was pre-op, except my hairline is, of course, looking much more feminine than it did and is about a centimetre or so further forward than it was.
What you're going through at the moment is likely to be the worst part. You're bound to question whether you did the right thing, if you chose the right surgeon and are you going to look better and more feminine. The answer to all of those is yes. Dr Bart is a very good surgeon and the reason you cannot get hold of him could be that he is abroad doing charity work in Africa. I know he does it around this time of the year.
I can remember looking in the mirror about three weeks after my surgery and looking at my bruised face (some of them were still visible more than two months later), my swollen chin and scabby hairline and wondering if I had done the right thing. I looked at my swollen top lip and thought "What the hell was he (Dr Bart) thinking when he did this?"
Needless to say, I am very pleased with it all now. I remember thinking about 6 months into recovery "I hope my lip doesn't go down too much more. It's looking real nice."
All is well now, and if I ever have any more doubts, I just pull up the pre-op photos Dr Bart took of me about an hour before my op. There is no question I look so much better. And so will you.
Hugs
Caroline