Hormones, is no one concerned about their offspring?

[Veronique]

Hello,

I am starting to consider the idea of Hormones. The most difficult part is losing your fertility. I am sometimes so grateful that i exist, and i owe it all to my parents and that one night. WHAT IF sometime in the future my kid would look in the mirror, reflecting back upon my life and say the same thing as i? I nearly feel like a murderer messing with my fertility. Even though i am a long time away from having children i still feel like there is a soul depending on me to give life. It's a weird feeling.

How common is it for a person to take hormones while they are not 100% sure of their gender identity? Anyone like that here? Did you think the risks trough a million times? Surely everyone who takes Hormones must have thought long about this. How it is even logically possible to make so many permanent changes to your body, when your acknowledge that you are not even sure of it? I don't suppose it happens a lot. Of course i am not referring to anyone who has to transition because they were born in the wrong body.

Appreciated

[Devlyn]

I thought that was why some people banked before starting HRT? Hugs, Devlyn

[Donna Elvira]

Hi
For a young person,, HRT is largely reversible for many years. I personally  know a woman who transitioned young, in her early twenties, detransitioned in her early thirties and had a child with another woman before transitioning again some years later.
This may be atypical but having gone back and forwards myself for a couple of years I also know that even things like breast growth are quite reversible up to a few months of treatment, plenty of time to find out if HRT is really right for you or not.
Obviously there is also always the solution of using a sperm bank as suggested by Devlyn, probably a good precaution no matter what, but the use that can be made of that depends on other issues such as the type of partner you are attracted by. It does indeed get a bit complicated at times but as my German neighbours would say, "Wenn man willig ist, gibt es ein Weg!" 
Bises
Donna   

[Erik Ezrin]

Though vaginal sex and giving birth, etc. aren't quite for me, I would still really like to have have one or two kids as I grow up. And IF I would get kids, I want them to be mine, not adopted, but genetically mine.
Chances are that would be a tricky business (unless... can they combine two egg cells into one baby nowadays?) , but I'm still considering to get them frozen or something before I would start hormones, just in case, y'know.
Still not sure though, but I'd love to be a dad sometime in the future.

Maybe you could get your sperm cells stored or something, so you could use them if you happen to end up infertile (no idea how large the chances are. I heard of plenty people who transitioned and still gave birth/were fertile though)

[Veronique]

I see, i did not know it could be reversible up to a few years, what i have read is that nearly every change made is permanent.

@Erik - Yes, while adoption is a choice, creating life that came from you is nothing short of a miracle. By the way your dreads look awesome.

[Hikari]

I would like children at some point, and you would think that with my sexual preferences i would be storing sperm but, i know this is gonna sound strange but i kinda feel like that is cheating.

What i mean is all other things being equal had i been born female i wouldn't be able to reproduce with another woman anyway so i dont feel like i am losing anything.

[Erik Ezrin]

Thanks Sylandor! It took them a year to get where they are now, but I'm very happy with them.
And yeah, I don't have SUCH a need for a child that I want to adopt, but having a genetic kid would be pretty nice at some point in life.

[Veronique]

I would like children at some point, and you would think that with my sexual preferences i would be storing sperm but, i know this is gonna sound strange but i kinda feel like that is cheating.

What i mean is all other things being equal had i been born female i wouldn't be able to reproduce with another woman anyway so i dont feel like i am losing anything.

Very good point. I get what you mean with cheating, however i would personally be more than happy to be the worlds biggest cheater if it meant i could give life. I guess each to their own.

[spring0721]

Sylanor,

Just thought i'd comment. Banking sperm is pretty easy and relatively cheap compared to freezing eggs and storage. It looked like the average cost was $1500 for 3 seperate deposits that they will bank for you for a 5 year period. It may be one of those options for a 'just in case' thing. Even if your fertility was inhibited at all (which I'm sure it won't! But things happen!)you would have your reserves banked as to not having to chance whether or not you can be a mom one day. I'm wishing you luck in this decision

[Joanna Dark]

Well many MTFs aren't really happy with their genitalia and the thought of using it in a penetrative manner is simply offputting and in many cases impossible or very hard (no pun intended lol).

[Chamillion]

No. Actually I can't even stomach the idea of willingly bringing a human into this awful world.

[Jamie D]

Hello,

I am starting to consider the idea of Hormones. The most difficult part is losing your fertility. I am sometimes so grateful that i exist, and i owe it all to my parents and that one night. WHAT IF sometime in the future my kid would look in the mirror, reflecting back upon my life and say the same thing as i? I nearly feel like a murderer messing with my fertility. Even though i am a long time away from having children i still feel like there is a soul depending on me to give life. It's a weird feeling.

How common is it for a person to take hormones while they are not 100% sure of their gender identity? Anyone like that here? Did you think the risks trough a million times? Surely everyone who takes Hormones must have thought long about this. How it is even logically possible to make so many permanent changes to your body, when your acknowledge that you are not even sure of it? I don't suppose it happens a lot. Of course i am not referring to anyone who has to transition because they were born in the wrong body.

Appreciated

You are correct to assume that you could become infertile through the use of cross-hormone therapy.

If you are not sure of your gender identity, then you should not start down the path of HRT.  That is, in part, the point of pre-HRT psychotherapy.

We have one MtF member here, who recently went off HRT for the purpose of sperm banking, and found she had almost no viable sperm anymore.

[Renee]

I've never been concerned about it. I was sterile to begin with and even if I weren't, it wasn't until a few years ago that I could even keep a plant alive, so I moved up to a dog after that. I'd hate to think how a child would fare with me to rely on.

[JennX]

I thought that was why some people banked before starting HRT? Hugs, Devlyn

This +1. And if you're not sure of what you want to do, that's what therapy is for. Finally, adoption is always another answer as well.

[Theo]

I thought that was why some people banked before starting HRT? Hugs, Devlyn

Popped my first E pill 30 minutes after my 2nd "donation"... Just thought I'd bite myself if I end up wanting to have kids only to then look for a donor, even though I had stuff available earlier. Lasts up to 30 years in the freezer, and had 31 doses stored. As I am good friends with a lesbian couple, and they were asking whether I could envision acting as a donor for them (wasn't out), I even had an official excuse.

[Teela Renee]

I had considered it, but then threw my fertility out the window. I didnt want to have a kid that I'd look at and know my half of him/her came from male organs.

[~RoadToTrista~]

No. Actually I can't even stomach the idea of willingly bringing a human into this awful world.

We live in a beautiful world full of beautiful people.

[SarahLJP]

I may want children at some point. I want to find a husband to help me raise the children I might have first. It might depend on what he wants to do too, I'm very flexible. I was advised about sperm banking before I got too far with HRT, but I had no interest in doing that. Considering what is involved to do it. I'm fine with adopting children if I decide to have kids.

[Anatta]

Kia Ora,

No doubt for some of us older members-late transitioners who already had children, there was no real 'attachment' to having a penis- we just saw it as a useful tool [when feeling maternal] for creating children...

In a sense all my children are 'natural' and were produced by the reliable old fashion method...

And I have no shame nor regrets about the method in which they were produced...

When it comes to having biological off spring, trans-people are in a unique position : What do they want the children to call them ?   

Metta Zenda  

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

I had mine prior to transitioning.