What causes dysphoria

[xterra]

I always felt that my body is not the way it's supposed to be, but I realized something else. That more than anything I'm getting tired of fitting into male roles that do not seem to be natural for my psyche. And my own body is sort of a barrier.

[E-Brennan]

Is the problem that you're struggling with your body, or that you're struggling with the strict gender roles imposed by society?

In other words, do you think you'd be happy in your current body if society would accept you in more feminine roles, or do you think that until your body matches your mind you'll be unhappy?

As far as I'm aware, the gender dysphoria (i.e. the feeling of unease) is a combination of an actual and legitimate medical condition, and society's unwillingness to accept that it's normal.  Add the two together and you get the mess we're in right now.

[xterra]

Since I never been in feminine roles in society, I do not know how that would be. Yet I know there is a serious disconnection between my mind and my body. I do not know how to define feminine, except just being myself. Not every girl is very feminine. I used to hate my body, right now I just do not even care about it.

When I was young, I fell in love really hard for this one girl. It was so visible to everybody and during conversation with other girls, I said things that only girl would say. They ware looking at me like I was crazy. I was completely not aware of it.

[suzifrommd]

It was so visible to everybody and during conversation with other girls, I said things that only girl would say. They ware looking at me like I was crazy. I was completely not aware of it.

I had the same experience. I didn't realize the way I was acting and speaking was characteristically female. It just felt natural to me.

[Joanna Dark]

I don't think dysphoria and being feminine (or masculine for a trans guy) are necessarily exclusive. I really don't know how to define femininity except that for myself I am very sensitive, empathetic, nurturing, and kind to the point people walk all over me (not a good thing nor is it feminine; it's prob a people pleasing coping mechanism).

I really can't say what made me dypshoric. I only know I have been this way forever. In fact, the only time I have not had severe dysphoria is now. And I attribute that to HRT. If I stopped, I imagine I would become more dysphoric then ever and start engaging in incredibly self-destructive behavior.

I believe dysphoria is a result of having a big disconnect between your brain sex and your birth sex. I am not a big fan of the term brain sex but I really don't know any other way to describe it. Cis women are born women so they naturally identify that way but how can I identify like that if i am not cis? It's such a tough concept. What I do know is this isn't really a choice. I guess some people would say I am ->-bleeped-<- because I did get sexual pleasure form the thought of myself performing sexually as a woman. But the thong is how else am I supposed to fantasize? I am sure a lot of women derive sexual pleasure from viewing themselves as a woman having sex. Also I was dysphoric long before I had any sexual feelings.

The reason I think some rad fems don't like trans women is because we challenge the notion that gender is not innate. But really how can they not acknowledge that there are intrinsic differences between the sexes? There is and they are obvious.