A little background first....I have been divorce for 7 years now. I have joint custody of my children and attend many of their school functions.
A few weeks ago I was at my sons concert...I did not have my children that week so I attended alone....I found him after the concert walking with his mother and went up to tell him he did a nice job. I had not seen my ex for about 2 months since she doesn't attend all the kids events. As I was talking with him, she did acknowledge me but was a little indifferent...nothing new. She warmed up a bit and we chit chatted some on the way out.
The next week when my children were with me, my one son told me that my ex told him after seeing me that she didn't expect that!! This was nothing new...even though she has accepted my transition she treats it as some form of midlife crisis. She has seen me at other events and I looked no different then before except for the fact I had dyed my hair recently. I took this comment as her just being in la la land and not realizing that this is now my life.
I recently had a talk with my ex the other day...come to find out that what she meant by that comment was that she didn't know who I was!!!
It took her about 2 minutes to realize I was her ex....she thought I was just some woman congratulating her son!!!
We talked some more and even though she doesn't understand what I am doing....she is accepting in her own way. I asked her if I appear as any other woman (I have only asked one person this before) not knowing what words to say she told me....I completely made the switch 100%.....I pulled it off!!...she added she would never of known it was me if my son didn't tell her!!! WOW!!
This is a woman that I have made love too and had been with for over ten years....she has seen me from the start of my transition to where I am now. We haven't seen each other as much in the last 6 months but her new husband has. I guess my darker hair color confirms my gender even further!! I wouldn't have been as shocked if it wasn't someone that knew me that well. I have seen many people I was once friends with and they have no clue who I am...I always feel somewhat paranoid that they really do know me but just don't say anything....and then I feel bad that I don't tell them who I was!! I guess its true that they have no clue!!
I may post a before and after in the Just for Us....see if anyone can tell the difference
