Quote from: mavieenrose on June 06, 2007, 03:44:02 PM
Didn't use the Andrea James course (the internet didn't really exist much when I transitioned...)
Personally I had a standard male voice to start with and went to an NHS (National Health Service) speech therapist who gave me a serious of breathing and other exercises. These were really helpful and I can strongly recommend a visit to a speech therapist.
One other thing that really helped me, was being told to imagine that when I spoke the voice was actually coming not out of my mouth, but my forehead. I know it sounds wierd, but I'm convinced this really helped me to lighten and feminise my voice (along with the exercises of course). Don't know if anyone else has heard of/tried this... ?
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The forehead thing makes sense. the key to getting a feminine voice is using the upper muscles in the throat. Imagining it is coming from the forehead would force a person to use this upper area.
I didn't take any lessons or go to a speech therapist at all. I found several web sites with various techniques on training the voice. One key element to getting my voice to the point where it is today and keeping it there is gargling with salt water. This gets all the nasty gunk out of throat in the morning. While I gargle I start at my lowest possible pitch and raise it until it starts to crack. Then I hold that and continue gargling for a few seconds. Then I repeat 3 or 4 times.
Training the voice is like any other set of muscles and it does get strained so overdoing can cause some damage. There is also a bit of scratchiness, at least there was for me, during the process of developing a new voice. I used Hall's Fruit Breezers to sooth my throat and help keep it lubricated. Drinking fluids helps immensely as well.
I had that little voice in my head of what i wanted my voice to sound like. I used the above methods along with using more fluid speech versus the monotone male drab. I still have a few annunciation issues with certain letter combinations but slowing down my speech usually helps overcome them. I also spent plenty of hours just reading to myself. I never recorded my voice before and after. I only focused on that voice that i knew i wanted.
For anyone who is feeling self-conscious about just letting their voice be heard, let me give this little bit of insight. when was the last time you sat around and made fun of anyone for sounding too manly or too girly? Probably not often if ever at all. It is just something people don't pay that much attention to unless they are in our situations.
And just how feminine does my voice sound? I have had my TS status questioned because people think i am a genetic woman due to my voice. I have lots of tattoos, small boobs, and short hair so there are plenty of not so feminine identifiers. The biggest thing is having the confidence to just do it. Just letting the voice be heard is the biggest step above everything else.