Informed Consent - Who Has It?

[aleon515]

I wasn't so certain. It took me about 6-8 months to decide to transition. I think the way to do this would be more to make therapy easier to get and not harder. It was very  easy for me to get into therapy and that made it really likely I would do it. It was also easy to go to support groups in that they were available and a couple days of the week. So there were options.

It isn't the same as saying that some people would have informed consent and some would not, but that the option of therapy is easy to do so that a lot of people would say I want that, since it isn't hard to do. I have a friend who lives in a different area. She has had a harder time and had to go thru a gatekeeper who misgendered her and this sort of thing which was aversive.

--Jay

[Joanna Dark]

I'm just saying that people who write things like "help, I think I'm trans" may want to consider looking more deeply into things before delving in.  Those who say, I'm trans and need help starting, are in a different category.  Informed consent may be a wise choice for someone in the latter category, but those in the former one may wish to tak further consideration of the consequences before starting.  We all have different treatment needs.

I totally agree and you're absolutely right. People who think they may be trans but aren't sure should definitely undergo some therapy before starting HRT as this is serious business. For people like you and me, it isn't really neccessary because we're both so sure about what we need. But it's still a good idea for us to and I am going to get a therapist soon.

We agree a lot lol that's because we're long lost sisters just like you said. You're def one of the trans girls here that I relate to a lot. I can't wait to meet in person and trust me we will. Heck, we only live like 90 miles apart and a hop skip and a jump on NJ Transit and the LIRR. Meet me in Mantauk lol (Eternal Sunshine reference). I love Kate Winslet's hair in that movie.

Ok, tangent over lol

[Ltl89]

I totally agree and you're absolutely right. People who think they may be trans but aren't sure should definitely undergo some therapy before starting HRT as this is serious business. For people like you and me, it isn't really neccessary because we're both so sure about what we need. But it's still a good idea for us to and I am going to get a therapist soon.

We agree a lot lol that's because we're long lost sisters just like you said. You're def one of the trans girls here that I relate to a lot. I can't wait to meet in person and trust me we will. Heck, we only live like 90 miles apart and a hop skip and a jump on NJ Transit and the LIRR. Meet me in Mantauk lol (Eternal Sunshine reference). I love Kate Winslet's hair in that movie.

Ok, tangent over lol

If you can afford a therapist, it's a great idea.  I really love mine and don't regret starting with her.

Like I said, if you ever find yourself in NY

I wasn't so certain. It took me about 6-8 months to decide to transition. I think the way to do this would be more to make therapy easier to get and not harder. It was very  easy for me to get into therapy and that made it really likely I would do it. It was also easy to go to support groups in that they were available and a couple days of the week. So there were options.

It isn't the same as saying that some people would have informed consent and some would not, but that the option of therapy is easy to do so that a lot of people would say I want that, since it isn't hard to do. I have a friend who lives in a different area. She has had a harder time and had to go thru a gatekeeper who misgendered her and this sort of thing which was aversive.

--Jay

I agree that gatekeepers are not ideal and that the trans community is in need of better therapists in general.  Nor do I like having informed consent for some and not for others.  I think it should be more widespread and accessible in general.  I'm just saying people should reflect further before starting hormones if they feel confused.