Telling Straight Guys About You...

[Hypatia]

Hypatia: a YEAR lead time before going ft? at college age? are you nuts?

Oh yes you nailed it, I'm a psychotic mental case and you wouldn't believe how hard it is to type in a straightjacket, pecking out the letters by holding a pencil in my teeth. And using the shift key is murder! 

I wish I'd had the chance while in college to find out what you are saying. But all I know is what it was like in my 40s. I transitioned after being on low doses of HRT for a year and a half, and this worked well.

[Suzy]

Of course there is a middle road.  You could do a legal name change now.  Before you graduate, just make sure the administration has the correct name on your diploma, and that your degree is registered under your new name.  You don't even have to tell everyone.  I think you need to tell the administration what is going on, though.  And if you plan to walk at graduation with your family there you'll have a little bit of 'splainin' to do.  But if you plan on going FT right after you graduate, I think that would not be too hard to overcome.

Best of luck!

Kristi

[Icephoenyx]

See, I'm hoping to start living at least most of the time as full time right after I graduate next April....I'm pretty much locked in as long as I'm going to school, unless I want to move out on my own and have to deal with bills, insurance, etc. Even if I moved out right now, I don't think I could afford to transition anyways, even if I wasn't known at school.

Couldn't you start HRT, start practicing your voice, start all that stuff? You could be FULLY prepared to jump into the world as a woman come graduation. And who knows, maybe before and you could even have some time with those college guys. Just another something to consider.

Well, as I posted elsewhere, I pretty much have to go full time before I can even THINK about HRT, so thats out of the picture....as for the rest of the things you mentioned, I am practicing my voice and getting clothes when I can. However, I CANNOT start dressing up at all as long as I'm at home, and I could move out tomorrow but if I go on my own I am literally on my own and school will be much more difficult to get through as I juggle it with transition, having my own place, etc. The financial burden would screw me.

Oh, and Kristi, I don't think I could change my name on my diploma, that would break my mom's heart, I would rather have my guy name on my diploma but all my records would hopefully say my correct gender.....no idea how I'm going to explain that to the Registrar....



Chrissi

[lizbeth]

Well, as I posted elsewhere, I pretty much have to go full time before I can even THINK about HRT, so thats out of the picture

there is a huge difference here. you don't have to go full time before you start HRT, you don't even have to come out before you start HRT. but you really should come out AND start HRT before you go full time.

as for the original topic, I can't offer much advice. I have trouble telling straight guys pretty much anything about me, let alone my gender issues.

[Hypatia]

There are some countries like Germany where they still practice an archaic version of the SOC, where you have to do full time RLE for a year before you can start hormones. It's a very cruel and stupid rule. I suspect it was designed to screen out all except the tiny minority who can pass without treatment.

[Rachael]

That or the guts to survive...

Its still 3 months rle before hrt in the uk too iirc... epic fail.

[lizbeth]

appologies, I try my hardest not to look at the world through the eyes of the united states and I failed here. forgive my american arrogance

you'll be in my thoughts Chrissy

[Laura Eva B]

There are some countries like Germany where they still practice an archaic version of the SOC, where you have to do full time RLE for a year before you can start hormones. It's a very cruel and stupid rule. I suspect it was designed to screen out all except the tiny minority who can pass without treatment.

That makes the big assumption that you need HRT to "pass", and that a year's HRT makes such a big difference to our "passability" ...

That we cope better with transition with HRT ...

Neither is true ... and Christs ... if you feel so strongly about it you can do like most of us seem to do and buy meds off the net ...

Laura x

[Rachael]

I went from entirely unpassable, to passable in 6 months of hrt... by a year, id accidentally gone stealth. Forgive me if i dont agree with that statement hon

[Hypatia]

Passing and transitioning successfully would have been unthinkable for me without plenty of HRT in preparation. Looking at my pictures from before HRT and after, it's like seeing two different individuals.

[Valerie Elizabeth]

I know this topic has been dead for a little while, but I too am in college, and was wondering how to pay for the SRS and possibly FFS.  Hormones are partly covered by my insurance, but it is still quite a hefty chunk of change every month, not to mention the costs of school.  I don't want to sound like an ass, but my school is $35,000 a year, and they are planning a modest increase of 5% this upcoming school year.  Not to mention that I am a pre-med student, and will still need to afford medical school afterwards.

I feel like this post came out a little angry, and I didn't want it to sound that way.  I am just really stuck with trying to figure out how to pay for this stuff.

I mean, I suppose I could take out a student loan for it, but I don't really want to get into any trouble over that.

I am contacting my insurance right now to see if SRS is medically necessary, and if I can convince them to pay for it.  We shall see.


EDIT

So, this seemed kind of out of place.  I am going to repost in a more appropriate place.

EDIT 2

I just created its own topic.