6 DAYS TO GO!!!

[Shannon1979]

 ;DYep six days to go and im full time. Not even been prescribed HRT yet (hopefully soon tho).

Had a rediculously stressy couple of months. Moved TWICE, working at silly times and volunteering. But got my finances sorted out now and things are settling down a bit.

Really looking forward to shedding my male appearence for good next week. And you know what i am not going to miss it at all. I can finally be myself from now on. No more regrets. Have even reconciled differences with family except for with my dad. Mum came round to the new place last week and met me as Shannon for the first time. She wanted to meet me as female proper before i went full time as she wasnt sure how she might react when she saw me. Everything went really well, we even got to talking about clothes shopping and makeup.

Dad however is a different story. I have spoken to him and he still says he wont accept this and it is against nature. I have used every analogy and simple pointing out the facts as i can but to no avail. I will say however we havent actually fell out so this gives me hope. He refuses to see me when i go full time, but will keep in contact by phone and text. i have agreed to this saying only that i wont pretend to be someone else on the phone for his benefit. I am leaving an open invitation for him to visit me anytime he wants. hopefully in the future he will realize that it is him that is going to lose out and come around.

[kyh]

It's obvious your father loves you dearly. He'll come around. He's reacting much better than some other parents out there, and many of them ended up supporting their child 100% later on.

And CONGRATS on showing your mom your real self! You're really brave <3 I hope everything works out in the end for you.

[Erin Kay Howell]

That sounds awesome! Minus the dad part.

Hopefully he'll come around and realize he is going to lose out on his child if he keeps up his walls.

I have yet to say anything to my family except my wife. And so far its been great!

Im rather jealous of you for getting out FT before hormones. Your incredibly brave and I wish you the best of luck!

[JulieC.]

Good for you.  Gosh, you and some others are moving along so fast.  I must admit to being a little jealous.  I guess my time frame is what it is because it makes sense in my life but sometimes I feel like I will never get there.  I'm so glad for you.  At least one of your parents is on board.  Hopefully your father will come along in time.

[Caisie Breen]

I am a 56 y/o m-f. I had surgery last February and am now 100% female.

I have a similar situation only reversed. My married daughter, because of her chosen religion, has to shun me; I, after all - according to her bible, am a heathen. This of course hurts especially because it is based entirely on "faith" and ignoring empirical studies and scientific facts.

But I'm also a woman and have faith. Faith that ultimately my daughter will soften up and do some open minded research. I'll bet your father will eventually turn for you as well.

God Bless   

[Shannon1979]

I appreciate all the support from everyone. And Julie you will get to where you want to be in the end. your right about life being life and unfortionatly practicality sometimes has to take precidence.

Hi Casie i hope that your daughter can see her way to accepting you eventually. I know that religion can often cause issues with things like this. Having spent alot of time debating with deeply religious people (only the ones trying to convince other less educated people to believe them that is), i can tell you that all you can do is explain your side of it and let her do the rest. You seem to already be using the best approach though from what you have already said, IE not forcing the issue as it could end up making it worse. I hope it all works out in the end.

[warlockmaker]

Your dad will get his head around this - give him time. I'm much older witha 30 year old daughter and from a liberal loving family that only wants the best for each other, even then, the support comes with heart to heart talks to determine the convictions. Men are not good at heart to hearts - I know that as I used to have difficulty in intimate discussions - I was liberal but lacked empathy (until HRT) You are lucky that you cn go FT without hrt - be patient - as you say the door is still open, just work on him.

It's special to be loved and more special to be loved unconditionally.