Dealing with the stop stare laugh lookback laugh people.

[Shannon1979]

Ok odd title, but this is something i do have trouble with. What i mean is the people who will see you in the street and have a laugh with whoever they are with about it, then keep looking back at you and laughing some more. Personally i find this horrible and the people that do it nasty horrible individuals.

If someone makes a comment at me in the street i can deal with that. I simply cut them to peices and make them look complete morons to everyone around (you soon learn to think up responses quickly). but the s->-bleeped-<-ers i don't know how to deal with. It's not a problem all the time for the most part i just ignore people who are like that, but sometimes it's hard to do that if for instance your having a bad day anyway. anyone got any tips.

[Devlyn]

Here's a tip, just keep going. The less time they spend in your life, the better. Hugs, Devlyn

[Heather]

Unfortunately its one of those things you just have to learn to deal with.  You just have to learn how to ignore people and don't let it ruin your day. 

[barbie]

You looks fine in your avatar, Shannon.

Yes. It is horrible that people look back at you and laugh.

I also got laughs from other women, but that is not any kind of contempt. They know that I am a dad, but smile because they think I am a kind of funny. They like to speak to me. In restaurants, female workers remember me very well, and regard me as their valuable customer. In any case, they respect me (not my beauty, but my social roles and others).

You may try to wear more conservatively and see whether they still laugh at you.

barbie~~

[Shannon1979]

You looks fine in your avatar, Shannon.

Yes. It is horrible that people look back at you and laugh.

I also got laughs from other women, but that is not any kind of contempt. They know that I am a dad, but smile because they think I am a kind of funny. They like to speak to me. In restaurants, female workers remember me very well, and regard me as their valuable customer. In any case, they respect me (not my beauty, but my social roles and others).

You may try to wear more conservatively and see whether they still laugh at you.

barbie~~

I do dress fairly conservatively when out. the outfit i have on in the avatar is Not my normal attire. I'm a blue jeans kinda girl for everyday wear. I think because i'm fairly tall i do get noticed. I am quite lucky in respect that i pass fairly well it only happens when someone has gotten a fairly close up look at me in the first place. But i think Marie and Heather are right, i just haven't been out there as long and just need to get used to ignoring the idiots.

[Heather]

, i just haven't been out there as long and just need to get used to ignoring the idiots.

You do get used to it after awhile. I've kinda been forced into getting used to it lately as I get laughed at more dressed as a guy than when I'm out as myself. 

[Shannon1979]

You do get used to it after awhile. I've kinda been forced into getting used to it lately as I get laughed at more dressed as a guy than when I'm out as myself. 

Strange thing is though i dont get laughed at dressed male, not that i do dress male anymore, i actually feel more uncomfortable that way now. i think since accepting my true self i have just naturally shead my old appearence over the last few months. I see this as a very good thing as it takes away any doubts i had before knowing that this is the right thing for me.

[barbie]

just need to get used to ignoring the idiots.

A lot of people make others frown and upset. At least, you seem to make people laugh. Ladies here like chatting and laughing with me. Even some women pull the strap of bra in my back to check whether I am a man or woman, and laugh loudly.

Usually people do not laugh at you if they are alone. Always a group of people dare to laugh at or speak to you. If you do not like being laughed, you may go out with your close friends, preferably with male friends.

barbie~~

[Heather]

Strange thing is though i dont get laughed at dressed male, not that i do dress male anymore,

Yeah you kind of have to hit that in between with hormones where you don't quite fully pass as a woman but you can't fully pass as a man either. 

[Shannon1979]

Hi Devlyn i apologize for using the name Marie. Got it into my head that Devlyn was a last name. i will get it right next time.

[Devlyn]

Hi Devlyn i apologize for using the name Marie. Got it into my head that Devlyn was a last name. i will get it right next time.

No worries, hon, I only get upset if someone calls me late for dinner!

[Elle16]

I feel for you Shannon

I was out yesterday with my mum, standing in the jobcentre I could see people staring at me thinking "Is that a boy or girl?" 

I was wearing my blue jeans, purple top and hoodie. I had light fondation, nailpolish on & my hair straightened. I had my guy shoes on as I don't yet have any girl shoes in my size... UK size 12! My hair is only just passed my ears, so it's not really long enough yet. The lady who spoke to me was nice enough, she's doing a job though and has to be professional. Last week I went for an interview with this guy from Thomas Cook - I came straight out with being trans and he was really ok with it. Again though that was an interview, professional people tend to be much better in dealing with things.

On the way home in the street yesterday we were passing a group of people, three of them... not the nicest and they looked like they needed a good wash! but one of them muttered something under his breath and my mum got really cross! We kept on going but they looked back at me and the other two were gawking like I had two-heads or something...

I just kept walking and didn't rise to the bait. Afterwards my mum said it's no-one business what I'm doing, they should get on wit their own lives...

Today I got up and put on my makeup, nice pink top and haven't really thought about it till typing out this message. These people are just ignorant and don't have the education to realise not everyone is the same and some people are just born different. 

Ignore them xx

[Cindy]

This might sound silly but I no longer even notice them.

I have no idea if someone laughs at me or s->-bleeped-<-s or whatever.

I know what I am. I'm an attractive woman who is trying her best. I'm happy and confident and I owe nothing to anyone for being me.

I walk my path as me and I'm confident, sassy and full of life.

If someone has a problem with me they can sit down and weep. I might even give them a tissue.


Cindy

[xchristine]

It uses to happrn to me when I was younger...

Something strange happened....
I believe my behavior had changed completely to woman's behavior
I know they seen me as ts...but it was like one week they did
And the following month it stopped....

All I can say is from my experience.   
Your not a man anymore.   You have to realize that. 
And be very comfortable with that fact....men will take
Themselves as more superior.  ..especially if they can
See male traits in walk...gestures...talk...female skills are different

It's a growing thing

[big kim]

These are the sort of people who point at planes,I feel sorry for them.The novelty will wear off in a couple of days and they will gawk at something else

[Shannon1979]

Thanks for all the replys. Yea i have to be honest gotten to the point of not caring. i think yesterday i was just having one of those days. nothing seemed to be going right. But today i was back to my usial uncaring self and if anyone has laughed at me i really havent noticed. Its right when you say its a confidence thing. if i walk out head held high and look confident i dont have any problems. 

[Devlyn]

There ya go, they're the ones with a problem! Hugs, Devlyn

[ovz]

I know exactly what you are talking about. Doesn't happen to me anymore, but it used to. I would try to stare them down, but usually lost my confidence and ended up walking away. It's hard to pretend it doesn't bother you... All you can do is ignore it, unless you want to engage them. When I learned to stop caring, I would engage people who laughed at me or made strange comments, telling them to ->-bleeped-<- off, or if my friends were around we would do some strange showy stuff (gay stuff, shh) to freak them out or harass them back and laugh at them. I don't recommend these responses, it was pretty immature of us, hah.

[Emily Aster]

Usually people do not laugh at you if they are alone. Always a group of people dare to laugh at or speak to you. If you do not like being laughed, you may go out with your close friends, preferably with male friends.

And in groups, there's always a ringleader. A very insecure ringleader.

[KarenCDN]

These are the sort of people who point at planes,I feel sorry for them.The novelty will wear off in a couple of days and they will gawk at something else

Hey now ... nothing wrong with pointing at planes.

But yeah, just ignore them (says one that is so scared of actually leaving the house dressed like my true self).