What would I look like?

[justvisiting]

So, I'm currently questioning my gender, and for me a part of that is figuring out what I would look like if I were a guy/went on T. For some reason, I haven't been able to find transition photos or videos where I thought the guy looked like me. I'm not sure if this is because I have an unusual face, or because since it's MY face, I notice more distinctions between it and other faces. Anyway, here's what I look like now:

Do any of you guys know of transition timelines where the guy started out looking like me? Or just photos of what you think I might look like after T? Thanks. (Oh, btw: feel free to call me whatever name you feel like.)

[Simon]

Picture isn't showing up. You have to upload it to a photo site like Photobucket and put the IMG link here for us to see it.

Oh, and transition is a crapshoot. I understand people worry about how they look. Personally I worried if I would pass 100% or not. Attractiveness would just be an added bonus but shouldn't be why you would or wouldn't transition. Transition if you're male...not because you desire to be a hot male.

[dreaming.forever]

Transition if you're male...not because you desire to be a hot male.

This. ^^

I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, I'd rather be a guy with average--or even less than average--looks than be the most beautiful woman in the world with a completely "perfect" body. When it comes to gender versus attractiveness, gender's much more important. It's part of the core of who you are. And anyway, good looks don't last forever.

My advice: Be who you are, not who you think other people want you to be.

[wheat thins are delicious]

Transition if you're male...not because you desire to be a hot male.

Yep.  That said, what you will look like is based on genetics but it's still a crapshoot, as Simon said.  You can look at the males in your family that you already resemble and you might end up looking similar to them, but then you might not. 

[TheoLeo]

. . . and you might end up looking similar to them, but then you might not.

I am on the "might not" end of that spectrum. When I was younger, people used to tell me all that time that I looked like my father. Since I started to transition, I stopped getting that. Now I just get that I sound like him, which I guess was convenient for calling myself out of school. 

[Adam (birkin)]

I find that facial changes, both in my time on hormones and those I have seen, are enough to change the face from looking "female" to "male" but at the same time, they are very subtle. The defining features of one's face don't tend to change that much. Kinda like an opposite-sex twin thing.

[randomroads]

I've seen some 'okay' looking trans men before transition, and when they do transition the masculine features that made them unattractive to me as females were accented and turned them into very attractive men. I've seen some gorgeous 'girls' transition and turn into pretty boys with baby faces that make me want to stare at them for forever. I've also seen people who look generic transition and still look generic. Some never stop looking like they're 15 until they start getting age/sun lines.

So who knows. I'm with the others. I'd rather be a generic looking guy than a beautiful girl. I've already got the 'gosh you sure are pretty' from strangers. Now I'd just like to hear 'holy crap, look at that gorgeous man walking down the street!'

[justvisiting]

Ah. I should clarify. I'm not so much concerned about whether I'll look good, as I am trying to get an image in my head of what I'd look like at all. People say one of the biggest indicators of whether transition is right for you is to think about when you're 30, and if you'd rather look like a 30 year old man or 30 year old woman. I know what I'd look like as a 30 year old woman. I'd look like my mom with short hair. I have no idea what I'd look like as a 30-year old man, especially since all of my male blood relatives are pre-pubescent. I'm a pretty visual person. I don't think I can fully ask myself "do I want this?" until I know what "this" looks like.


Also, I fixed the first post. Photo should show up now.

[Devlyn]

Ah. I should clarify. I'm not so much concerned about whether I'll look good, as I am trying to get an image in my head of what I'd look like at all. People say one of the biggest indicators of whether transition is right for you is to think about when you're 30, and if you'd rather look like a 30 year old man or 30 year old woman. I know what I'd look like as a 30 year old woman. I'd look like my mom with short hair. I have no idea what I'd look like as a 30-year old man, especially since all of my male blood relatives are pre-pubescent. I'm a pretty visual person. I don't think I can fully ask myself "do I want this?" until I know what "this" looks like.

What people say that? A good percentage of the transitioners on this site are well over thirty. What do they go by?

[justvisiting]

What people say that? A good percentage of the transitioners on this site are well over thirty. What do they go by?

Well, not necessarily "when you're 30", but more "10 or so years from now". I'm about 20, so that ends up being "what would you look like when you're 30?"

[Devlyn]

That sounds much better.

[aleon515]

Well I am over 30. Can tell you I am not the slightest bit unhappy with how I look, actually happy with it. I wasn't ugly as a woman, and I'm not ugly as a man. I'm happy with how I look because it feels like how I *should* look, if you get me. You don't change that much though. If I were to go back and look the changes are subtle: less fat cheeks; longer brow, squarer jaw. I think you start looking more angular or something. I can imagine your face like that actually but then I am a very visual person. You have a very androgynous look, that kind of decreases-- at least for me it is.

It is funny as now I look more like my dad and before I looked more like my mom. It makes sense though.


--Jay

[A. Loki]

You know what? I think that wondering what you might look like years down the road is just something we all go through as human beings....but for some of us that deep curiosity happens much later in life  I was always curious about this too, and would sometimes fret about it and whether or not I wanted to transition if there was a chance I'd turn out to be an odd looking guy...but then I realised that transition is all about the little things.  you dont just wake up one day and see some manly man staring back at you  in the mirror; it's more about watching yourself slowly transform into the person that you always were...picture a flower or something slowly unfurling (gawd thats cheesy....). 
I'm a little over a year and a half on T and I can pretty much tell what I'm going to look like from now on, and watching myself become that person  and seeing that achievement reflected in me has been much more rewarding than looking in the mirror and seeing nothing more than some dude.  And it really is a surprise sometimes......originally I was 100% sure I'd look just like Adam Lambert but now I look a lot more like Robert Downey Jr.......