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What made you unhappy today? v3.0

Started by Adam (birkin), July 10, 2013, 04:23:50 PM

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One of my friends met and befriended someone I despise. I didn't say anything since it's none of my business, but it makes me very uncomfortable. This is the person who claims to like knowledge, but freaked out on me for politely correcting them and who tried to treat me as inferior (I use the word tried because I don't stand for that crap). This is also the person who told me one thing and a few seconds later, turned around and said the opposite to someone else, therefore throwing me under the bus so to speak. Still, who are people going to side with? The freak or the one who everyone likes? It's never the freak and talking about people just makes me look bad.
And now I found out that she is lying to my friend about having had cancer. That's low. She never had cancer. She had to have some tests because of abnormal cells, but they turned out to be fine.
Why do these people feel the need to stay in my life? Do I need to cut off all human contact just to stay away from them?
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Darkie

Quote from: Alexis Hennen on September 21, 2013, 02:15:47 AM
Got an eviction notice today, my fiance has tried to kill himself twice in the past week and is now in a lock down unit at a mental hospital. my mother confirmed today that she will never see me again. I feel so incredibly lonely right now.  and at this moment my own mental issues have me thinking of suicide.....

*hugs tightly* I'm sorry dear, I really am. Just remember you are never completely alone.  You have us.
Courage is the power that turn dreams into reality.
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Shards

Quote from: Alexis Hennen on September 21, 2013, 02:15:47 AM
Got an eviction notice today, my fiance has tried to kill himself twice in the past week and is now in a lock down unit at a mental hospital. my mother confirmed today that she will never see me again. I feel so incredibly lonely right now.  and at this moment my own mental issues have me thinking of suicide.....

Alexis, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Feeling lonely is a terrible thing. As Darkie says, though, you really aren't alone. Just keep posting here and remember that people are thinking about you and wishing you well.

Also, please look at the suicide hotlines thread. Please talk to someone, and please don't hurt yourself. As impossible as it feels right now, you will get through this (I really believe that you can).

*big hugs*
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Shards

Quote from: Alexis Hennen on September 21, 2013, 02:15:47 AM
Got an eviction notice today, my fiance has tried to kill himself twice in the past week and is now in a lock down unit at a mental hospital. my mother confirmed today that she will never see me again. I feel so incredibly lonely right now.  and at this moment my own mental issues have me thinking of suicide.....

Alexis, here's a number you can call in Ontario (I checked your location in your profile).

    Mental Health Helpline
    Free Health Services Information
    1-866-531-2600

Please take care of yourself.
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Devlyn

Quote from: Alexis Hennen on September 21, 2013, 02:15:47 AM
Got an eviction notice today, my fiance has tried to kill himself twice in the past week and is now in a lock down unit at a mental hospital. my mother confirmed today that she will never see me again. I feel so incredibly lonely right now.  and at this moment my own mental issues have me thinking of suicide.....

Big hug! We can't have that, hon. Time to set the negatives aside for a bit and start counting your positives. Don't let things overwhelm you, and if they do, please call a hotline, they are trained to help.  We are trained to care, and we do a great job of that!  Hugs, Devlyn
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Constance

Quote from: Alexis Hennen on September 21, 2013, 02:15:47 AM
Got an eviction notice today, my fiance has tried to kill himself twice in the past week and is now in a lock down unit at a mental hospital. my mother confirmed today that she will never see me again. I feel so incredibly lonely right now.  and at this moment my own mental issues have me thinking of suicide.....
I cannot imagine having to endure all of that at the same time. Please don't consider suicide as an option. We're here for you.

King Malachite

over-salted and over-peppered fries and being on my period....second day
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"Sometimes you have to go through outer hell to get to inner heaven."

"Anomalies can make the best revolutionaries."
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Shantel

Quote from: Malachite on September 21, 2013, 05:54:12 PM
over-salted and over-peppered fries and being on my period....second day

Poor kid, you're not having any fun! ((hugs))
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King Malachite

Quote from: Shantel on September 21, 2013, 08:33:35 PM
Poor kid, you're not having any fun! ((hugs))

-hugs- yeah, definately no fun at all.  I'm least I'm getting over a cold!
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"Sometimes you have to go through outer hell to get to inner heaven."

"Anomalies can make the best revolutionaries."
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Arch

Someone I like on another forum has sent me a PM busting my chops about a post I made. She doesn't know I'm trans, and the post has what she considers to be disturbing violence-against-women content. I was just venting about a celeb who rubs me the wrong way, and I fantasized about smacking her or something. People say stuff like that all the time--"I would love to kick this guy's ass"--but because I'm male and the celebrity is female, my online friend has alarm bells going off in her head.

She thinks that my unreasonably strong reaction to this celeb warrants a long, LONG message from her and a long, hard look at whom I'm REALLY thinking of when I react to the celeb. (My mother? The online friend knows how I feel about my mother...)

The gender dynamics of my rant are so incredibly involved that I cannot possibly address them with someone who knows me as a cis man. Just can't be done. Worse, yet, one of the guys I do not like on that forum loved my post, and I cannot imagine why.

I feel stuck and angry and embarrassed. And I want to say that sometimes a cigar IS JUST A CIGAR, but in this case, I'm actually not so sure.
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Adam (birkin)

I hate when people call me "they." I honestly find it really insulting. These people think it makes them THE BEACON OF TOLERANCE but really, it's just othering because they'd never do that to a cis person. -_-
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AdamMLP

Quote from: caleb. on September 22, 2013, 02:54:59 PM
I hate when people call me "they." I honestly find it really insulting. These people think it makes them THE BEACON OF TOLERANCE but really, it's just othering because they'd never do that to a cis person. -_-

I call cis people "they" all the time.  I tend to say the wrong words for things when I'm talking, no one cares if I call an apple an orange, but call a guy "she" and they tend to get upset.  It's not okay if they're doing it because you're trans though.

I'm getting a cold (oh joys of living in close quarters with 209 people), and I think I'm in a bit of trouble with the missus because I got dragged into a drunk girl's bed last night.  I was sober and literally laying there wondering how the heck I was going to get away without her getting upset and waking up the whole room, and she'd got me in a headlock and kept pulling me closer.  I wasn't comfortable being there, but I wasn't confident that she wasn't going to vomit in her sleep.  Luckily she let me go after about fifteen minutes and was fine in the morning.  That was one crazy night, especially as the cold is making me act like I'm permanently drunk, I can't even walk in a straight line.
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Adam (birkin)

I've occasionally called people "they", but in this case, it's pretty obvious that they are doing it because I'm trans and they think that's proper somehow. Cause they're always dodging any pronouns at all.
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: caleb. on September 22, 2013, 05:36:52 PM
I've occasionally called people "they", but in this case, it's pretty obvious that they are doing it because I'm trans and they think that's proper somehow. Cause they're always dodging any pronouns at all.

Do they know your preferred pronouns?
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Adam (birkin)

I make it unequivocally clear that I'm male, so yeah, I think it would be obvious that I prefer "he".
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Darkie

My allergies teamed up with my sunburn to sucker punch me in the face.  Just got home from being at a small one day comic convention and I feel like someone just cleavered me in the head.
Courage is the power that turn dreams into reality.
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: caleb. on September 22, 2013, 05:51:29 PM
I make it unequivocally clear that I'm male, so yeah, I think it would be obvious that I prefer "he".

Not trying to upset you or anything I just think anything short of saying "I am a man" or "Please use male pronouns when referring to me" is not enough to not just give them the benefit of the doubt, correct them and then go from there.  If that is what you mean by making it unequivocally clear, then you are 100% right in them being at fault.
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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big kim

Had to go dumpster diving because I threw a guests false teeth away by mistake when cleaning their room.
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: big kim on September 23, 2013, 05:18:59 AM
Had to go dumpster diving because I threw a guests false teeth away by mistake when cleaning their room.

I have almost the same story except mine was when I worked at McDonald's and he had left his teeth on his tray a few hours earlier lol
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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kira21 ♡♡♡

Was just the first on scene at a road traffic accident that happened in front of me. I went to try and help, but he was clearly, not living anymore. The ambulance called him on arrival. :-/ Kinda feeling... yeah ....   :-/