What made you unhappy today? v3.0

[Shantel]

That awful moment when some gay guy completely ignores and dismisses you, because he moves in LGBT circles and has seen plenty of butch lesbians... so when he sees your too-female features he thinks 'meh, butch lesbian' and treats you like an irrelevance. 

That could work both ways, don't get mad get even! 

[Adam (birkin)]

Mostly just my own mind. Most people in the department know I am trans since I joined pre-transition, but now, I am stealth to the new people who have come in. But there is a good chance, with so many people knowing and me having to be so open about it before, that they could out me to the new people. One of the new people really does not like transgender people...and has made no bones about it. Definitely thinks I am cis too. And she likes me. She laughs with me and we have nice conversations. I've been trying to say to myself "if they out me, even by accident, it's no big deal..." But truthfully, I think I'd be heartbroken because this is the first time I've felt normal in a very long time. Someone actually talks to ME, as a person, instead of just asking about my transition and being fascinated by it all.

[King Malachite]

You're lucky that was the worst that happened with GTA V, I traded in 5 games to get my copy & then today I tripped over the keyboard cable whilst the disc was running, it jolted my 360 & damaged the disc so badly it wont load anymore!!
I don't have any more money to replace it & not enough games left to trade in so will have to go without until I get more money in 10 days time 

Omg you poor thing!    That must have been horrible!  Maybe you can try to trade in the damaged disc?

[big kim]

Seeing a photo of myself

[FTMDiaries]

Stuck at home today because I've been suffering an infection since last weekend and it decided to get much worse last night. So now I'm lazing around watching Jerry Springer whilst waiting for the antibiotics to start working.

[Apples Mk.II]

I hate when in the doctor's waiting room, nurses start reading out loud names to tell people in which order they have to enter the office. So let's say that we are all women in the waiting room.... She was not saying any male name, and they were skipping my turn constantly, until she asked what my name was. Surprise. Not the first time it happens, that they can't find the "man" they are looking for.


And when I advance after that to reception in order to set my next appointment and she says really  loud: "MARIO BROS?" (Replace Mario bros with name and surname). "Just for now. Expect it to change very soon".

[Shantel]

I hate when in the doctor's waiting room, nurses start reading out loud names to tell people in which order they have to enter the office. So let's say that we are all women in the waiting room.... She was not saying any male name, and they were skipping my turn constantly, until she asked what my name was. Surprise. Not the first time it happens, that they can't find the "man" they are looking for.


And when I advance after that to reception in order to set my next appointment and she says really  loud: "MARIO BROS?" (Replace Mario bros with name and surname). "Just for now. Expect it to change very soon".

Welcome to my world hon, I had an odd little bump in my breast tissue, and went to have mammography where they make pancakes out of your breasts. I'm in androgynous mode it's a VA facility and all heads turn and gawk at me as if to say, "Aren't you in the wrong place?" My face is bright red, I'm embarrassed and uncomfortable, the lump turns out to be one of many grenade fragments working it's way to the surface after many years.

[Devlyn]

Welcome to my world hon, I had an odd little bump in my breast tissue, and went to have mammography where they make pancakes out of your breasts. I'm in androgynous mode it's a VA facility and all heads turn and gawk at me as if to say, "Aren't you in the wrong place?" My face is bright red, I'm embarrassed and uncomfortable, the lump turns out to be one of many grenade fragments working it's way to the surface after many years.

Big hug! We are indebted to you for carrying that load all these years, Shan, and the memories it must incur. Hugs, Devlyn

[Shantel]

Big hug! We are indebted to you for carrying that load all these years, Shan, and the memories it must incur. Hugs, Devlyn

For being one of Cindy's kids you turned out awfully sweet, thanks Dev! 

[LordKAT]

Don't let that vanishing horn polish fool you!

[Devlyn]

Don't let that vanishing horn polish fool you!

Hey!

[Renee]

Had a bad back spasm this morning while at work, took some painkillers and it felt better for a bit, but now that I'm at home and not moving so much, most of the pain is returning quickly. I had thought I was doing well avoiding the kind of movement that causes it, but tensed up at the wrong time and pow.  I hope it doesn't screw up my couple days off...

[Jamie D]

Had a bad back spasm this morning while at work, took some painkillers and it felt better for a bit, but now that I'm at home and not moving so much, most of the pain is returning quickly. I had thought I was doing well avoiding the kind of movement that causes it, but tensed up at the wrong time and pow.  I hope it doesn't screw up my couple days off...

Take a long hot bath Jaime.  Epsom salts in the water.  Relax those muscles.  Lit a few candles.  Sip a pina colada while you are at it.

I guarantee you will feel better!

[Adam (birkin)]

I'm starting to get more openly displeased with family who insists on misgendering me, and the few who want to keep the entire transition a secret. Like even the name change...everything. Lol. My aunt was going to my grandma's and I could go early to see her, and I said sarcastically "yay! birthname can come over! With her deep voice and facial hurrs!!" So my mom said I didn't have to come until she was gone, and my brother said "you should go! Keep your chin up." And I said "NO BECAUSE THEN THEY MIGHT SEE THE HAIRS THAT ARE GROWING THERE!"

When I wasn't passing, it was hurtful and disrespectful at best to ignore my transition and lie about it. But now, that I pass 100%, get called sir and patted down my male TSA officers, and have an apparently rather deep voice...it's just stupid, and they are idiots if they think their kids aren't going to notice that I don't look like a girl anymore.

[Shantel]

Had a bad back spasm this morning while at work, took some painkillers and it felt better for a bit, but now that I'm at home and not moving so much, most of the pain is returning quickly. I had thought I was doing well avoiding the kind of movement that causes it, but tensed up at the wrong time and pow.  I hope it doesn't screw up my couple days off...

Treat yourself to a nice hot sit-down bath put your PJ's on and relax it will make a big difference.

[Shantel]

I'm starting to get more openly displeased with family who insists on misgendering me, and the few who want to keep the entire transition a secret. Like even the name change...everything. Lol. My aunt was going to my grandma's and I could go early to see her, and I said sarcastically "yay! birthname can come over! With her deep voice and facial hurrs!!" So my mom said I didn't have to come until she was gone, and my brother said "you should go! Keep your chin up." And I said "NO BECAUSE THEN THEY MIGHT SEE THE HAIRS THAT ARE GROWING THERE!"

When I wasn't passing, it was hurtful and disrespectful at best to ignore my transition and lie about it. But now, that I pass 100%, get called sir and patted down my male TSA officers, and have an apparently rather deep voice...it's just stupid, and they are idiots if they think their kids aren't going to notice that I don't look like a girl anymore.

Ignore her, she won't be there to torment you forever.

[Devlyn]

I thought you were supposed to ice your back because it's already inflamed and heat was counterproductive?  Not a doctor, so......

[Shantel]

I thought you were supposed to ice your back because it's already inflamed and heat was counterproductive?  Not a doctor, so......

I dunno but for me it relaxes the muscles and they seem to un-spazm. Ideally that and a nice rub out by a LMP.

[Renee]

What about if I just take some more painkillers and eat a lot of unhealthy stuff? Sounds like a plan to me...

[Jamie D]

http://www.wikihow.com/Treat-a-Back-Spasm

Devlyn is right for the first 2-3 days.  Ice.

Though a pina colada has always worked wonders for me.