Today's meeting (went well)

[Lesley_Roberta]

I was expecting August 18th actually, only to find it was supposed to be Monday (which I missed) but was rescheduled to today.

Anyway, I went, and the wife came with me (she asked to come, which I think is better than me asking her, it showed she wanted to come).

30 minutes or so later, and I heard a number of things I liked hearing.

First off, hearing the man is sympathetic and supportive of TG was good.

Second, the fact he has been seeing me now for 10 months, he was able to comment, I was stable in my thinking and resolve, and that he considered that a good thing. So while the wait has sucked, it has at least permitted him to evaluate me over a good span of time.

I have let him get updated. Nope I am not content to stay in neutral, I want a female body if it can be accomplished. If I merely can't afford something, well that is better than just denying myself that option. I can at least fight back against an expense barrier. I let him know, I am planning to do what I can to get the man out of my body. And I was able to address my decision in regards to of course the obvious, being married and all and the impacts that come as a result. And the wife was able to comment as well.

I don't care if this damned organ one day simply doesn't work.
I'd rather risk enduring the crying and the depression while I get used to not being able to function 'as a man' if it means I can move forward on functioning like a woman.

Was discussing the meeting today with mom and mentioned I might like to make a more distinctive comment with all the family present, to the effect, get used to calling me aunt Lesley or your sister, as there will come a day you won't get to see what you see currently. But mom vetoed it, well it is supposed to be her 80th birthday, and I am not going to take that from her. Still, if anyone comments on my appearance, I WILL not hide the fact they might as well get used to the fact I am a person under construction

[Ltl89]

I'm glad the meeting went well.

I'm sorry your mother isn't quite on par with you as of now.  Hopefully things will change.  Believe me, I know what it's like to want and desire a mother's approval. 

[Rachel]

Congratulations, the meeting sounds like it went well and the fact your SO attended was very good.

[Lesley_Roberta]

I don't want to make it sound like mom is not understanding though.

You don't get to be 80 often

Everyone in the family already knows, I was just wanting to reinforce the idea with the whole lot being conveniently all present at the same time.

I have gone a step beyond where I could say I was a few months ago.
I am not interested in being in this body nor looking this way.

Eventually everyone will need to contend with me looking increasingly like I want to look. Details like a family event that will occur in May 2014, my niece (sister's oldest) getting married and it was mentioned to me in a conversation by sister I will need to encourage my wife to get a nice dress for the wedding. Ideally, I'd like to be in a position where I needed a nice dress too.

That is primarily what I wanted to convey, that in time, if all goes well, I will be more and more unlikely to show up as the person they were used to seeing. Some day, I want it to be happy birthday aunt Lesley. Merry Christmas Aunt Lesley. I want to be in a position where showing up in a skirt with a nice looking hair do will not be all that unusual.

If life finally cuts me some slack for the first time in I don't know how long, I want to be in a position to tell everyone I am 100% female and their being nothing to trip me up including nothing in the pants to be a matter of inconvenience.

I'd love to be able to go swimming and the only thing bothering me, is I am too heavy to wear a bikini. I want to be able to say 'what's the problem?, we're all girls here' and there be zero chance anyone can actually comment about that comment.

[Ltl89]

It sounds like your family will be fine.  And your right that they will need to adjust, so giving them some time in advance to digest sounds smart.