How to get over not being born female?

[vegie271]

I never hated being trans as much as most other people I've spoken to.  Sure I may never have a period....but at least I don't bleed on my underwear once a month...that would seriously irritate me...

and I may never go through teenage adolescence as a cisgendered female, but I do get to go through a similar process by my own hand....I am in control of it...the chemicals, the doses.....and to see the result and know it was all of my own doing, gives me a serious sense of accomplishment

and another amazing thing, is that I have now been lived under the male and female subcultures.....and that is a pretty amazing thing.  I understand people, my culture, and the world just a little bit better from having been on both sides of the fence

I think a lot of us spend so much time thinking of the negatives of being trans they forget how lucky we are too. Most people will never know what it's like for the other gender. 

I guess neither of you have as much of the ache for a child or pregnancy that some of us have - seriously , every time I see another female either pregnant or with a child or worse yet nursing I ache and tear up.  This has torn me apart my entire life.

[Heather]

I guess neither of you have as much of the ache for a child or pregnancy that some of us have - seriously , every time I see another female either pregnant or with a child or worse yet nursing I ache and tear up.  This has torn me apart my entire life.

Trust me I feel that way too but I know I can never get pregnant so I'm trying to learn to accept it. I really try not to dwell on it to much because it's a negative thought and can make me feel horrible about myself.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Some of us are not trans , yet we are female just not compleate ,& can not have that expreance of haveing our own child , part of our makeup is just that no womb so we know what its like  for women who can not have children because of many different reasons,

yes it comes up for myself in Dejarn our grandchild because from birth she has been very close to me over the 10 y 8 m, she is like she is mine  just i could not give birth to her,  yes it hurts .

There is one detail though. we have 3 grown up adults with 10 grand kids, even so we Jos and  i would not have them had i been born compleat, so we may have disadvantages yet we have advantages so i see it from that point,

I dont look at the what if i look at what we have, & have been blessed with,

...noeleena...