Sometimes I feel like I don't belong in church

[Brandon]

I love going to church as a transguy, I love preacher and everything eveb though the people in their may not agree with homosexuals and what not, I just feel like I'm not normal, I just wish I was a normal guy who wouldn't get looked at funny because of his preference in women or because he's calling himself a man but yet and still he has a female body, Even when we get on topics about marriage and the bible sometimes I just get really dysphoric like for an example be fruitful in marriage or that you can't pull out during sex and that you have to shoot your sperm into a woman and its lke well I can never be fruitful, Even though many of you guys believe their is a lot of infertile people I know some people in my church where as the doctor told they couldn't procreate but my preacher delivered them from that and know has kids,  I'm not a big fan of adoption and artificial insemination, But I just feel like I don't belong here period, I know most men run away when they here thoes words from their gfs/wives but I'd love to here I'm pregnant from my wife, Not just that but just not being seen as male period from my church

[King Malachite]

I understand the pain of not being able to be fruitful.  One if the first (if not the first) commands of the Bible is to be fruitful and multiply! However, since we live in a broken world, there's not much we can do about that.  Just talking to God about how you're feeling about not being able to have children would be the best thing to do and see what He has to say about your situation.

As far as church, you should check out churches that are trans-friendly and look onlnie to see if there are any churches near you that are and if you can't attend one for whatever reason, then find sermons online from them.

[DriftingCrow]

Hey Brandon, I'll just add in that all people at some point in their lives feel as if they don't fit in somewhere. Like Malachite said, you might want to check out different churches, but expect that when going to any new congregation that it will take time to fit in. It's a process of getting to know people and comfortable with your new surroundings.

However, even though the sense of community is very important in religion, it's also important to remember that the point of worship is not only about having friends at church, it's about having a connection with the Creator. If you enjoy the sermons, beliefs espoused by that church, and so on, don't feel too badly if the only negative is that you don't feel as if you fit in with the other members of the congregation. At the end of the day, you want to please God, not other members of the congregation.

[Brandon]

Hey Brandon, I'll just add in that all people at some point in their lives feel as if they don't fit in somewhere. Like Malachite said, you might want to check out different churches, but expect that when going to any new congregation that it will take time to fit in. It's a process of getting to know people and comfortable with your new surroundings.

However, even though the sense of community is very important in religion, it's also important to remember that the point of worship is not only about having friends at church, it's about having a connection with the Creator. If you enjoy the sermons, beliefs espoused by that church, and so on, don't feel too badly if the only negative is that you don't feel as if you fit in with the other members of the congregation. At the end of the day, you want to please God, not other members of the congregation.

To be honest I don't even feel like God is pleased with me

[Del]

Brandon,
I can't speak about transgender issues as I am not transgender.

I do recall reading from time to time when new people come here the advice is to take things slow with transition and weigh everything out from every angle. In that manner they won't make a decision they later feel was wrong and has been irreversible.

In like manner when it comes to the gospel do likewise.
The word of God says to love the Lord with all your heart and all your soul and all your strength and all your mind. In other words put him before everything and allow him to guide you. Even place him before the transgender issues. many times those issues can bring self condemnation from the views of others in the same way that a cisgender person can have self condemnation from going farther with their faith. An example would be going from a rather carnal denominational church to a Spirit filled denominational to a Spirit filled non denominational church. each step brings questions even though each step is made in trust. "Did I do what is right?" and such.

If you keep your love for the Lord first and foremost and try your best to be obedient unto his word trusting his grace in mistakes he will never steer you wrong. He is fair in all areas even though some may say contrary. Trust him or as written lean not to thine own understanding but in all thy ways acknowledge him. He will guide you. Don't give up and don't jump too fast on anything whether transgender issue or spiritual issue.

I hope this helps.
Take care and may God bless.