how does HRT effect sexual experience?

[Yuki-jker86]

I looked for a suitable section, this seems most suitable, but it is a difficult subject, I'll try to be polite.

uhm, so I have been thinking about the sexual experience for a woman, and how I can best approach that whilst not currently having all the right parts. 
I figured that there is one obvious way that a anatomical male can experience that type of sex and that is to  use the other 'door'. well I purchased a special device that is often used to experience that kind of thing solo.
well I find that it is just not fun at all. I found myself puzzled as to why anyone would want to do that.
anyway, I realise it's all to do with intimacy and all that, but here is my question. will the hormones actually change my nerves and how I experience this kid of activity?
will there come a point where using this device on that particular 'door' will be a fun or pleasant experience?

I hope the way I have written this is appropriate! I couldn't find the guidelines for the forum.. doesn't appear to be a section for it.

[calico]

. will the hormones actually change my nerves and how I experience this kid of activity?
will there come a point where using this device on that particular 'door' will be a fun or pleasant experience?

no hormones will not change the nerves, however it may make you more sensitive. IMO pre SRS I did mess around with "that door" and while it was only occasionally enjoyable I have never really cared for anal. Now since SRS I don't think I will ever try that again.
IMO its like beer some people enjoy a good brew others dislike it or never like it, its an acquired taste.

[suzifrommd]

My sexual experience changed immediately upon starting HRT. Before it was a totally physical thing - enough stimulation and the thing would fire. Now it's a mental thing. I could rub it all night and nothing would happen. I have to "think" myself to orgasm. The orgasm is different too. Before HRT, the pleasure was in the "squirt" of fluid. Now the pleasure is more of a whole body muscle rush and the squirt, while it still seems to happen, I can barely feel.

Unlike Calico, I have not noticed being more sensitive since starting HRT, but since I'm my only sexual partner at the moment, I don't know what would happen if someone else touched me.

[TerriT]

That's too bad, I love anal.

What might change it for you is the sort of submissive feelings you'd have with another person. We use a strap-on when we're getting freaky and a lot of what makes it pleasurable is also the feelings of being dominated. My partner is female so it is different. Also, I think it takes some practice and getting used to it. And being sanitary helps.

[Northern Jane]

I never liked anal pre-everything, I didn't like it when I started on hormones, and I didn't like it after surgery. 40 years later and I STILL don't like  it.

There is absolutely NO similarity between anal sex and PIV sex (in my experience)!!!

[Yuki-jker86]

I have to "think" myself to orgasm. The orgasm is different too. Before HRT, the pleasure was in the "squirt" of fluid. Now the pleasure is more of a whole body muscle rush and the squirt, while it still seems to happen, I can barely feel.

I've experienced this. you know I sometimes think I already have a unusual hormone balance because I *think* I experience some of the effects that are said to be caused by HRT.
well yes, I had this sort of 'thought orgasm' by putting myself into a truly feminine headspace. 

hmm, so yeah it is as I was thinking. I think the pleasure of anal is due to the way we think about it rather than the physical aspect. I mean physically, it's not any different from doing a two-sie. I'm not sure If I want to have sex with a man in the future. I do find men appealing in some sense, I just don't find them sexually appealing. in general.  it's a bit mixed up. ah well one day I will know. I am sure I would really like to be 'treated like a lady' some day.

[kelly_aus]

I've never really enjoyed anal solo.. I have enjoyed it when in the company of others - I need to be properly 'warmed up' for it to be enjoyable.

[calico]

My sexual experience changed immediately upon starting HRT. Before it was a totally physical thing - enough stimulation and the thing would fire. Now it's a mental thing. I could rub it all night and nothing would happen. I have to "think" myself to orgasm. The orgasm is different too. Before HRT, the pleasure was in the "squirt" of fluid. Now the pleasure is more of a whole body muscle rush and the squirt, while it still seems to happen, I can barely feel.

Unlike Calico, I have not noticed being more sensitive since starting HRT, but since I'm my only sexual partner at the moment, I don't know what would happen if someone else touched me.

perhaps its because of the mental change for me that has made sensitivity change or maybe should I say it has heightened my awareness. before HRT I'd say I wasn't really into anything sexual or relationship wise , even though in my entire pre- transistion I had only 1 relationship which ended because well.... not going to get into that.

about a couple month into HRT everything changed for me I started getting desires, daydreams, horny actually, than with my 2nd relationship if I was in the mood my whole body seemed to be mmm well hypersensitive and certain spots well they did wonders now that I have had srs and am in my 3rd relationship with a guy, lets just say four-play, kissing ,licking and generally being sensual does wonders but it does however come to a point that well the job needs to be done  and than OMG - I cant explain it other than amazing 

[Yuki-jker86]

heh heh, that sounds wonderful!! ^_^
hmmm... yeah increased sensitivity would probably do me the world of good.
I do get this sense.... that I am missing a lot of feeling somewhere.. I can't place my finger on it just now, but I feel like that when I get touched somewhere, I don't really feel much of anything.
AH!!! yes I just remembered. it was the times when I have *tried* to have sex with a woman.
It just seem like I have no feeling. no sensation.
yes, I certainly hope that will change in a big way.


never found that "g-spot", maybe that is the main problem as to why i don't understand people liking it.

[girlinthecloud]

thought I'd weigh in on this 'touchy' subject  I'm on 8 months on hormones myself ,and before I never understood why people liked it, just like OP did.  I tried slowly experimenting cause I was wondering the same and, Well it was a big revelation for me that I really do like it! and even though i don't do it all the time it certainly can be really really pleasurable.  I notice more skin sensitivity in general and in that area, not just on the 'outside' IYKWIM happy times ..~nadia

[JustASeq]

As for the anal, it was good for me before, now it is even better. This may be due to my body changing and me feeling more comfortable or because my orgasms have improved in quality and quantity. I think also that growing breasts has added a whole new kind of sensory information, making it even better. My sexual appetite is much stronger than it was pre-HRT as well, but I think it's one of those YMMV kinda things.

[Julia-Madrid]

This is such a complex subject really, since we're having to work with a mix of changing sexual response due to HRT, as well as reimagining ourselves as sexual beings with a changing body, and also dealing with changes in our sexual roles. 

When you consider how much of sex is mental and emotional, and considering the various changes we are undergoing as we transition, perhaps it's no surprise that anal sex with a dildo might not work for you.

I have found that anal sex can be an ecstatic exprience, certainly on a par with "traditional" sex, and that was because my boyfriend and I enjoyed an extremely close mental and emotional intimacy which made the experience more valuable than five minutes of friction. 

Also, as transwomen, I believe we should not totally deny our physical inheritance when it can work positively for us:  for better or for worse there's a prostate hiding down there, and stimulation to it can greatly heighten sexual pleasure. 

Like many of us, I am looking forward to vaginal sex, once my bits are appropriately fixed, and would hope that it becomes my primary sexual avenue (ahem!), but I'd certainly not turn down anal sex from time to time - it feels good when done correctly with the right person.  Like all sex

[Clhoe G]

well I guess I'll be straight forward n say that anal sex is the only sex I really like and I've always gotten aroused there just by thinking about it n my mind goes crazy with it, not to mention once I get going, solo or with a guy, I just can't shut up, because it feels like a constant orgasm to me, like I'm really sensitive there n I am 100% shore HRT has enhanced the experience for me.

There is a bit of science behind it...  Heh heh " behind it"  It's got a lot to do with the prostate (a.k.a male g spot) but not only that but also the sensitivity at the "door " entrance, some people like myself even experience some wetness, however science is still unclear as to what glad actually dose this, whether it's the cowper's gland or the prostate glad, but I guess thats because scientists haven't put much effort behind it.. heh heh "behind it"

some people love it, some don't I guess.

[Rachel]

In my past anal sex was pleasurable because my partner was on me, was close and I was able to provide him with pleasure. The feeling while and after was a closeness and a fulfillment.