Quote from: spacerace on August 12, 2013, 02:17:27 PM
I've heard several guys say they will just save for surgery because T is too expensive.
Honestly, the logic behind this has always mystified me. I have budgeted out $8k for Garramone top surgery and travel to Florida. 8k would fund T for years and years. Saving the money is saving the money, and T is much cheaper, so you could get it and always have a reserve to get the next supply of it.
Am I missing something ?
If it is just that they want top surgery first, well then that makes sense, and I understand it completely.
No offense at all you to OP - I thought I wanted top surgery first too, but then I realized top surgery was too expensive and would take awhile to save for, so I decided to start T. Garramone will do it without hormones but still wants a letter from a MD or psychologist. The guy who succeeded Brownstein in CA (Crane) will also do it without hormones I believe.
I can only speak for myself for my particular situation. If I could, I would start T before I have top surgery, but that is not viable in my situation. For me, it is more feasible and much cheaper to do top surgery first. T is more of an on-going process than top surgery where it is more of a one (maybe two) time thing along with the appropriate maintenence. With T, you have to (or you should) go to the doctor at least every three months so they can check to see if everything is alright. Yeah people should be going to the doctor to get their check-ups, whether cis or trans, but lets face it, as of right now in the U.S. many people (including myself) cannot afford to get their routine check-ups, even with insurance (heavens forbid if they don't have insurance) so add that along with T costs. Don't forget actually getting there to the doctor's office. In my area, I would probably have to travel far to get to the approriate doctor. Public transportation is horrible here so I would have to drive. I am an inexperienced driver so there's a great chance I would cause a wreck and have my insurance go up or get a police ticket....hidden potential costs for getting on T once I get my license and start to drive, and then there's the gas cost. Perhaps I could take a taxi there and back (which I probably would) but they aren't cheap either, especially for the routine check-up. With top surgery, I could take a taxi to get to a doctor that would give me medical clearance, and take it back home. I would take a taxi to get to the airport and then take a taxi to get back home and (hopefully) that would be the end of it.
Then there's the social cost. I am not fully transitioning all at once. When I get top surgery, I still have plans on living as a female for a significant amount of time. Don't get me wrong, I would LOVE to fully transition, but I don't feel comfortable doing that in such a small southern town that I grew up in. I want to move up north before I go full-blown on T because the social costs of transitioning down here is just too high for me. As a 21 year old that has never had a job before, I don't want to do something so extreme (like take T) that would hinder my chances of getting a job....especially going for a job where I had an internship at and was seen as female.
Until I have the means to move up north I can just live my life as a "female with a mastectomy". At most, some people may just feel sorry for me and think I had it because of breast cancer (no offense to anyone), but going in with a deep voice, hairy body, masculine face when people have known me as female? Yeah, not an ideal situation in this Bible Belt town. A female with a mastectomy though? So what?
Now lets say I do want to go on T while I'm living down here as I am still thinking about doing that. I hate needles and there's no way I would self-inject or take a taxi bi-weekly to have my doctor inject for me, so I'm going with androgel or androderm. That stuff is not cheap, and I'm a larger guy so there's a chance it may take longer for results to happen which I'm fine with since I would only be taking it to get subtle changes to make me personaly feel better, yet still navigate society as a female, abit more masculine female. However, that would be done after top surgery because for me, there's no rush. If I'm pumping money into androgel the same time I'm pumping money into top surgery, then that means my savings for top surgery will be slower.
I live with my mother, so this is the perfect time to earn enough savings to get top surgery without having to pay for rent, food, etc. It would be very frustrating when I do move, to have to worry about how I have to pay for T, rent, food, bills, etc and top surgery at the same time. Why not knock one out. By that time I should have been healed decently so that's one less thing to worry about.
In short, top surgery is A LOT cheaper for me. I plan on going to Dr. Garramone to get his top surgery AND mansculptue procedure if I qualify which may run me up to 12 grand minimum if his price doesn't increase. That's not including transportation, food, medical clearance, surgical binders, room and board (which I plan on staying at new Beginnings for at least two weeks instead of one), scar creams, flight, etc. Even with all of that (at around 15 grand if I'm lucky), it's STILL cheaper for me than going on T
Sorry this was so long and I don't mean to derail the thread, but I hope I have sort of "demystified" the logic of getting top surgery before T, at least from my perspective. I know my approach may seem a bit unorthodox compared to others but there are a few guys out there like me...that like get "all their ducks in a row" before they start T.