I am nearing the end of my RLT and of the many issues I'm dealing with, the one I have the most trouble with is this: I am lucky and evidently very passable so people who do not know me treat me like a woman. It's wonderful. With people I know, I deal with varying degrees of acceptance, tolerance, disapproval, and subtle forms of hostility. Not many of these people treat me like a woman, but continue to treat me like either a male or a transsexual. The pronouns are more often wrong than right. At first, I tolerated this, accepting it as the normal course of transition. I wasn't going to be one of those ugly transwomen who ran around pointedly correcting others all day long. I've begun to request that people use the right pronouns or gently correct people , but progress is slow. Some people can't and some won't, others try hard. The real problem is regardless of the pronouns and the effort people put into them, you realize they still view you as either male or an oddity.
Okay, so my female identity arises primarily from within but it gets frustrating when people are still reflecting "you're really male regardless of how you look or act" back. Occasionally, this leads me to doubt the validity of my gender identity--back to all the doubts that haunted me most of my life and that prevented me from doing or saying something sooner. I know there's no cure fof this, but I'm beginning to understand why some trans people relocate after transition and go deep stealth.
Dawn