Nine months HRT and counting

[michele302]

Hi Everyone,

I'm almost 57 years old and I am now nine months on HRT.  A couple of thoughts for the record are due.  First, as far as I can tell, the only effects I am getting are in breast development.  No hair reduction, thinning, or lightening of color.  Frankly, I don't think that's going to ever happen.  My doctor basically said that I was just too old.  On the breast front, though, I am doing pretty well.  I am still living and working as a boy and am having to wear sports bras under my shirts.  The tightest ones are best as they keep things for being noticed.   Number two, I have been through several wigs over the years.  Like many of you I was a crossdresser for a long, long time.  Since I am bald, and will be forced to wear a wig for the rest of my life, I broke down and bought a Westen European, virgin human hair wig and had it beautifully styled by a real pro.  Let me tell you, if you need a wig, don't fool around with synthetic.  They look ok if you're just sitting around, but go out in the wind and.....it's not a pretty picture.   Number three, I took voice lessons from two college professors.  One's specialty was drama, the other in singing.  I never gave it enough time to see if it would help, because I just decided I didn't care about my voice any more.  It is so unimportant in the whole scheme of things.  And finally Number 4, I have concluded, as many other girls here, that confidence and attitude are THE most important things to remember.  When you have done everything you can do to present as well as you can, hold your head up high and start enjoying being who you have always truly been.  Screw the little stuff.  You will be so much happier so much faster.  I promise.  Thanks for "listening", and good luck to all.   Michele 

[mrs izzy]

Hi Everyone,

  No hair reduction, thinning, or lightening of color.  Frankly, I don't think that's going to ever happen.  My doctor basically said that I was just too old. 

I would not rule that out. It comes down to getting your T levels in a normal female level or lower is better and body hair should after a few shaving go away. I am in your age bracket and body hair for me is as thin and fine as cis.

Number 4, I have concluded, as many other girls here, that confidence and attitude are THE most important things to remember.  When you have done everything you can do to present as well as you can, hold your head up high and start enjoying being who you have always truly been.  Screw the little stuff.  You will be so much happier so much faster.  I promise.  Thanks for "listening", and good luck to all.   Michele

This is so true and if more would look at this there would be way more happier women and men in transition.

Welcome to the palce where we can be ourselves everyday.
Izzy

[Joanna Dark]

Welcome to Susan's! And congratulations on hitting the nine month mark! It's so great that you're happy and yes I agree confidence is so important. But I don't think you're too old to transition. However, there is a point when it is too late to transition...when you're in the obituary section! If you're alive it's never too late to be yourself and be happy! Heck, you could live for another 40 years, hopefully, and it's best to live them as yourself. Hope you stick around and keep joining in on the awesome conversation! You have a friend in me!

[Jamiep]

Hi Michele & welcome.Your confidence exudes through your wording & I agree, confidence is all. I have purchase several synthetic wigs & purchased my first 100% human hair wig in January, not worn it a lot & I need to find a good place soon to have a little maintenance on it. I love the feel, it is so cool, feels soft and light. Blows in the breeze like natural hair. Voice, I have many people store sales staff, strangers, friends that I have talked to & they say don't worry about not having a female voice. I get the sense that they like hearing your personality, character, expressions & passion in your natural voice. I have several transwomen friends that have not changed their voice. I agree with you regarding voice.

Look forward to seeing you in the forums.
Cheers
Jamie

[justpat]

 Well I am another one in the young- older group 63 and getting ready to start HRT it is nice to see our group here  as most of us have suffered for years and now, freedom to be what we always were.
It just took the courage that I didn't have when working in a truly male dominated field.  Pat

[Jamiep]

Hi Pat, Congratulations on starting hrt, sometimes it is never too late. Best wishes for good results to live authentically as you inside & out in the "golden years."

Jamie

[kathyk]

..... I have concluded, as many other girls here, that confidence and attitude are THE most important things to remember.  When you have done everything you can do to present as well as you can, hold your head up high and start enjoying being who you have always truly been.  Screw the little stuff.  ...... 

Hi Michele.

I'm with you on this.  I'm 62, have been on normal HRT for more than a year, and have lived full-time for a bit more than two months.  It was a hard year, but there was a point in the early spring where comfort overtook me, where my appearance was far less important than who I was, and I accepted that my relationships will continue or end.  I think we all go through these stages with differring magnitudes and affect, but that's life as we know it.   

I'm not a "lucky one" who passes without question, is pretty, or still has that youthful lust for life.  And I can't relate to most of the younger girls on the forum, or will ever fully understand their special problems.  Oh yes, there's some envy for these girls, but then I'm an older woman who takes advantage of the Senior Days and discounts they can't.    Anyway I try the best I can on any given day, I'm happy being me for the first time in my life, and I'm leaving everything else behind.

It's nice to see you're also happy, and in transition. 

K

[Donna Elvira]

Hi Michele and welcome aboard!
I'm another one of the older ladies, 56 next month, and only really decided to go for it with my transition 3 years ago. Based on my own experience, you may yet have some pleasant surprises with HRT. Unlike you it would seem, my breast growth didn't get very far for well over a year after I went full time on HRT. However,since then, they continue to fill out nicely, month after month, slowly but surely and today I am probably a small B which suits me fine.
I also lost all of my body hair and have filled out quite a bit around my behind (pretty full to start with) and my thighs, almost two extra inches in circumference, without any overall increase in weigh, actually a few pounds loss.
So you ar still very much a baby in terms of HRT and as you said yourself, end of the day "confidence and attitude are THE most important things to remember.
Warm regards.
Donna