Man Appreciation Thread

[Sarah Louise]

"I've noticed that a large portion of mtf's have very negative opinions of men"

I will admit to a negative opinion of "Some" men, but certainly not all men.  Yes, I've been hurt a few times by men, but what would we do without them.

There is a place for both men and women in this world, we need both of them.

I certainly would like a man's arms wrapped around me, holding me close.

[Joanna Dark]

"I've noticed that a large portion of mtf's have very negative opinions of men"

I will admit to a negative opinion of "Some" men, but certainly not all men.  Yes, I've been hurt a few times by men, but what would we do without them.

I have noticed a very strong dislike of men among some MTFs in this forum. I also noticed that a lot ofpeople have very negative things to say about gay men. I find it really off-putting. And quite frankly, wrong. I know there is this myth thatgay men don't like trans women but I live in a city that has a lot of gay men and they do not hate trans women--at all. yeah if you online and base your opinions of random posters, of course you wil  think this because hateful people are vocal online. it does not mean they represent anything close to a majority. I just don't understand they hatred of men...unless you were raped. An trust me I have a lot of reasons to dislike men and have been hospitalized over five times because of assualts. I am not talking bullying or insults, I am talking sull on beating, broken ribs, broken orbit bones, broken noses. yet, I have no hatred towards men. In fact, I lovelovelove them. I mean look at my nose. I can show a pic of my nose before these assaults and it is was upturned, straight and cute. now it is horrid.

[Sarah Louise]

Somehow I think you have gotten a wrong opinion of what I said.

I was raped as a young teen, but I don't hate men, I said I have a negative opinion of Some Men.

Note the key words, Negative and Some.

[Horizon]

I appreciate humanity in general.  Gender is such an irrelevant trait when compared to being a human being.

That being said, "pretty boys" are farking gorgeous.  Show me a tall-ish guy with thick, dark, shaggy hair and a friendly face - I'll squeal and possibly pass out.

[Danielle Emmalee]

I have a thing for emo boys. 

[Joanna Dark]

Somehow I think you have gotten a wrong opinion of what I said.

I was raped as a young teen, but I don't hate men, I said I have a negative opinion of Some Men.

Note the key words, Negative and Some.

Oh, I'm sorry I wasn't really speaking to you directly but just quoted your post as it was a platform for what I wanted to say. It was in no way a rebuke of your post at all. I should be more careful quoting people. I am sorry. I totally understand your position. More then you know.

[Sarah Louise]

Ok, no problem.

[TheLance]

I try my best to be the opposite of every bad experience a woman has had with a man. He was rough? I'll be gentle. He was angry? I'll be calm. He was abusive? I'll be every kind of loving that I can be. I have a natural urge to protect women. Comes with some things I saw as a child as well. I just hope that those that were abused understand that not all of us are bad. Crude...well maybe sometimes but definitely respectful and considerate. I definitely have flaws, but so does every other human being. And we do say certain things around other dudes to eh...show off. Heh. But were not bad cause of that. Actually I was on the bus, before I got my car, and this young woman asked if she could use my phone. I let her, of course. I couldn't help but overhear her conversation. She was talking to someone about meeting them at the bus stop and some chick had been saying how she was a bad mom and a bad person. And what killed me is she started to say that it was true, that she was s***. After she gave me back my phone I just kept thinking, what kind of person got her this low? As I went to get off the bus, I realized she was crying. I stopped and kneeled, putting my hand on her shoulder, and I said 'look, I know I don't know you, but you are not worthless, and you are definitely not s***. Ok?'. She nodded and I got off the bus. I swear I'm not bragging, I'm telling yall a personal experience so next time you see some guy that is every bad thing a man could be, keep in mind there are some good ones too.

[Keaira]

I have a groups of men I like, all of them are friends or family. One, is Caleb. As much as he has hurt me lately, I still love him.... im just glad that he is a lot cuter than his avatar. Malachite is a great guy too, not so fat Admin too. But I do have an issue with males when they are A-holes. I was beaten up and teased by boys as I grew up, so I have my own issues I work on. I judge guys and gals on an individual basis.

[A]

Actually I was on the bus, before I got my car, and this young woman asked if she could use my phone. I let her, of course. I couldn't help but overhear her conversation. She was talking to someone about meeting them at the bus stop and some chick had been saying how she was a bad mom and a bad person. And what killed me is she started to say that it was true, that she was s***. After she gave me back my phone I just kept thinking, what kind of person got her this low? As I went to get off the bus, I realized she was crying. I stopped and kneeled, putting my hand on her shoulder, and I said 'look, I know I don't know you, but you are not worthless, and you are definitely not s***. Ok?'. She nodded and I got off the bus. I swear I'm not bragging, I'm telling yall a personal experience so next time you see some guy that is every bad thing a man could be, keep in mind there are some good ones too.

That's just so awesome. I could definitely marry that kind of person. I hope I get to meet someone like you one day, really. And if you have no luck on your side, guarantee that it's not your fault. Well, probably. (Sounds like your common guarantee, haha. Whatever happens, it's covered... well, probably. I feel like Future Shop.)

[FTMDiaries]

I have noticed a very strong dislike of men among some MTFs in this forum. I also noticed that a lot ofpeople have very negative things to say about gay men.

This isn't just limited to this forum: we can also experience strong dislike from some MtFs in real life. Even those of us who have been on similar journeys.

For example: I'm a patient at the UK's friendliest GIC, where patients are made to feel like members of the same family. But you should see the filthy looks we FtM patients get from many of the MtF patients at that clinic. Several of them make it abundantly clear that they really don't want to see us there. If our clinic is a family, we're the unwanted step-brothers.

So my thanks go to Susan, her Mods and posters for keeping this place friendly. Because whilst we have seen a bit of misandry here, it is in fact quite rare and the nastier posts have been acted on immediately. I for one appreciate this.

And Joanna, I'm sorry to hear of your experiences. *Hugs*

[Sarah Louise]

Its just a thought (and my own opinion, which doesn't always mean a lot), but maybe some of the negativity comes from the fact that we were forced by parents and society to live as that gender and we hated it and saw only the bad side of being male.

And we are just showing "negativity" about our own past experiences.

[LordKAT]

Its just a thought (and my own opinion, which doesn't always mean a lot), but maybe some of the negativity comes from the fact that we were forced by parents and society to live as that gender and we hated it and saw only the bad side of being male.

And we are just showing "negativity" about our own past experiences.

Actually this makes sense. I have fascination with and a dislike with women. I had come to this conclusion when it comes to my own feelings. After accepting that, the total dislike has changed in just feeling that women are often just incomprehensible.

[Keaira]

Actually this makes sense. I have fascination with and a dislike with women. I had come to this conclusion when it comes to my own feelings. After accepting that, the total dislike has changed in just feeling that women are often just incomprehensible.

All men think we are incomprehensible. ^_^

[LordKAT]

Correction, we know you are.   But also a challenge and so very beautiful.

[FTMDiaries]

Its just a thought (and my own opinion, which doesn't always mean a lot), but maybe some of the negativity comes from the fact that we were forced by parents and society to live as that gender and we hated it and saw only the bad side of being male.

And we are just showing "negativity" about our own past experiences.

I agree, and we who were forced to live as females against our will can and often do have negative impressions about being female for the same reason. But what Susan's gets right is that in most instances, we all tend to play nicely in spite of all this.

[ZoeM]

Correction, we know you are.   But also a challenge and so very beautiful.

We're not incomprehensible! We're just comprehension-challenged!

I understand myself perfectly well at least 25% of the time.

[LordKAT]

LOL

If you don't understand you, no wonder we don't.

[YBtheOutlaw]

i don't have any specific disliking for males or females. i just hate the fact that i was born female, but that doesn't mean that i hate whole female race. i don't have a specific hatred for males, but there are times when i get dead jealous of some, and i hate the ones who try to act more masculine and try to dominate me, and the ones who try flirting around me. i also don't like women who treat me in a girly girly manner and expect me to behave in the same way. i also don't like men and women who try to cuddle me saying i'm their litte girl or princess and all that. apart from that i'm ok with people, anyways nice to see u all trying to appreciate us!

[A]

We're not incomprehensible! We're just comprehension-challenged!

I understand myself perfectly well at least 25% of the time.

Haha, that's funny.

Though honestly, from my point of view, when there's something gender-related that I don't understand, it's usually about men.