Should I trust my therapists?

[salemasss]

I am going this Friday to the same psychiatrist that I was going for the last 1,5 years. And I really know that I have OCD. It could the reason why I have intrusive thoughts about being transsexual. I am not sure that those thoughts are only part of OCD work. The thing is that both my psychiatrist and psychologist say that I'm not trans. They say that trans people have different problems to mine. Whether I would try to tell my psychologist that I'm trans trans, she just replies that she sees the symptom of my illness. Psychiatrist says that our meetings are worthless if I keep going to the sites like this. I know that a therapist shouldn't normally say whether I'm trans or not but I know that if a person has OCD he or she can't simply make up his or her mind. It's a doubting disease. I asked once my psychologist to call me Simone and she refused by replying that she would have to consider it because she knows me as Simon. Would it hurt to her, if I didn't like being called Simone at least I would know. I can't believe that they could be incompetent fools. Psychologist is having sessions at organization of tolerant youth. She has doctor's degree. And she participates in events where LGBT problems are talked about. She is fine with me being gay, I don't get then why I'm unable to convince her that I'm trans. Psychiatrist also has done a lot of studies. She tried to explain to me that trans women are real women in men bodies. But why she doesn't think that I could be the one. When I first went to her I was very scared that she was going to say that I'm trans and also told that I would rather lock myself away than transition(don't know why I thought like that then), that's why I think she thinks I'm not trans, but things have changed now a bit. My friends also don't believe that I'm trans. One of them believed at first but says that he doesn't think I'm the one because I keep changing my mind. Another one says that he just doesn't feel like talking with a woman when he talks with me. He means that I don't have feminine mannerisms, don't wear female underwear, don't cross dress, that's why I can't be trans. What are your thoughts? Feel free to ask me more.

[Ltl89]

I'm not in the position to question your doctors credential or qualifications, but I would recommend you see someone with extensive knowledge of trans issues.  Judging from what I have read here, it seems they are going by some stereotypes in order to make their assessment.  I could very well be wrong, but I believe that is something worth being concerned about.  Have you tried contacting another doctor who is trained in gender issues?

[Sarah Louise]

It sounds like you have a long hard road ahead.  If they are not willing to consider that you could be/or are Trans, you might need to look for a different person to see.

If you can't trust your therapist, you should not be seeing them.

[salemasss]

I thought the same thing that they might be judging me by stereotypes and because I'm not typical "I knew I was a girl since I was 4", this makes things very confused. What really does difficulties that I live in a country there is not an official worker with transgender issues. I can only know from ordinary people, in other words I have to ask around to know if there are people experienced in that area. I can't transition anyway since I still live with my parents. I am really not going to lie to my therapist that everything is alright when it's not. I do have a head of my own after all.

[Ltl89]

I thought the same thing that they might be judging me by stereotypes and because I'm not typical "I knew I was a girl since I was 4", this makes things very confused. What really does difficulties that I live in a country there is not an official worker with transgender issues. I can only know from ordinary people, in other words I have to ask around to know if there are people experienced in that area. I can't transition anyway since I still live with my parents. I am really not going to lie to my therapist that everything is alright when it's not. I do have a head of my own after all.

If you don't mind sharing, what country do you live in?  I understand if that's too private a question.  However, I would be surprised if there isn't someone in your area that deals with gender issues.  There must be a gender therapist somewhere, at least I hope.  Have you looked it up on line?  Also, it may be worth calling a local lgbt organization in your area to see if they have any suggestions.  Lastly, there is always online therapy as well. 

[salemasss]

If you don't mind sharing, what country do you live in?  I understand if that's too private a question.  However, I would be surprised if there isn't someone in your area that deals with gender issues.  There must be a gender therapist somewhere, at least I hope.  Have you looked it up on line?  Also, it may be worth calling a local lgbt organization in your area to see if they have any suggestions.  Lastly, there is always online therapy as well.

It's Lithuania. You have no idea how close minded government is in here. The psychologist I've been going to was the one whose purpose is to help LGBTQ youth, but I suspect that she is more ready to help to gay people. That's what she tells me that I want to become a woman because I don't want deal with being gay. Rubbish. Being gay is so much easier than being trans. Firstly because there are much more people born gay than there are people born transsexual. She says that I just fail to convince her that I'm trans. My facial expressions, my voice says that I don't want it at all despite the words I say. Alright, I am confused. But I hate being treated the way I am. It seems I just have to know the right psychiatrist. The current one acts like that my insisting that I'm a woman is voluntary self destruction.