Would you say my plan is realistic?

[sd529]

I would say, on the whole, that I'm an optimistic trans person. Even though right now is a bit of a down period for me (due to a bout of unemployment), I still believe that I can transition and be successful in my life.

In fact I'm looking to start the whole process in the next month or so, and I couldn't be more excited for it. I'm 26 now and with some luck, hopefully I could have it all done by the time I'm 30. (I'm in B.C. in Canada, so everything is covered, which is a huge load off of my mind for figuring what this will cost)

Having said that while I do have my plan for life, sometimes I feel a bit...worried. What I'd like to do is be a web developer, and I have the knowledge now to start and be self-employed. (While some people might be put off by coding, I started looking at it not long ago and fell in love with doing it, and I'm proud to be self-taught in a lot of the languages) After my transition is done, I'm planning to move overseas to the U.K. to start over (though I am looking at Scotland, too; I can do either because I have ancestral visa rights to do it).

I guess the worry I have is with who I am and doing this...I read all of the time about those who either fall through the cracks or don't succeed due to being trans, but I have great faith in myself that I can do it. I've actually faced no huge troubles so far; nearly all of my friends know and my family does as well about who I truly am, and all of them have had no issues with it (something I consider to be a blessing).

I have the skills and I can make it...I suppose I'm asking for opinions here to calm my fears down some (or perhaps I'm just being silly fearing this all so much ).

[Christine167]

Your plan is doable. That said for the proper nouns that include job title and location where you plan to live be flexible.
It is far easier to go with the flow and work with what you have & what comes your way than it is to follow a strict path that keeps throwing obstacles in your way.

So hang in there, do what you have to do to make a living and who knows you might end up on the opposite side of the planet from Scotland.

[Seras]

I hope you like the cold and wet!

[sd529]

@Seras Considering I've been in near Vancouver most of my life, and had a year and a half in the Netherlands, the rain and cold are not a bother to me at all! In fact I enjoy it a bit.

@Christine167 Oh, for sure I'm not as rigid in my plans to factor in other things. After all, if you're not then when the obstacles come they just shut you down! I suppose having my other dream to work towards helps, though; I took a visit to the U.K. when I was in the Netherlands and for me it's a good second choice and one I can do. (I love the Netherlands, but they make you jump through a lot of hoops in order to try and immigrate there and...well, maybe when I'm 40. ) Transition, I know, is going to be a challenge in itself and something I'll be proud of once it's all done. I guess at times my optimism just takes a hit when I think about it all, because I want to ensure this other desire doesn't get lost in it all.

[A]

Uuuuhm, I don't see any problem. Of all kinds of work, developer jobs are in my opinion some of the most problem-free jobs. In several positions you're rarely if ever needed to meet clients, and it usually takes smart (thus, with a bit of luck, understanding) people to do the job. So if the people at your job end up knowing, it's unlikely you'll be discriminated against.

Myself, I've just come out to my classmates (I'm studying in what is basically Web development and graphic design) and there's been absolutely no awkwardness or bad reaction. Things are absolutely unchanged, even a bit better, maybe.

Your plan completely works, I say. I don't think you have to move away either.

[Isabelle]

Your plan will work but, life is what happens while you're planning for it John Lennon said that... Give me all your money... I said that