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Started by Allison, August 28, 2013, 06:09:57 PM

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Allison

Urgh I'm super excited and super nervous at the same time. I don't even know what to say, part of me is worried they won't see myself as I have since I was 14 but part of me is more than confident they will see me for who I am. I mean everyone that I'm close to said they knew it way before I came out.

It won't make a difference if I go in "boy" mode though right? This is because I'm coming from college and I kinda am trying to not to out myself before I'm ready to the whole school, even though everyone SHOULD know because of how I act. Regardless; this is all happening because I have the most wonderful friend who was there for me when nobody would be. I can't wait...
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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Ms. OBrien CVT

ether way.  The therapist generally does not care on the first meeting.

  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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mrs izzy

Wish you luck for your meeting. Be honest and be youself. Do not try to think of what they want you to say, just say what you want.

As for dressing i would say its not a issue until someone is full time or in the RLT that you need to dress to impress.

Hugs
Izz
Mrs. Izzy
Trans lifeline US 877-565-8860 CAD 877-330-6366 http://www.translifeline.org/
"Those who matter will never judge, this is my given path to walk in life and you have no right to judge"

I used to be grounded but now I can fly.
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Allison

Well my friend's car broke down and can't take me now so that's absolutely wonderful... and now I have to find a new ride. Why does the world hate me so much.
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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Allison

I am really hoping everything works out, since there is only 6 hours until my visit, but I highly doubt I'll be able to go. People wonder why I'm a pessimist. I'll let you all know how it goes....
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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Ms. OBrien CVT


  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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JillSter

Taxi may be costly, but under the circumstances... Probably worth the investment!

Good luck! I hope you get there and all goes well. :)
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Allison

It's over an hour away. However I left my therapist a message and let him know the circumstances and he was completely sympathetic and I am so glad we have someone like him. I rescheduled for Wednesday next week so I can 100% go because I KNOW my cousin doesn't have any classes then!
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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aleon515

Quote from: Allison on August 28, 2013, 06:09:57 PM

It won't make a difference if I go in "boy" mode though right? This is because I'm coming from college and I kinda am trying to not to out myself before I'm ready to the whole school, even though everyone SHOULD know because of how I act. Regardless; this is all happening because I have the most wonderful friend who was there for me when nobody would be. I can't wait...

Actually it's a good test for the therapist. If you go in "boy" mode then the therapist gets merits for doing stuff like asking your preferred name etc. If they don't it's a demerit.

And yes, you should be evaluating them too!!


--Jay
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Allison

Quote from: aleon515 on August 30, 2013, 03:18:51 PM
Actually it's a good test for the therapist. If you go in "boy" mode then the therapist gets merits for doing stuff like asking your preferred name etc. If they don't it's a demerit.

And yes, you should be evaluating them too!!


--Jay

I'm actually going to see this therapist because of his GLOWING recommendations from the local Trans Support Group. When I SET UP the appointment he asked me if I was MTF or FTM and my preferred name and when he called me about my reschedule he asked "Is this Allison" and not my birth name so he is 100% sympathetic to trans people.
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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Allison

Well I get to see the therapist tomorrow I'm so excited for real guys. I am 100% able to go and this is such a big moment for me. My mom even washed the more feminine coat I have without even knowing I was gonna wash and wear it tomorrow. Gotta shave my legs tomorrow though >>
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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mrs izzy

Yeah, Lots of luck in your trip. There just be honest and yourself and everything will work out the way it is supposed to.

Hugs
Izzy
Mrs. Izzy
Trans lifeline US 877-565-8860 CAD 877-330-6366 http://www.translifeline.org/
"Those who matter will never judge, this is my given path to walk in life and you have no right to judge"

I used to be grounded but now I can fly.
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Allison

Yeah nailed it; because he gets to know his clients through email before the first session he got to the nitty gritty and long story short; I have my letter just need a job and to find an Endo now. WOOP WOOP.
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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Ltl89

Quote from: Allison on September 04, 2013, 02:10:10 PM
Yeah nailed it; because he gets to know his clients through email before the first session he got to the nitty gritty and long story short; I have my letter just need a job and to find an Endo now. WOOP WOOP.

Awesome!  I'm glad it went well.  Now on to the Endo!  :D
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Allison

Needs the money now but the scariest part of all this is now over... I can live my life without having any barriers there preventing me from being happy with myself!
You know I'd rather say nothing; and just be proud of myself for tearing down these walls.
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