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[calico]

with the recent what seems to be bad stories I have decided to put something positive up. Some is fruit for thought, and another is just something that pleasantly surprised and made me feel wonderfull.

well first most of us are so concerned with if we pass or not that it takes such a toll, this goes for post-pre, etc and sometimes we have this idea of what passing is and and what it isn't. Well let me tell ya women come in all shpes size's and looks, and many tg folks blow some natural cis women out of the water so that being said the less time you spend being worried about pass or not and just going with the flow, the less likely someone will pick-up on you being made. Seriously come to where I live and people watch, I have seen 7 foot girls with chiseled jaw lines that look like they could bench press a car, to bony girls who look like they could snap if they missed one step. so.... wasting your time and start living and being happy!!!!!! because wasting time thinking you do or don't isn't worth it, there are much better things to do...
2. this goes for post op and those considering srs, just like the vast varieties of women all over the look of the vagina is also the same, so don't think pornstar quality is what every other girl looks like there is everything from droopy like a blood hound to petite as a school girl, there is fat and small and all sorts of varieties, so don't go in thinking its going to look like tina tight thong! just like every other girl its going to be unique to you and that being said no less not passable.

and onto todays pick me up, well I got up a lil early and recently I have been getting more make-up but I have never really been one to use much being pretty much a tom-girl not that I don't understand how just I  usually don't do it on the thought that I got better things to do with my time and well today I had some time and said what the heck why not.. and well got dolled up and felt a lil out of my norm but I said hey why not,usually I do use make-up but I usually don touch the eys and this is where I did the make-up so any way.....  went to work and 3 co-workers noticed and said I looked good and should wear it more often, and I thought maybe they where just being kind... nope had multiple customers hit on me a couple bought me a drink from the pop machine and a couple were really trying to get my number and what I was doing later.... lol I've been hit on but this made my day   so thought I would share, and I think I will prob do this more often now as nothing make a girl feel better than getting re-confirmation that she is attractive

[Corwynn Jade]

Congratulations, and thank you for the positive story. It is always nice to hear about people's successes too.

[Jamie D]

Calico, you make me feel good 

[Renee]

I agree with you, I've done a lot better since I've stopped worrying so much and just let the crazy flow. 

[calico]

Calico, you make me feel good 

And that makes me happy, and really is the point of this thread. if this helps just one person then this post was worth it to me, I truly love everyone here and it saddens me when I see self doubt, fear and those feeling like they should just give up or end it. If I was rich I would personally help as many as I could! , but alas I am not some big dough rolling rich person so I can only offer words and hope the richness of my honesty can help someone.

[Joanna Dark]

I love this thread so I'll add to it. There does seem to be a lot of sad stories in the trans world but I was just thinking today how beautiful my life is now. Today, I woke up cuddled next to my BF who I just spent the last 36 hours straight with, I bought these awesome canvas flats with this really pretty print on them, I can shop with impunity and use the women's dressing room and no one bats an eyelash, last night I wnet out to eat and walked around Center City holding hands and my life counld not be better. But, oh yeah, it got better cause, today I found out I have a job interview with this local women's magazine next week.

One year ago, I had recently been beaten with a Glock 9 and robbed and I told them to kill me, then I was arrested for heroin possession, then I got put on porbation but spent half the year worrying about going to state prison where people like me get raped, and then finally i was about to take T to try and get rid of my GID.

So, lf I get this job, in a year's time I will have SRS and even if i don't if you woulda told me last August what today and yesterday were like, I woulda said I tired magick and converted to witchcraft, it didn't work. Well, i guess it did afterall. So I mean this when I say it: it does get better. And everyone can pass, some are just luckier, but I firmly believe everyone can if they present right, meaning hiding male flaws.

[calico]

I love this thread so I'll add to it. There does seem to be a lot of sad stories in the trans world but I was just thinking today how beautiful my life is now. Today, I woke up cuddled next to my BF who I just spent the last 36 hours straight with, I bought these awesome canvas flats with this really pretty print on them, I can shop with impunity and use the women's dressing room and no one bats an eyelash, last night I wnet out to eat and walked around Center City holding hands and my life counld not be better. But, oh yeah, it got better cause, today I found out I have a job interview with this local women's magazine next week.

One year ago, I had recently been beaten with a Glock 9 and robbed and I told them to kill me, then I was arrested for heroin possession, then I got put on porbation but spent half the year worrying about going to state prison where people like me get raped, and then finally i was about to take T to try and get rid of my GID.

So, lf I get this job, in a year's time I will have SRS and even if i don't if you woulda told me last August what today and yesterday were like, I woulda said I tired magick and converted to witchcraft, it didn't work. Well, i guess it did afterall. So I mean this when I say it: it does get better. And everyone can pass, some are just luckier, but I firmly believe everyone can if they present right, meaning hiding male flaws.

I am glad to hear it came around the way it did for you, and congrats on the job interview I hope it goes well.
back before I decided to transition, I did a couple things similarly to you, except being beaten. Hong with the wrong people tried heroin which put me in the hospital, went to jail because I was talked into stealing something,  lol back then a couple friends said I really needed to examine my life as this was not who I was (then) to think if someone told me how my life would be as of recent i'd probably laugh and tell them if hell froze over. well I took a look at my self and guess hell has frozen over ha!! while my life isn't perfect and I sure have problems once in a while, I am happier than I ever was, and not self-destructive.

oh and I now have a wonderful boyfriend in my life who has said he loves me!!!!

[Lesley_Roberta]

I have not got the pleasant story about me so much, but I will comment for your threads sake.......

If someone asked me to list the top 10 good looking females I know personally, the thing is, the top slots are people that were not born with a vagina

Yeah it's true, I know some really good looking girls, and they had to work at it. But hey, it can be done.

[Joanna Dark]

oh and I now have a wonderful boyfriend in my life who has said he loves me!!!!

Awww that's sweet and AWESOME! Congrats! There are so many sad stories on here and it makes me feel out of place sometimes because though I have problems overall transition is great and becoming even better everyday. I totally recommend it.

[calico]

Awww that's sweet and AWESOME! Congrats! There are so many sad stories on here and it makes me feel out of place sometimes because though I have problems overall transition is great and becoming even better everyday. I totally recommend it.

Thanks so much!!! without taking the step forward I am certain I would have became a statistic, which I am rather grateful that I haven't. Sure there are issues some I deal with daily, but its far better than the alternative I would say.