really,is it like this?...

[Kei22]

As yoi guys know i am a rollercoaster of emotions and at some points i get scared and think everything is just me rushed by society to be another person and i get totally lost. At times i feel genderqueer*androgynous* and then a little trans,but i know all those are just labels ans i am sure that i'm not a common person and sure of how i feel.

Well last night my brother woke me up*i don't know how he found out*
But told me a bunch of stuff,that i should mot follow what society wants from me and that i am a beatiful and intelligent woman and  that i cannot change the gender i was born as and to never accept labels and believe i am something that a'm not...well i remember all of it half assed because he woke me up in the middle of the night to tell me that....really?.

I had never felt preassure by society to be something else,well yeah,what they want me to be,a pretty girly girl,but i am not,i don't follow your labels,i wasn't born knowing wverything,i didn't care of dresses and those stuff when i was really young,i know that at some point stuff started bothering me and i just quietly kept on living my life.

Thanks to youtube and other people i came across lots of info and stuff that made me realize what i may be,thus making me curious to learn,being curioud doesn't mean you are trying to learn how to be something,it means you like to learn about new stuff and how the world moves arpund you.

I know i am a girl,i know i can "change" that but at the same time nobody really  can change they're gender,but i don't want to change that,i just want to feel comfortable in the skin that i was born with and the body that i got.

That's how i feel and no one decided nor got that in to me.

Sorry for the long rant guys....i just..yeah.

[Jamie D]

Kei, I am in the school of thought that states that "gender identity" is innate and largely unchanging.  You can't really change your gender (that is to say, how you feel inside).  If it were that easy, I think a lot of us would not be here!

However, you can change your gender presentation at will.  And that may be a good start for you.

[Taka]

your brother is right that you cannot simply change the gender you are born as. the body though, can be changed quite a lot (there truly aren't only two sexes to choose from)...

i have no interest in being a beautiful woman, so i wouldn't ever let anyone use that as a reason for why i shouldn't do whatever i want with my body. still, some times i really do want to be a beautiful woman, and... i'll just have to learn how to crossdress beautifully if i end up transitioning far enough form the female ideal.

try reading family compo for a light-hearted manga about a young bigender person. there's a lot you can do without transitioning given that you don't have too pronounced secondary sex characteristics.

[Shantel]

I get you Kei22, it was a worthy rant! Family always does that to us, they mean well even though they don't understand us and our stuff. Just be who you perceive yourself to be, don't succumb to any family pressure or outside peer pressure and it will all fall into place!

[Simply_Sir]

Kei, I am in the school of thought that states that "gender identity" is innate and largely unchanging.  You can't really change your gender (that is to say, how you feel inside).  If it were that easy, I think a lot of us would not be here!

However, you can change your gender presentation at will.  And that may be a good start for you.

My gender identity is always changing, I think. Some days I feel like my head is a boy, sometimes I feel like my emotions are a girl, sometimes I feel like my heart is everything all at once, sometimes I feel like my spirit is nothing at all. I'm not sure if that makes sense. Maybe we can't change out genders, but can our genders change? Can they change us?

[Taka]

My gender identity is always changing, I think. Some days I feel like my head is a boy, sometimes I feel like my emotions are a girl, sometimes I feel like my heart is everything all at once, sometimes I feel like my spirit is nothing at all. I'm not sure if that makes sense. Maybe we can't change out genders, but can our genders change? Can they change us?

might also be that your gender identity is fluid, both, or all. do you think you can stop your gender from switching all the time? i believe that just like it is possible to identify as one fixed gender, it is also possible to identify as more than one gender, often in a fluid state. and whichever a person is, they san't easily change it, and it can't be changed by force.

[Simply_Sir]

might also be that your gender identity is fluid, both, or all. do you think you can stop your gender from switching all the time? i believe that just like it is possible to identify as one fixed gender, it is also possible to identify as more than one gender, often in a fluid state. and whichever a person is, they san't easily change it, and it can't be changed by force.

Hmmm... I think what happens is that my environment and mood (mood disorder = constantly changing) switch my gender. When I feel like a boy, for example, it is usually triggered by anger, pride, or empathy. Girl mode is triggered by enthusiasm. Etc for the rest of the gender types I feel. Like Kei22 originally stated, I just want to be comfortable. Maybe by feeling one gender or another, I am switching mindstates which makes me more comfortable with my emotions and environments. However, there is also a pressure to switch gender expression for each different gender identity, which can make me UNcomfortable. It's probably a matter of balancing self-expression and self-confidence. Interesting.