Opinion of Virginity?

[kyril]

Hm, I've rarely had any trouble drawing the "what is sex" line, even though it doesn't particularly mean a whole lot to me. If anyone's pants come off I might as well just call it sex already, because something's going to end up inside something.

(I did have one experience that was difficult to classify - I was with two other guys, and I made out/fooled around with them both, and they unambiguously had sex with each other, but my participation in that portion was limited to things I consider not-sex, so I'm not certain if I should consider myself to have had sex with them. If that had been a candidate for my "first time" I might have been somewhat confused.)

[Jeatyn]

If anyone's pants come off I might as well just call it sex already, because something's going to end up inside something.

Oh this made me laugh

I've never seen sex as a big deal, more like a hobby actually. The only value I put on virgins is I know I won't catch anything off them

[cynthialee]

In my opinion sex hapens when someones genitals get touched. Thats my line.

For me I had a few diferant 'virginitys'.

My first time masturbating.
My first sex with a boy.
My first sex with a girl.
My first time I recieved anal.
My first time with more than one other person.

[Crow]

For me I had a few diferant 'virginitys'.

My first time masturbating.

On that note, I do believe I lost my virginity at the age of two. *whistles innocently*

[Elijah3291]

In my opinion sex hapens when someones genitals get touched. Thats my line.

For me I had a few diferant 'virginitys'.

My first time masturbating. 16
My first sex with a boy. 19
My first sex with a girl. still a virgin
My first time I recieved anal. still a virgin
My first time with more than one other person. still a virgin

[Jeatyn]

According to that list I'd lost all my virginity's by the time I was 13 xD good god

[Ryan]

11 for me if we count masturbation, hahaha.

[Shang]

It was crossing my mind recently, and what are your guys' opinion on virginity, like who to lose it? A friend to explore, the person you love, or even a stranger? I just kind of want some opinions because I'm sort of at that decision right now and I want some older guys's views on stuff before I set out to do something stupid.

I differ from the above opinions, but I think you should lose it only to someone you love (or think you love).  Though a really good friend might work, too, assuming it won't damage the relationship.  I lost mine willy-nilly because I didn't know what else to say (which was stupid of me).  Nothing magical or fun about it, though.  I think I need to find people that are better at sex xD (for the record: I've only slept with two people).

[Radar]

Miss Cynthia, I'm so sorry to hear that. You are a strong woman.

As for sex I didn't lose my virginity until older than many people. I wasn't interested in sex and wasn't interested in sex as me in the female role. I eventually gave in but saw it as no big deal. I say do it whenever you feel ready.

As said before, protection is crucial. Not just as birth control but to prevent diseases.

[Nikolai James]

I don't place too much value on virginity, but that might have something to do with my earliest impressions of sex and my girlfriend forcing me into my first time when I was 15. It took me a few years to finally own up to it and then realize "hey, I'm not filthy or dirty or a slut, it wasn't my fault." I've always thought the hype about "saving your virginity" to be nonsense anyway, though. Typically your first time won't be all that special like a lot of people seem to set their expectations for. It's just the beginning of something that gets a lot better with experience. It's a healthy sex life you wanna strive for. I personally prefer to just shag people I care about, but different folks/different strokes. Who you lose it to isn't as important as you losing it when you're ready.
I do think sex itself is something you should save and you should make sure you're ready to have it before you get into bed with the other person, whether it's your first time or your seventh. What that means for you and the other person is totally variable, whether you're in a committed relationship and you only wait a week or six months, or you're hooking up with somebody for just one night. As long as both people are comfortable with it an aware what it means to the other person, that's what matters. If it's not fun for both of you, what's the point?

My first girlfriend obviously didn't respect me, and I obviously didn't respect myself enough to drop her like it was hot the first time she forced me into sex. But in a way I'm glad for that experience because I learned from it, and I knew I was ready to be sexually active with my current boyfriend before we started messing around. Of course, we were friends for ten years before we started dating, so that was only about a week.

[Xren]

Virginity is a subjective concept.  It doesn't mean much at all, other than how one views themselves in regards to their experiences.  For example, there were some goddesses in ancient Greece who were seen as virgin, though they were far from asexual.  Another example is myself: I've never had vaginal intercourse and never want to, (though I have done other things,) but I don't consider myself a virgin.  So many people these days have an obnoxious attitude about virginity or lack of, as if it's a way to measure personal worth, wisdom or how interesting someone is.  It's not like the clouds open up at a first sexual contact and send Jove's Lightning down to change the essence of those involved or forever mark their foreheads for all to see. 

As for this:

Wow, that sounds like something a virgin would say, if you've done it, you'll know it.

I've "done it," and I know this statement is, well, bothersome.  To say the least.  And the implication that you know better because of your...uh...status?  Inaccurate.  This is exemplary of the messed-up attitudes going around.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

It was never a big thing with me. I didn't care if I even lost it. Yeah i'd like for it to be someone I trust to see me and have sex with me and still see me as a dude. And I did. To my ex. But that's whatever. It's still not a big issue to me. It's like every other moment in our lives. It happens. Then it's just a memory. It can be left behind if it's all that bad. In my opinion anyhow.

[Nygeel]

Virginity is a social construct. The idea of a person being more virginal or pure because they didn't do a certain sex act...it's just not something I agree with feel exists to me.

With that said the first time I had sex (definition of sex also varies from person to person) was a one night stand with a friend of mine who was visiting from another state. This was about 5 years ago and I still talk to her. I don't see it at all as being a mistake. It was an enjoyable way to spend time.

[Squirrel698]

Personally I recommend that you masturbate a whole lot and get to know your pleasure centres.  That information will be helpful when you tell your partner the best way to pleasure you. 

I have GD but I manage to get around it by closing my eyes and envisioning that my clit is a tiny cock.  That my body with it's unwanted curves is a fit male body.  That my breasts don't even exist. 

Then when you are ready find someone you trust and feel comfortable with, not necessarily love.  You need to be vulnerable to this person.  They need to go slow and at your pace.  Sex is honestly fantastic when you connect with someone.  But it can be awful if you feel uncomfortable or put upon or doing it out of obligation.  It's finding that balance.  If you aren't at least a little comfortable with yourself I can't see how you could ever enjoy sex. 

[Nygeel]

For me when it comes to jerkin' off...well...I never touch myself directly which makes it much easier to think of myself as male.

[Lauryn16]

I lost my virginity at 14.

[Danielle Emmalee]

In my opinion sex hapens when someones genitals get touched. Thats my line.

Wow...that's a little too broad for my liking. I think you have to at least add in "with sexual intent of at least one of the parties involved"

[cynthialee]

Wow...that's a little too broad for my liking. I think you have to at least add in "with sexual intent of at least one of the parties involved"

I thought that was a given.....

[Danielle Emmalee]

well that cuts my virginity losing age in half lol