how to initiate sex change

[akshita]

i am a 24 year m2f transgender from India. since childhood i wanted to become a girl and imagined myself a girl since then. i always wanted to be in  between girls. i did'nt knew at that time what is it and what is happening to me. i belong to a middle class family and i had not had access to internet or other  information at that time also my parents were restrictive . i was afraid of my parents anger so i decided not to tell them about my problem.
upon reaching adoloscence problems begin to increase i began to feel enormous anxiety , headache  and discomfort to male identity and clothings . whenever i saw girls i got panic in jealousy. i was having suicidal thoughts. i had no interest in guys as companion.

when i got to my engineering college one day i searched about my condition and i got the term transgender and other stuff . i researched extensively on it and its treatments. after  that i decided to become  trans. i wanted a complete and proper transition so i waited until i become financially secure. so i beared all anxiety and waited till i graduated. i also wanted that i would not make any hasty decision so i decided to consulted a psychiaterist

i was confused of how to explain my condition to my parents  as they didnt knew that this phenomenon actually happens and they never belived me so i decided to let psychiaterist to explain this condtion to them.

so i decided so i written down all my problems on a notebook and handed over to them. they agreed to meet psychiaterist

i told him all my problems. i was in a state of deep depression (according to doctor) and he told me to let me solve this matter first and resolve the GID later.

i recieved various anti depression treatements over two years.however my discomfort with  male identity elevated. now my psychiaterist tell me that a gender transition is not possible and i better to live with this for the rest of my life. i am a bit puzzled about this as i know that a sexual transition is common today.

when i explained my problems to my parents so that if they can help me with my transition . they got angry upon me and said that this is all from internet and bad thoughts and i have to choose either my family or my transition. that are not able to understand that a transition is possible and they think that is is impossible to become a person of opposite gender.

now i am in a state of depression. i can't bear a single minute of male identity in my life today. many often i think to commit suicide i don't know what to do. can you people tell me about what to do and how i can initiate my sex change ?

[Christine167]

Hym. Your situation sounds extra difficult. But you sound resolved on transitioning.

So to start your therapist sounds like a jerk if he told you that. Perhaps find a female therapist with experience with Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and try her instead. You need a guide to help you formulate a long term plan to transition from male to female. You will eventually also want/need some professional help to start hormone replacement therapy.

You will also find the wiki pages here full of useful information. There is a chat line and of course please post your questions no matter how silly you think the question is.

If you want we can help you outline the basics of a transition plan. But for now you need to cover supporting yourself and seeking out good professional help. Maybe even legal advice depending on how much control your family has over your life.

Lastly welcome to forums and to being a woman. Yeah I said it. It is possible and you can do it. Just be patient because you have plenty of time

[MaryXYX]

I'll say it again something like Christine said: find a psychiatrist who knows what they are doing.  You are depressed because you are a woman and have to live as a man.  The solution is obvious!

I'll also repeat "Welcome - you are among friends here".

[anjaq]

Yes, I think the key issue is to look for a psychologist experienced with gender issues in your area. If possible, check if there are support groups in your area or if not you may have to move to a bigger city for a while to get in connection with others and good psychiatrists. Many psychiatrists do not know transgender issues or have a bad opinion on "sex change". moving could also solve for a while some of the problems with parents as you would maybe not meet them that often, that is if they stay as uncooperative. If you have to rely on them financially that is of course not a good option. If you have a job and are financially independent, I would advise to not give a damn about anyone denying your feelings and go ahead exploring them. I have no clue about India and how things work out but TGs are everywhere, so I am sure there are groups and meetings somehwere in that country and there you can meet people and ask for gender issue friendly therapists.

[franie]

Ak->-bleeped-<-a,
Suicide is permanent solution to a temporary problem. The advice the ladies have given you is very good. We have all been through this same issue in one-way or another. Yes you can transition and be the person you want to be. We are all here for you ,so please keep asking questions.

[Flan]

The best bet would have probably been a university with a medical centre although you might need to poke Centre for Legal Aid and Rights because of the attitudes held by many practitioners in hospital. Another lead might be asking a surgeon (Dr. Anubhav Gupta?) for a referral to a psych who sent patients his way.

edit: http://www.drmaneeshgupta.com/ might be a hit