Ftm boyfriend really horny, wants sex with other people

[aleon515]

That quote has been echoed several times already, but I completely agree. I had a high sex drive before T, it shot up on T, and has never gone down (over 4 years later) and each person Ive been with, I have never had thoughts of wanting to be with someone else to satisfy my urges. If my libido is needing more than what my partner wants to give at the time, then masturbation solves it. For your boyfriends dysphoria to be what supposedly gets in the way of him being satisfied during masturbation, I have no idea how he thinks being with someone else, and having them touch his body, is not going to set it off.

   If I was with someone, and they were saying they wanted sex with other people because Im not enough, Id be offended. Im not saying at all that I need to be told Im amazing...that's not what I mean, but instead being with your partner, if you love them, they should feel more than enough. When I was with my ex, I couldn't get enough of her, even if I was still horny.
   And to be honest, after having been cheated on, I would then take that confession of wanting to have sex with others, as a pre warning and would consider leaving them, as harsh as that sounds. Id never want an open relationship and I think someone seriously wanting to be with others, would only lead to that type of heartache.

Although it's been said a number of times, I think it's useful to the OP so that they can see that most of us don't think much of this behavior. I also agree re: whether this is a reliable partner. He is basically saying to you that you aren't attractive to him anymore and that he wants a bunch of random stranger partners. I think it says a LOT more about his level of his maturity (very low) than you.

--Jay

[John Smith]

'He can't help himself' means he can't help but feel attraction toward other people. Insinuating that he'd do something bad when he hears the word no from a stranger he wants to knock boots with is creepy.

I certainly see your point, none of us "can help" our attractions. On that we definitely agree. I also think it is better to be honest about it when in a relationship. If I had a partner, I would not assume he was a bad person for saying he felt attracted to someone else. (Although I certainly wouldn't feel happy about it. >.> )

That said: As I read the op, the "can't help it" seems to be used as a reason (excuse) for needing to go through with sleeping with others. And if that is what the boyfriend in question implied, I stand by my statement. That signals a lack of self-control that could end up causing harm. But, as most of us seem to agree on - he's most likely using it as an excuse.

[anibioman]

When on T I was single and wanted to jump the bones of every attractive girl I knew but then my emotional feelings for this one girl became crazy and I was still attracted to other girls but I only wanted this girl. Now we are dating and when we started dating I was on T and was still sexually attracted to other people but I never did anything despite the opportunity. It was only ever momentary, my friend bent over in yoga pants, or a girl in short shorts on a ladder. I would be attracted to these individuals but I didn't want to have sex with them.

I think your boyfriend is feeling new sexual impulses and wants to experiment with them. That's on him not testosterone

[ajg92]

Thanks everyone, I'm just gonna see how it goes.

And to clarify, him "not being able to help it" was meaning he can't help being so horny and attracted to others and wanting sex with others.
He'd never do anything to hurt anyone.

[aleon515]

Thanks everyone, I'm just gonna see how it goes.

And to clarify, him "not being able to help it" was meaning he can't help being so horny and attracted to others and wanting sex with others.
He'd never do anything to hurt anyone.

Well I got that part. No, if you are on T chances are you are ridiculously horny, but it still doesn't mean he'd need to have sex with everybody. That's the part I am not buying. I think the association here with rape is this: not that we think he is doing that, but it proves that he has self-control.

--Jay

[Arch]

It didn't suddenly make me want to jump people like a rabid dog.

It sure did me. But I do have control over my own actions, so I didn't molest anyone.

[GentlemanRDP]

Well, I don't have another half,
But I can definitely relate to having the feeling of wanting to bone anyone and everyone.
I'm not sure if it would be considered 'common' though. It's an interesting question.