Intuition and "Feeling the vibe".

[Sephirah]

Hi, folks.

It's not too often I make threads here, since for the most part I don't have much of interest to say. However, something has been playing on my mind recently and I am starting to wonder if I'm alone in this (i.e slowly going round the twist), or if anyone else experiences something similar.

As the title suggests, I am a creature of emotion, and intuition. A lot of things I do, and say, come from an emotional basis. I tend to feel my way forward in life, rather than being one of life's great thinkers. One of the side effects of this, maybe, is that I tend to pick up certain... feelings from other people. I don't really know any other way to describe this. I don't know whether one would call it a vibe, or an aura, or... whether there's some other term for it. It's not even so much a feeling as a... snapshot of a person.

Hmm... I'm not doing a good job of explaining this. Okay... when I read the posts from people here, and listen to people IRL, I am starting to feel like I pick up varying degrees of... something. And this is the part I'm not sure about. I hesitate to call it a male or female energy, but that's the closest I can approximate it to. I don't know whether to call it masculine and feminine, or male and female. I cannot work out which it is. But it's definitely something along those lines. And having said that, there are people from whom I get a very distinct feeling of both, and neither.

The thing is, it has nothing to do with the contents of the posts, or even the way they're written. It's an intangible... something. Something which, were I to meet that person, I would say with certainty "This is a woman." or "This is a man", or "This is a non-binary gendered person". And the more I am exposed to this, the stronger it becomes.

I won't mention any names, but there are people here who portray those feelings to me in very strong terms. And those who do so to a lesser degree. I wonder if that's a sign of how strongly they embody themselves, or something else. I really don't know. I just find it interesting and wonder if I am losing my marbles, or if there are others who also pick up on this.

[ukftminneed]

maybe you've got some medium ness in you

[Darkie]

Even though I'm afraid to ask, what do you pick up from me?

[KabitTarah]

Me too I won't feel bad... I know I'm in my exploration, trying to figure out who I am as a woman.

I think there are tons of subconcious clues, from language used to body language. I also think lots of these will be androgynous or closer to our assigned gender - especially for those of us transitioning later in life.

[Amy The Bookworm]

Maybe you just have a heightened sense of empathy?

[Devlyn]

Count me in as wondering! Sometimes I read one of my posts and realize it sounds like Mike, not Devlyn

[KabitTarah]

Count me in as wondering! Sometimes I read one of my posts and realize it sounds like Mike, not Devlyn

Me too! I feel as though I write too technically. How do I fix that? I do try.

[Lo]

You're probably a empath.

Getting gendered energy from reading posts though? You sure you're just not making unconscious assumptions based on their writing style? Their pcture? ...their gender marker, lol?

When it comes to putting much of any stock in one's intuition I recommend they learn a few discernment techniques to rule out messages they might not want to be listening to.

[ukftminneed]

Count me in as wondering! Sometimes I read one of my posts and realize it sounds like Mike, not Devlyn

I like your new avatar  beautiful as always
I always read you as devlyn

[Robin Mack]

There is, in my opinion, definitely something to this.  I am an empath, to such a degree that I can feel the pain in other people as if it was my own if I am not careful to distance myself.

I can't explain this, physically.  There are a lot of explanations metaphysically, but not one so far that is reproducible in a controlled environment.  The closest I can get is that the subconscious can pick up on cues that the conscious does not, and can communicate these perceptions as feelings (according to some theories, the conscious mind is the analytical bit and the subconscious is the emotional bit... we're aware of our conscious thoughts and our subconscious tells us how we feel about them).  Highly intuitive people may just be more in touch with their subconscious.

I kind of think of it in terms of computers.  On a modern computer, the processor "thinks" on different levels; one level runs programs ("thinks" consciously), one level handles input and output ("senses" and "communicates"), and another, completely hidden from everything, monitors the processor itself so it can run more efficiently (monitors temperature, workload, etc).  These things all happen pretty much simultaneously.  The hidden layer doesn't communicate with the processing layer or the communication layer, but it can have a big effect on their performance.  This is kind of like the subconscious and conscious processes in the human brain.  At least, that's the best I can figure.

Hope that helps!  (and, by the way, my brain "felt" like my default mode expressing this... wondering though how that is perceived... )

[Sephirah]

Okay, I'm not going to tell you what I pick up from you all, lol. For one thing you might think I'm telling you what you want to hear, or you may be hurt by it, or something else. I'm just not going there.

I was just wondering if I'm the only one who picks up things like this. I hope not, or I might have to get a check up from the neck up, as it were.

Lo, you have a point. I may very well be doing that. I don't know. Occasionally, with some people, however, the gender marker, or avatar, and even writing style is at odds with the feelings I get. I really don't know. I'm sure there are plenty of things I don't want to be listening to, lol.

Robin, that's more what I was after. Whether there are others who feel somewhat similar. Maybe it is a subconscious thing. Maybe you're right. I just find it really interesting how much we're aware of without knowing why we're aware of it.

[Beth Andrea]

You're probably a empath.

Getting gendered energy from reading posts though? You sure you're just not making unconscious assumptions based on their writing style? Their pcture? ...their gender marker, lol?

When it comes to putting much of any stock in one's intuition I recommend they learn a few discernment techniques to rule out messages they might not want to be listening to.

^This^

The mind/soul is not tied to the Internet, though...somehow your eyes (reading the text) are connecting with the author on a different plane than we--our bodies--are on.

And yeah, learn to discern.

[KabitTarah]

Okay, I'm not going to tell you what I pick up from you all, lol. For one thing you might think I'm telling you what you want to hear, or you may be hurt by it, or something else. I'm just not going there.

I was just wondering if I'm the only one who picks up things like this. I hope not, or I might have to get a check up from the neck up, as it were.

Lo, you have a point. I may very well be doing that. I don't know. Occasionally, with some people, however, the gender marker, or avatar, and even writing style is at odds with the feelings I get. I really don't know. I'm sure there are plenty of things I don't want to be listening to, lol.

Robin, that's more what I was after. Whether there are others who feel somewhat similar. Maybe it is a subconscious thing. Maybe you're right. I just find it really interesting how much we're aware of without knowing why we're aware of it.

Awwww....

I think the subconscious cues we get are really interesting. They're there but they're subtle. I have a feeling some people might get different vibes from different people, too. Plus, most of us here are changing... hormones, conscious attempts to change, etc. Collectively we have a lot of flux and we probably also key off each other in our changes.

[Sephirah]

Honestly, I don't know.

It's confusing, to be honest. I tend to distance myself from a lot of things, mainly because it's easy to get overwhelmed by a multitude of emotion at once. It's like being hit by a freight train sometimes. I have no explanation for it, I really don't. For all I know, my mind is making connections from something I see, or saw at some point. Something I have long since forgotten about. I just find it interesting how pervasive these feelings are, and how certain they sometimes are.

[KabitTarah]

Honestly, I don't know.

It's confusing, to be honest. I tend to distance myself from a lot of things, mainly because it's easy to get overwhelmed by a multitude of emotion at once. It's like being hit by a freight train sometimes. I have no explanation for it, I really don't. For all I know, my mind is making connections from something I see, or saw at some point. Something I have long since forgotten about. I just find it interesting how pervasive these feelings are, and how certain they sometimes are.

I think you're very people focused. You often see certain individuals on Susan's or in real life and are able to connect various things they've written or said, and how they said them, and can connect those things to make an impression. You're very emotive and caring (clearly you  won't tell us our fortunes because you don't want to hurt us! ). It is a gift you have.

I've gotten more emotive and emotional since coming out. This is something I repressed completely before. I love it, and it probably pales next to the emotion you have!

[Robin Mack]

Honestly, I don't know.

It's confusing, to be honest. I tend to distance myself from a lot of things, mainly because it's easy to get overwhelmed by a multitude of emotion at once. It's like being hit by a freight train sometimes. I have no explanation for it, I really don't. For all I know, my mind is making connections from something I see, or saw at some point. Something I have long since forgotten about. I just find it interesting how pervasive these feelings are, and how certain they sometimes are.

Again, no scientific explanation, but learning two metaphysical techniques, namely "grounding" and "shielding" helped me.  I used to get completely overwhelmed in public spaces, particularly when the crowd had heightened emotions (such as at a concert or a parade).  Going into a Wal-mart could wreck my day, so much despair there.

In grounding, I learned to meditate, to focus on calming energy filling me from the ground up and washing anxiety and icky stuff away.  I got to where I could do that standing up and walking around.  Very handy (although not a cure-all)

In shielding I learned to visualize a barrier between me and the rest of the world, a "bubble" of sorts, fueled by the energy I gained from grounding.

The calming benefits of meditation *have* been scientifically documented, and have been verified to persist hours or even days after actively meditating, so at least that much has some scientific backing for those who need it.

From my personal experience, Sephira, these techniques can help.  I hope they help you... it sounds like you are like I was, an untrained, extremely sensitive empath in a world filled with a bewildering array of loud emotions/feelings.  Remember, you can also lower your shields at need, so you can retain your sensitivity.

*hugs*

-Robin

[Lexicon]

What a wonderful gift. 

I can't speak to how it must feel for you but I can certainly say your not losing it

I agree with some who've said it's an empathic gift, some of us have the ability to reach through the physical and sense the the emotional body of a person.  Emotional bodies don't have the same tangibility, they'll be more variant. 

Personally, I think it's pretty awesome

Not always the most "manageable" gift at times, but pretty incredible.

Lex

[Sephirah]

I think you're very people focused. You often see certain individuals on Susan's or in real life and are able to connect various things they've written or said, and how they said them, and can connect those things to make an impression. You're very emotive and caring (clearly you  won't tell us our fortunes because you don't want to hurt us! ). It is a gift you have.

I've gotten more emotive and emotional since coming out. This is something I repressed completely before. I love it, and it probably pales next to the emotion you have!

It's not so much that I don't want to hurt you, hon. It's just that I don't know where it comes from. Or how accurate it is. I could very well be so wide of the mark, and all this being in my head. I don't want to make any of you feel invalidated, or anything else, by saying something which comes from no other basis other than the way I feel.

I could just say what would make you feel good. And don't think that doesn't tempt me. But that's not who I am. I believe in honesty in all things. And I would rather say nothing than risk hurting anyone. I care about you all too much.

Besides, this may very well be complete hokum. I was just wondering whether this was an insanity unique to myself, lol.

It's really awesome that you're getting more in touch with your emotions. They unlock another side to life that is really worth exploring. Keep going! *hugs*

Again, no scientific explanation, but learning two metaphysical techniques, namely "grounding" and "shielding" helped me.  I used to get completely overwhelmed in public spaces, particularly when the crowd had heightened emotions (such as at a concert or a parade).  Going into a Wal-mart could wreck my day, so much despair there.

In grounding, I learned to meditate, to focus on calming energy filling me from the ground up and washing anxiety and icky stuff away.  I got to where I could do that standing up and walking around.  Very handy (although not a cure-all)

In shielding I learned to visualize a barrier between me and the rest of the world, a "bubble" of sorts, fueled by the energy I gained from grounding.

The calming benefits of meditation *have* been scientifically documented, and have been verified to persist hours or even days after actively meditating, so at least that much has some scientific backing for those who need it.

From my personal experience, Sephira, these techniques can help.  I hope they help you... it sounds like you are like I was, an untrained, extremely sensitive empath in a world filled with a bewildering array of loud emotions/feelings.  Remember, you can also lower your shields at need, so you can retain your sensitivity.

*hugs*

-Robin

I have heard about those techniques before, Robin. But didn't pay them much heed at the time. I may have to rethink that. Thank you very much for reminding me. *hugs*

What a wonderful gift. 

I can't speak to how it must feel for you but I can certainly say your not losing it

I agree with some who've said it's an empathic gift, some of us have the ability to reach through the physical and sense the the emotional body of a person.  Emotional bodies don't have the same tangibility, they'll be more variant. 

Personally, I think it's pretty awesome

Not always the most "manageable" gift at times, but pretty incredible.

Lex

Thank you, Lex. Sometimes it can be a blessing and a curse, dependant upon what you're dealing with. Sometimes there is so much pain here, it's harrowing. The depth of emotion on this site can sometimes be staggering in its scale.

That wasn't really the intent of this thread, but maybe that does have something to do with it. I don't know. I don't know what I am. Maybe just some dumb girl with her head in the clouds, lol.

(Okay, now you can all agree with that, haha).

[suzifrommd]

I was just wondering if I'm the only one who picks up things like this. I hope not, or I might have to get a check up from the neck up, as it were.

I do this. I receive emotional signals from people. I read posts and receive a female or male (or non-binary) vibe. I also get emotional signals from people in real life, some clues as to where they are feeling-wise. I can often predict the sort of thing they'll say or do.

I don't think there is anything supernatural at work. I think I just pick up on body language, inflection, word usage, general feeling behind what they're saying etc.

I should add that I'm not socially adept. I step on people's feelings without realizing it, often say the "wrong" thing, have no clue how to conduct myself in most group settings, and generally have trouble fitting in social except one-to-one. But despite all that, I do pick up vibes from people.

[Amelia Pond]

Sephirah,

I am very much the same the way that you described. Though I try to think with my brain, I tend to listen to my heart. Usually when I'm around people, I am very sensitive to their emotions and genderness, for lack of an actual word, that they exude. There's a bit more to it than that but I know what you mean.

Amy