My biggest hurdle in transition; what's yours?

[KabitTarah]

I change my answer. My absolute biggest hurdle is work.

[Christine167]

That must be extremely hard for you to go through, I'm really sorry to hear that . Just know you have those who love you here and will always be here for you. You aren't a bad person, you are finally becoming truly who you are!

Thank you Emma.

[Jenna Marie]

My biggest problem had to be fear - I'm scared of calling people on the phone and of making appointments, for goodness sake. I was terrified of losing everyone, of losing my job, of having to deal with doctors, of medication... I was basically scared to death for a year. On the other hand, I was fortunate enough that my wife handled all the finances, and we shelled out probably $28K for my entire transition.

(Francis Ann : Don't panic about GRS! Brassard is one of the more "conservative" surgeons when it comes to depth creation, and even he didn't have to resort to skin grafts until he had a woman who was less than 2" erect. It's truly amazing what they can do now, and it's NOT going to be as precise as "what length you have is your future depth," even though they talk about inversion and whatnot.)

[FrancisAnn]

My biggest problem had to be fear - I'm scared of calling people on the phone and of making appointments, for goodness sake. I was terrified of losing everyone, of losing my job, of having to deal with doctors, of medication... I was basically scared to death for a year. On the other hand, I was fortunate enough that my wife handled all the finances, and we shelled out probably $28K for my entire transition.

(Francis Ann : Don't panic about GRS! Brassard is one of the more "conservative" surgeons when it comes to depth creation, and even he didn't have to resort to skin grafts until he had a woman who was less than 2" erect. It's truly amazing what they can do now, and it's NOT going to be as precise as "what length you have is your future depth," even though they talk about inversion and whatnot.)

Jenna Marie, Thank you so much. I'm trying so hard to finally get on track & stay on track. I deserve to become a nice total woman. It has been so frustrating I could cry more if it would help. I feel so normal and happy as Francis however I just need so much physical changes. HRT feels great, my breasts are growing & my body is changing some.

Thank you so much about Dr. Brassard. I've been scared for years & years that I might make all these changes then be unable to enjoy normal sex with a man. That really has been the main point to stop me for most of my life. My little thing is small & I will be one happy girl the day I can actually have a normal type vagina & body.

Thank you again,

Francis Ann Burgett

[Megumi]

The biggest hurtle in my transition. I actually have thought a lot about that this week after finally coming out to my parents over the weekend.


It was me


Over the years I had built up so much irrational fears about coming out that I actually believed them as fact. It took me 14 years from the point that I knew what I was until just last weekend when I finally came out to address the mount Everest of fears that I had created in my mind about what my family would say when I came out. All of those fears that I had conjured up were proven to be 100% false, my parents were "ok" with everything or at least until I start presenting myself as female around them. Maybe it could have been from them seeing me become a shell of sadness as the years went on in my adulthood that helped them come to quick terms with what I had to tell them. But now I got that terrible sense of regret for not doing it many years ago and wondering how much different my life would be right now at this very moment if I had came out in my late teens instead of my late 20's as I'm on the verge of turning 30.