When should i start acting feminine

[Reena]

Hello Everyone I would just like to know when you came out of the closet and Knew that you wanted to be a female.  When did you start acting and dressing the other side.   I do dress at home but with no sexual intimacies.  I want to start my transition and act and dress as female around the clock.  I have seen my therapist and diagnosed with GID.  Now i am just curious were to go from here.  I have been offered a letter from therapists to take to my Doctor for HRT, and will start in August.  I have been thinking about finding a new job eventually, when the hormones start to do their part and when i will dress as the one i want to be.  Any help would be so appreciated,  and Thank you. You can answer on the forum or email me and i will answer if you require one.

Edit: Removed email address ~ Kate

[seldom]

You can start by changing your little symbol thingy to female.  (The reason why I say this is because the only people with the male symbol are transmen).
I also suggest you take down your email address unless you want spam, this part of the forum is public.

Everybody transitions differantly.  Some people choose to transition in boy mode...which means to continue to live like they do, let HRT do its work, and when they are not recognized as male anymore by anybody, start living full time. 

Others choose to live part time and gradually make the switch that way.

I am personally transitioning from genderqueer. 

It has to do with personal choice and prefrence, as well as where you are coming from.

The point being, is you know when the time is right, and how you choose to transition will be up to you.

(With that being said there is a right and wrong way to handle workplace issues.) 

There is also a big difference between living as a woman full time and acting feminine.  One is gender identity, the other is gender expression. Not all women really act all that feminine.  There is a continium of gender expression for women, just like there is for men. 

[mavieenrose]

Personally I didn't have a moment when I decided I wanted to be female, all my life I've taken it as read that I'm female, there was never any doubt about that.

However at age 22 I found the courage to face up to the world and start taking hormones.

Afterwards, it wasn't really me who decided the rest, but people around me.  Once I started getting quizzical looks and lots of 'Miss'es I just realised I had stepped over the line and my body image had become female.

A good example, was when I was still living as a male, was washing my hands in the public loos and a man who walked in had total shock on his face, apologised and ran out again.  When I walked out a few minutes later he was stood in front of the Gents and Ladies looking very confused...

With HRT and facial hair removal (if necessary) things just evolved naturally; I went from boyish male, to fairly androgynous, to tomboyish female, to female...  There was no real day in particular when I went from boy to girl, though once I'd stepped over to the female side I changed my name officially and told my boss to stop using my old name...

MVER XXX

[seldom]

Personally I didn't have a moment when I decided I wanted to be female, all my life I've taken it as read that I'm female, there was never any doubt about that.

However at age 22 I found the courage to face up to the world and start taking hormones.

Afterwards, it wasn't really me who decided the rest, but people around me.  Once I started getting quizzical looks and lots of 'Miss'es I just realised I had stepped over the line and my body image had become female.

A good example, was when I was still living as a male, was washing my hands in the public loos and a man who walked in had total shock on his face, apologised and ran out again.  When I walked out a few minutes later he was stood in front of the Gents and Ladies looking very confused...

With HRT and facial hair removal (if necessary) things just evolved naturally; I went from boyish male, to fairly androgynous, to tomboyish female, to female...  There was no real day in particular when I went from boy to girl.

MVER XXX

Thats really a perfect example of transitioning in "boy" mode (as its commonly refered to as). 

[mavieenrose]

Thats really a perfect example of transitioning in "boy" mode (as its commonly refered to as). 

I suppose it was a kind of boy-mode, though for a few months I was more realistically in a sexually ambiguous mode. 

Before I changed my name, I was already wearing makeup and female clothes everywhere, both at work and socially.

I did however reserve wearing a skirt for the day I decided my old name was dead.

MVER XXX

[Kate]

Hello Everyone I would just like to know when you came out of the closet and Knew that you wanted to be a female.  When did you start acting and dressing the other side.

I've always known I needed to be female, but it took 42 years to find the courage (aka "desperation"), information and resources to DO anything about it.

I started dressing more and more androgynously after a few months of HRT. After around 8-9 months, those little "incidents" others have mentioned started becoming awkward. I was still identifying myself to new people as my male name, which at that point created REALLY confused reactions from people. At that point, it just seemed appropriate and less awkward to present totally as a female and risk being read as a male, than keep pretending to be a male when apparently everyone was seeing a female.

I don't think I really changed the way I act much, though my wife insists my personality is very, very different. If anything, it's just that I feel happy, I feel FREE finally, and smile and laugh all the time now.

~Kate~