Hair probs

[kaylagirl0806]

 So I'm trying to get the courage up to get my hair done more femininely the next time I'm at my stylist. Any suggestions?
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[Jill F]

I initially just let mine grow long heavy metal style when I was 20-21.  The longer it is, the more options you will have until male pattern baldness sets in.  Then it gets complicated. That's what I got for waiting until I was 43 to transition.  Now I have to let the new hairs up top catch up with the rest for at least another year before I can have a really cute 'do.   Oh well, at least it looks like I won't be needing a transplant now, so I guess I did it just in time.

[kaylagirl0806]

What exactly is long heavy metal style?

[Jill F]

Seems I missed a comma.  Long, heavy metal style is how it should have read.

It was 1989-90- look at some of the metal bands from back in the day with the mullets having been grown back out.  Eventually the front caught up with the back and I let it grow for a couple of years after that.  My point was that the more you have to work with, the more options you have.

[kaylagirl0806]

Oh ok I understand now. Thanks for the advice
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[Christine167]

What exactly is long heavy metal style?

Long hair not especially styled in particular way. Worn by both men and women as a style.
I highly recommend it.

[kaylagirl0806]

 Thanks. Any other recommendations?

[Jill F]

Get your ears pierced in a professional studio, not by some hack at the mall.

[kaylagirl0806]

I have seriously thought about that one Jill but I'm not sure what my parents would say

[Jill F]

When you turn 18... 

[kaylagirl0806]

Now you've got me wishing. Sigh

[Lyric]

We can't really make much more than the most general suggestions without seeing your hair or at least having a description of it. Short hairstyles obviously tend to look more manish on males, even if the cut looks great on a woman. If you don't have long hair, start letting it grow. Parents and others always give boys a hard time about this, but if you keep the ends trimmed, use good conditioners and style it well it will be easier to accept. Your best bet is probably to talk to a hairdresser and confess that you want to look more like a girl. The right hairdresser will enjoy the challenge and help you with this. Just don't get talked into a high maintenance style that requires coming in often. One advantage to long girlier styles is you can sometimes go a couple of months or more without having anything cut or done.

~ Lyric ~

[kaylagirl0806]

My hair looks like [http://annesomm.blogspot.com/2013/09/short-mens-hairstyles-selection-of.html] It's the bottom picture

[Lyric]

Then you basically don't have hair right now. Even the Mily Cyrus look would be challenging at this point. My advice is just to stop getting haircuts. Smooth it back or use headbands until it's a long style (like chin length). Longer is better if you want a feminine look.

[Beth Andrea]

So I'm trying to get the courage up to get my hair done more femininely the next time I'm at my stylist. Any suggestions?
Kisses

Just tell her this, like you're talking to one of us.

"What kind of cut do you want?"

"I want something that is a bit more...feminine. I'm tired of guy haircuts."

She'll help you out.

[Lesley_Roberta]

Only one truth with hair for people born in male forms.

Baldness. Most lose the choice eventually. If you are 20, enjoy it while you can.

Because most of us 40+ already have no options to grow it

My mother is kinda sparse for hair these days, and it needs to be curled just so to have any real ability to cover. She likely could due with a wig as much as me.

I wear a wig, and it looks like my actual hair. Only people that know I am actually really balding are not being fooled.

My friend Sierra though, damn her hair looks gorgeous. Makes all the difference. Cut like a woman, she truly doesn't look at all male.

If your stylist is aware you are TG, just tell her, you want her to do your hair properly and ask her for suggestions.

I took in my wig, told her can you adjust this, and let her use her expert opinion. When she asked my thoughts, I told her, 'I don't even know what will look right'. I simply told her, I wanted her to just do the right thing.

[Ltl89]

Well, there are plenty of styles.  Any idea of what you are going for?  Feminine hair is a bit vauge because it can be styled in many ways.  What's important is that you find something you like and that it suits your face.  Play around and experiment with it.  Eventually you'll find what you like.  In the meantime, grow it out and allow yourself some room to play with it.  Have fun!

[Alainaluvsu]

Without knowing what you look like, it's impossible to tell you what'd look good on you. Any stylist will tell you that.

If you look nowhere near feminine and your hair looks like in that picture, there's absolutely nothing that can be done with your hair but grow it out. There's no cut that's going to make it grow out all cute and feminine either. You've just gotta grow it out and leave it alone for at least 6-8 months.

[Jennygirl]

Either don't get it cut, or let the stylist know that you have EVERY intent of growing every strand of it out and just want a very slight trim / shape. Otherwise, you'll likely be shorn on the sides and given a male looking haircut.

At any point if you come across a stylist that you really like, I would consider coming out to them so they know to transition you slowly from male -> andro -> female. Seriously, my stylist was one of the first people I came out to and I'm glad I did. It made the whole process easier. When I started going to him 4 years ago, my hair was only down to back of my head. Then about a year ago it was halfway down my neck in the very back, and I told him I was going to transition. He started subtly adding a few layers here and there, then one day I was suddenly full time! Okay going full time wasn't all THAT easy but you catch my drift with the hair

[kaylagirl0806]

Thank you for the suggestions Jenny and Alaina! I'm not sure I could come out to my stylist though. I always get too nervous. The closest I've got to asking for something more feminine was when last year I asked if I could start growing my bangs out and have them be wavy to one side of my face.
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