I'm in a rather complex situation and I'm looking for advice. I am a divorced trans-man and my ex-husband pays $50 a week toward child support. I'm assuming that changing my name/gender is going to affect the situation with him, although I don't know how. He has no intention of taking the kids from me, so that's not my worry, but will the /state/ try to? Also, my ex has no problem with me transitioning. One thing he always was is open-minded, but he's concerned about what will happen as far as child support goes? I'm leery of telling too many government agencies about my transition for fear of them taking the kids, but I can only assume the child support people would need to know, right? At least as far as the name goes, since I'll have to change my name on the bank account the money is deposited into.
While I'm on the subject of name/gender marker changes, in what order should I change those things in my various records? The people I assume I need to change my name/gender with are the probate court, social security, driver's license, birth certificate, bank, Masshealth and child support. I'm guessing it would be easier on at least some of those to change both at the same time, too. Can anyone give me a step-by-step?
