The worst thing about being transsexual?

[asiangurliee]

The worst thing about being a transsexual is that I can't have my own bio children and the sex organ will never be *natural*.

[HelenW]

Out of all the junk I've been handed in my life as a trans person I think the worst part of it has been the abject fear of being found out and having god knows what done to me because of it.

It kills me to see spouse inheriting that fear and I suppose it's unavoidable.

We'll get through.

hugs & smiles
Emelye

[Butterfly]

Not being able to pass despite how hard you try.  Having to subject yourself to painful, emotionally wrenching surgeries like FFS to live a normal life as a woman.

[Berliegh]

Not being able to pass despite how hard you try.  Having to subject yourself to painful, emotionally wrenching surgeries like FFS to live a normal life as a woman.

I'm very surprised Butterfly, you look like Shania Twain to me and very passable...

[Butterfly]

Not being able to pass despite how hard you try.  Having to subject yourself to painful, emotionally wrenching surgeries like FFS to live a normal life as a woman.

I'm very surprised Butterfly, you look like Shania Twain to me and very passable...

Thank you kindly Berliegh but I was talking about my experience before FFS.  I had FFS a few years ago in the States and my avatar pic is post-FFS.

[ssindysmith]

Not being able to say "when I was a little girl I would....... "

[rhonda13000]

Not being able to pass despite how hard you try.  Having to subject yourself to painful, emotionally wrenching surgeries like FFS to live a normal life as a woman.

[pondering, remembering but not necessarily wanting to remember.....]

I've had many surgeries................they have been non-events [pain-wise], they have been the least painful part of my transition......

Nothing compares to the psycho-emotional pain which has characterized the near entirety of my transition [and life].......

[ellen b]

Is Nero doing a research paper or something?

[Lin]

Not being able to say "when I was a little girl I would....... "

The worst thing is we missed the history as a girl, and the time we lost would never come back... As it is said "Women should do the proper thing in the proper age". For example, falling in love for the first time as a young girl, getting marry in a proper age, having baby, becoming a mom in the proper time as many other normal women do, and building up one's career in a younger age... We missed all these things and lost too much time... I often say I've been too old, and my friends often answer me you're still so young, but how can they know I had to spend almost all my life so far for finally getting back myself to become a 100% woman... however, a lot of time has gone and will never come back... Moreover, if you decide to live in stealth, you have to cut all your past relationship and lose all your past friends... and finally the feeling is like kind of a person without history...

[Sophia]

The worst thing to me is the complete lack of acceptance. I can fix the pain of having the wrong body with surgery and hormones. I can make new memories as a woman to make up for the things I missed before.

But there will always be people who will decide I'm not a woman or try to persecute me because of my transition, leaving me in fear to share something that shouldn't be an issue with people.

My transsexuality is something that should give me immense insight in the ways male-bodied and female-bodied people are treated and how that affects them. Yet I need to hide that knowledge half the time because people would try to hurt me for being a transsexual.

That just sickens me.

[Christine Eryn]

Mental and emotional pain. Stuff like electrolosys is easy compared to looking in the mirror and seeing a reflection you hate. 

[katia]

I was talking about my experience before FFS.  I had FFS a few years ago in the States and my avatar pic is post-FFS.

i'm glad those hard times are over for you butterfly.  you look terrific on your pic.

Posted on: July 05, 2007, 02:51:44 AM

Nothing compares to the psycho-emotional pain which has characterized the near entirety of my transition [and life].......

all of us have gone through our own ordeal rhonda.  times are getting better though.

[Fer]

Puberty without question.

[Fae]

The worst thing to me is the complete lack of acceptance. I can fix the pain of having the wrong body with surgery and hormones. I can make new memories as a woman to make up for the things I missed before.

But there will always be people who will decide I'm not a woman or try to persecute me because of my transition, leaving me in fear to share something that shouldn't be an issue with people.

My transsexuality is something that should give me immense insight in the ways male-bodied and female-bodied people are treated and how that affects them. Yet I need to hide that knowledge half the time because people would try to hurt me for being a transsexual.

That just sickens me.

Put another way Sophia, The meer fact that the patriarchal society doesn't understand us because of the long-standing binary gender system that has been used to persecute us for being ourselves - by using the tools of fear, hate, social ostrasization, and threat of violence against transpeople. 

For me, the worst part of being trans is that I've had to hide for too long because of said society...I would have liked to transition in high school if I had the support and knowledge I have now.

[Sophia]

Put another way Sophia, The meer fact that the patriarchal society doesn't understand us because of the long-standing binary gender system that has been used to persecute us for being ourselves - by using the tools of fear, hate, social ostrasization, and threat of violence against transpeople. 

That's a way more concise version of what I was trying to say. You put it perfectly.

For me, the worst part of being trans is that I've had to hide for too long because of said society...I would have liked to transition in high school if I had the support and knowledge I have now.

I was in so much denial in high school. I was also a near fundamentalist Christian there too.

[Yvonne]

The suffering of my family.

[Maud]

Other people's assumptions.

[Fae]

Put another way Sophia, The meer fact that the patriarchal society doesn't understand us because of the long-standing binary gender system that has been used to persecute us for being ourselves - by using the tools of fear, hate, social ostrasization, and threat of violence against transpeople. 

That's a way more concise version of what I was trying to say. You put it perfectly.

*beams* 

For me, the worst part of being trans is that I've had to hide for too long because of said society...I would have liked to transition in high school if I had the support and knowledge I have now.

I was in so much denial in high school. I was also a near fundamentalist Christian there too.

Me too!  Were you part of a youth group in HS?  I was, and I hardly talk to the christian friends I had then.

[rhonda13000]

I was talking about my experience before FFS.  I had FFS a few years ago in the States and my avatar pic is post-FFS.

i'm glad those hard times are over for you butterfly.  you look terrific on your pic.

Posted on: July 05, 2007, 02:51:44 AM

Nothing compares to the psycho-emotional pain which has characterized the near entirety of my transition [and life].......

all of us have gone through our own ordeal rhonda.  times are getting better though.

[startled...]

   how sweet of you to say that.

[Jonie]

I am post-op and live in a liberal town that is generally very tolerant of people different than themselves but still when I go outside I never know when I'll be put down for who I am. When this happens it feels like all the wind being sucked out of my sails, and I go through life wondering when it will happen again. So I would have to say that the worst thing now are those people who are just looking for ways to make others feel bad about themselves. They make it clear that they think I'm subhuman which makes me wonder if I travel outside of this liberal town how bad will it get.