How can I help my cisgender friend understand me being trans

[Shaina]

I think The Gender Book(let) is great. Its comprehensive and has illustrations. It might be a fun way to bring up the subject if you don't want to seem very serious on your outing together.

http://www.thegenderbook.com/

Maybe you can print it out if you like it, and use it in combination with the suggestions above.

Love this! Never heard of it before now!

[Jack_M]

I get what your saying, That's what I do with everyone just explain it and leave it at that, If someone knew you as female though you can't just say your male with getting funny looks, But I do get it

Honestly bro, I get your struggle.  I hope everything goes well and you hit us back to let us know how it went.

Another thing worth pointing out, if they ask you questions, you're not an exception to inappropriate questions.  Our private parts are private, and not something that's appropriate to talk or ask about.  For whatever reason I find it exceedingly common for people to not think these questions through and thus don't think they're inappropriate.  Asking outright about surgeries or private parts is a no-no.  Don't feel awkward or reluctant to point out if something inappropriate if asked and that it's not something you want to talk about.  There's ways to keep it light if you're worried about it being too stand-offish.  If they ask about bottom surgery for example, you can come back with, "How's your vagina?"  They'll likely be more embarrassed than you were at their question and you can just chuckle and say, "Yeah, maybe it's best if we don't talk about private parts, eh?"  Lol.

[Brandon]

Lol thats funny I will definately let you guys know though

[Shantel]

Honestly bro, I get your struggle.  I hope everything goes well and you hit us back to let us know how it went.

Another thing worth pointing out, if they ask you questions, you're not an exception to inappropriate questions.  Our private parts are private, and not something that's appropriate to talk or ask about.  For whatever reason I find it exceedingly common for people to not think these questions through and thus don't think they're inappropriate.  Asking outright about surgeries or private parts is a no-no.  Don't feel awkward or reluctant to point out if something inappropriate if asked and that it's not something you want to talk about.  There's ways to keep it light if you're worried about it being too stand-offish.  If they ask about bottom surgery for example, you can come back with, "How's your vagina?"  They'll likely be more embarrassed than you were at their question and you can just chuckle and say, "Yeah, maybe it's best if we don't talk about private parts, eh?"  Lol.

Great advice for everyone, thanks Jack!

[Danielle Emmalee]

Honestly bro, I get your struggle.  I hope everything goes well and you hit us back to let us know how it went.

Another thing worth pointing out, if they ask you questions, you're not an exception to inappropriate questions.  Our private parts are private, and not something that's appropriate to talk or ask about.  For whatever reason I find it exceedingly common for people to not think these questions through and thus don't think they're inappropriate.  Asking outright about surgeries or private parts is a no-no.  Don't feel awkward or reluctant to point out if something inappropriate if asked and that it's not something you want to talk about.  There's ways to keep it light if you're worried about it being too stand-offish.  If they ask about bottom surgery for example, you can come back with, "How's your vagina?"  They'll likely be more embarrassed than you were at their question and you can just chuckle and say, "Yeah, maybe it's best if we don't talk about private parts, eh?"  Lol.

Just don't be too surprised if you come across someone who's perfectly comfortable discussing their own genitals with you!

[aleon515]

Just don't be too surprised if you come across someone who's perfectly comfortable discussing their own genitals with you!

Esp at HIS age. He's a young guy. I took a look at that gender book. Looks really good. Might get one for my sister (I'm not a young guy, but I think it does a good job).

--Jay