I'm new and in love. (Intro)

[Blizzardstorm]

I guess I should stop lurking and start getting to explaining what's going on.
I've fallen in love with a lovely girl (Let's call her X, for now.) in the past few months. We hit it off quite well off the bat, even if our relationship is a long distance one. We talk to each other as much as we can and within about the first month of knowing X, she told me that she was a pre-op MtF. I was a little surprised at first, as would anyone, but whilst we've been together, she's taught me a few things and introduced me to this site too. It has been a little rocky at some points but I'm still trying to understand her needs.

Which sort of leads me to a question, or rather, a little worry of mine. I'd say I am a straight guy and I'm sort of worried that I can't be too intimate with X because currently they are pre-op. I love her and am willing to try my best, but I'm afraid I may not feel comfortable when we kiss for example. I'll need to see how this turns out when we finally meet, but it is a worrying thought that lingers a little. This sort of goes for a little later in life too, when we decide to have sex.

Other than that, I think I'm a loyal and loving boyfriend to her and I like to check up on her frequently to see if she is alright. We try and talk as much as we can and I'm even planning a nice Christmas surprise for her.

Well, I can't think of much else to add, had to think hard about how to write all this, it being a whole new experience and all.

Thanks for reading.

[Gabrielle]

Blizzard, my friend, you are a good person.

You have looked beyond the exterior and into her heart.  And at the same time, you have expanded your own ability to love and learn.

I wish there were more people like you in the world.

[Gina Taylor]

Not a problem. I've been in the same situation as you are. You're worried about the fact that when you met her, is she going to be all that you expected. Have you seen any pictures of her yet? How far is she in her transition?

I was involved with a pre-op MTF six years ago, and like yourself, she lived far away as well. She was nice enough to drive three days to come and see me and we spent a week together, now my sexual orientation is not homosexual and I'm sure that yours is neither and when kissing it was just like kissing a woman. Now as for the sex, once your girlfriend has her SRS, it will be better, but right now you're just going to have to be patient with her.

I hope this helps. 

[Blizzardstorm]

Blizzard, my friend, you are a good person.

You have looked beyond the exterior and into her heart.  And at the same time, you have expanded your own ability to love and learn.

I wish there were more people like you in the world.

Thanks Gabrielle, I try to keep an open mind as best I can. I feel like I have grown to be more understanding, but like everyone, I still have more to learn. heh.

[Blizzardstorm]

Have you seen any pictures of her yet? How far is she in her transition?

I've seen a couple of pictures, She's not been able to get very far into her transition sadly. She's not on HRT (I think that is correct) yet, but that is the next big stage, I think.

Also thank you for the advice. It's good to know others have had a similar experience. It's tough, but I love her lots. <3

[Gina Taylor]

Blizzard, my friend, you are a good person.

You have looked beyond the exterior and into her heart.  And at the same time, you have expanded your own ability to love and learn.

I wish there were more people like you in the world.

I agree with Gabrielle. You are a good person. Like yourself, my girlfiend was only on HRT for a few months and was hardly showing any signs of development, but I loved her for who she was and not who she was becoming. It's amazing how we can simply fall in love with a voice over the phone.  I spoke with my girlfriend for alomst three months before I met her, but due to circumstances, later on we had to go our seperate ways. 

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[Shantel]

Hi Blizzard,
       You're sure welcome here my friend, you are a special person in my estimation because you have transcended beyond all the old stereotypical fears and phobias, cut through the BS and have fallen in love with another human being who loves you back. How very natural and beautiful, you have my support Mister! 

[Gina Taylor]

Hi Blizzard,
       You're sure welcome here my friend, you are a special person in my estimation because you have transcended beyond all the old stereotypical fears and phobias, cut through the BS and have fallen in love with another human being who loves you back. How very natural and beautiful, you have my support Mister! 

You have my full support as well. 

[blueconstancy]

I'd say that worrying about what's in her pants when you kiss is getting a bit ahead of yourself. Plenty of trans women don't want to use or acknowledge their pre-op bits; there's nothing wrong with you not wanting to handle them, but it's an assumption that she'd even *want* you to. There's plenty you can do (says someone whose wife was pre-op for three years) that keep those concealed while allowing for lots of mutual fun. You may want to talk to her directly about your concerns - phrased politely, of course, but in the sense of "would it be OK if I didn't do X/do you want me to Y" etc.

Of course, my advice for relationships facing transition in general is to communicate as much as possible...

[Shaina]

Hi Blizzard,
       You're sure welcome here my friend, you are a special person in my estimation because you have transcended beyond all the old stereotypical fears and phobias, cut through the BS and have fallen in love with another human being who loves you back. How very natural and beautiful, you have my support Mister! 

I agree with everything Shantel said. Good luck to you and your special lady Blizzard, I hope you're able to get past your reservations.
Along the way, I hope Susans can be a helpful resource to you. 

::HUGS::

[Shantel]

I agree with everything Shantel said. Good luck to you and your special lady Blizzard, I hope you're able to get past your reservations.
Along the way, I hope Susans can be a helpful resource to you. 

::HUGS::

My comment applies to you too honey girl!