Height/Size Dysphoria is Getting to me Again

[Brandon]

Another think that helps me is that I'm the same size as Harry Potter! Who's gonna tell me that's too short

Lol that's true

[aleon515]

Yea... Not that young If you look at how fast time is going Ill be an adult here soon, What's wrong with my oppinion, I just don't wanna date a woman whoes taller than me call me shallow or whatever you want

Old fashioned, Brandon, not shallow. I understand re: attraction and intimidation, but love is blind and all that. And you just might be overlooking a wonderful person, human being with whom you might share a lot of interests and so on. Plus if you are quite short (I mean shorter than many women) you will limit the number of potential gfs and very fun people you could be with. I'm 5'1" and if I limited myself to someone say 5'3" or something, that wouldn't be very many people I could potential enjoy.

--Jay

[AdamMLP]

I wasn't calling you shallow either, I just have a dislike of people making blanket statements on here when they're not true, and can lead to other people feeling more troubled by their situation than they were before. Your opinion is yours, and we all know we can't change that, but if you're sharing it, tell people it's only your opinion. It's the same thing when people say that gay men will never be interested in us, theres plenty of people who have found otherwise. Pessimistic blanket statements do no one any good, especially on a support forum.

[aleon515]

I wasn't calling you shallow either, I just have a dislike of people making blanket statements on here when they're not true, and can lead to other people feeling more troubled by their situation than they were before. Your opinion is yours, and we all know we can't change that, but if you're sharing it, tell people it's only your opinion. It's the same thing when people say that gay men will never be interested in us, theres plenty of people who have found otherwise. Pessimistic blanket statements do no one any good, especially on a support forum.

True! I doesn't bother me, but some people take these things seriously. He can do what he wants, obviously. But happy to have my gf who is 5'10" as she's awesome. Might wish that I could reverse our sizes. Since she's a trans woman, I'm sure she has many problems with her height.

--Jay

[Brandon]

Old fashioned, Brandon, not shallow. I understand re: attraction and intimidation, but love is blind and all that. And you just might be overlooking a wonderful person, human being with whom you might share a lot of interests and so on. Plus if you are quite short (I mean shorter than many women) you will limit the number of potential gfs and very fun people you could be with. I'm 5'1" and if I limited myself to someone say 5'3" or something, that wouldn't be very many people I could potential enjoy.

--Jay

I wouldn't call it limiting myself because most women are fairely short,  I mean I feel very intimidated by taller women the ones Ive been around are shorter than me though but I understand what your saying but everyone has a preference

[Brandon]

I wasn't calling you shallow either, I just have a dislike of people making blanket statements on here when they're not true, and can lead to other people feeling more troubled by their situation than they were before. Your opinion is yours, and we all know we can't change that, but if you're sharing it, tell people it's only your opinion. It's the same thing when people say that gay men will never be interested in us, theres plenty of people who have found otherwise. Pessimistic blanket statements do no one any good, especially on a support forum.

Well I mean everyone has a preference I dislike my height just as much as the next guy, In my case straight women, But even cismen are intimidated by it, Attractions are Attractions thats how I see,

[aleon515]

Well I mean everyone has a preference I dislike my height just as much as the next guy, In my case straight women, But even cismen are intimidated by it, Attractions are Attractions thats how I see,

That way of putting it makes a lot more sense. My comments were about when you said basically that it doesn't look good.

--Jay

[thatboyfresh]

I wouldn't call it limiting myself because most women are fairely short,  I mean I feel very intimidated by taller women the ones Ive been around are shorter than me though but I understand what your saying but everyone has a preference

WHO THE HECK told you that most woman are fairly short. Woman just like men come in all kinds of shapes sizes . The average height of Females from the Netherlands is 5"7 which is higher then the average height then males in 25 other countries.  I understand that everyone has their own opinions and I respect that but please think before you make your blanket statements about people and learn that there are more then a billion people all over the world. You can't speak for anyone but yourself so please stop.

[Brandon]

WHO THE HECK told you that most woman are fairly short. Woman just like men come in all kinds of shapes sizes . The average height of Females from the Netherlands is 5"7 which is higher then the average height then males in 25 other countries.  I understand that everyone has their own opinions and I respect that but please think before you make your blanket statements about people and learn that there are more then a billion people all over the world. You can't speak for anyone but yourself so please stop.

Most of the women Ive been around, Don't assume please

[thatboyfresh]

Most of the women Ive been around, Don't assume please

I'm not assuming anything . That's why I said THINK  before you post. You said "I wouldn't call it limiting myself because most women are fairely short"

Think before you post please.

[Brandon]

I'm not assuming anything . That's why I said THINK  before you post. You said "I wouldn't call it limiting myself because most women are fairely short"

Think before you post please.

Again I said the women I have been around are short,

[AdamMLP]

Most women I'm around in the UK outside of my family aren't short.

I did have a lecturer for the past two days who was probably at most, an inch taller than me. He definitely had a bad case wee man syndrome but there was no doubting that he was male.

[aleon515]

I am shorter than a lot of gals I know. Of course not than most trans gals, but that stands to reason.

--Jay

[Brandon]

Again I'm intimidated by it honestly but if you in that situation then fine I'm taller than most  Of my friends who are girls

[chuck]

Again I'm intimidated by it honestly but if you in that situation then fine I'm taller than most  Of my friends who are girls

Brandon - I sent you private message three months ago about your writing and you dismissed it, called me 'rude' and wrote (and I do quote) "Um you do realize I'm on my phone and sometimes I might just use he wrong their, When I'm writing on paper it's different I do know how to spell". 

Now, I would like to point out that the post above is quite difficult to understand. While you might think it's fine, you are basically asking everyone who reads your post to spend extra time decoding it because you do not choose to use punctuation. Consider the following:

I am helping my uncle jack off a horse.
I am helping my uncle, Jack, off a horse.

I think there are a ton of funny examples like this online. Something about a catastrophe vs a
cat ass trophy. 

Here are some helpful tips. I mean this with genuine and heartfelt kindness. I was an English teacher for 7 years.  No, my grammar/spelling/punctuation is not always perfect, but I do make it a point to edit my posts when I notice my laziness has made it difficult to understand.

They're - They are.       I see the lions. They're going to eat my face if I am not careful.
Their  - Plural possession.    Those two girls are my friends, and their father is with them.
There - Shows location (sometimes an abstract location) There are many ways to be eaten by a lion.

You - Refers to a person. You need find a new place to live.
You're - You are - You're a good friend. 
Your - shows possession - That is your opinion. 

I would also suggest checking out some rules about comma usage. Those are admittedly tricky.


If other people think I am being a jerk, let me reiterate that I sent a private message to brandon back when he started posting here, and his response was dismissive. I would rather one of us help him out rather than some one online who will tear his argument apart by attacking his lack of English mechanics.