It sounds like you may be going through a crisis of faith, as well. Have you preached tolerance to your congregation? Have you taught them to love their brother (or sister) as themselves?
I taught my daughters to do this, long before I was able to admit to myself I was transgendered. I taught them about GLBTQ issues, the problems faced in society... I taught them to be compassionate, because we are all humans, when it comes down to it. We are in this life together, for better or for worse, and it's our job as people to make the world better and more accepting for those who come after us. When I came out to them, they had no issues with it, despite my agonizing over their potential rejection of me.
I would be lying to you if I told you I was a Christian, but I was raised as a Christian. I'm not certain your church is a Christian church or a Muslim church or what... but for the sake of argument I will default to Christian. If I came to you and told you that I had a burden that was too big for me to bear, that I feared would break me, what would you do?
There is a wonderful verse that is very applicable to your situation that comes to mind... I can't give you the book or the chapter, and it's probably misquoted since it has been a long time since I memorized it, but it goes like this, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding".
If you interpret it like I do, it is a very powerful verse. "Have faith that you are the way you are for a reason and don't second guess the plan for your life" would be the generic way I would translate it into a more generic (non-specifically religious) way. You are who you are because you were created this way. There is a plan for you. Do what you must, follow the path before you, and have faith that there is a good reason for it.
*hug*
I suspect you will find a lot of the intolerance you fear will turn out to be much stronger in your mind than in real life.
